My husband and I used to work in two different countries for four years and saw each other once a year or even longer. During this period, I happened to know a guy who probably had a crush on me at the first sight. After he told me that I just let him know I was married. He gave up. But because of our work we had to see each other very often. The feelings were still there when he talked to me and stared at me. I began to like him back. I didn't want to ruin the life of three people. I tried my best to hide my feelings and avoid any contact with him. Maybe sometimes I was rude to him. Later he quitted the job and moved to another city. I left too. Since then we've had no contact.
I thought everything would be ok when living with my husband. But actually that's not right. It's been almost 2 years and I am still thinking about him. I hate myself.
2007-01-10 14:05:53 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
thank you. I love my husband and he loves me too. I don't want to tell him maybe this will make him disappointed with me. Perhaps I just need more time.
2007-01-10 14:19:25 · update #1
I think several of your emotions are tied together and you are confused about what you are feeling. This guy was around all the time when you were apart from your husband and reminded you that it is so much better to be near the one you love. He made you feel attractive and you developed feelings for him. Now that you are with your husband and this other man is not around you see all the flaws your husband has, all the areas of your relationship that need work, the negative aspects of your marriage and you look at this guy as ideal. Work on your marriage.
2007-01-10 14:17:07 · answer #1 · answered by BLANK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, my heart goes out to you. You did the RIGHT thing before, and I think if you put your mind to it and try to put this guy out of your mind, you will have chance with your husband. Another option is to be open with your husband, tell him the truth. You absolutely did the right thing, but you still think of this guy. Maybe you should figure out, maybe with your husband, why you think about him. This is hard, i agree with you, many people involved and I think you need to figure out how you really feel Good luck
2007-01-10 22:15:25 · answer #2 · answered by kattsmeow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some therapy to get over it. It may be the forbidden fruit that is making you want him more.
2007-01-10 22:19:52 · answer #3 · answered by sherockstn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋