long friendship in tears?

Question

being like sisters for over 10 years. she was going to rough times and bailed her out borrowing some money. well we never said it was a loan, I mean we never discussed the terms or anything, at that time I just wanna to help her. after the loan thing she vanished. tried to call/email and she said that she was involved in this relationship and was too busy. then I asked her about my money and she said it was never a loan (??) and got even very mad at me for trying to collect the money. my heart was broken. then a friend of mine said she would tell the guy my friend was dating and tell him the kind of friend that she was. they guy dumped my friend in a sec. the obvious happened, she got REALLY BUT VERY UPSET and now the money is gone and the friendship too.......I am still heart broken and not that worried about the money anymore

Answer 1

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Answer 2

I'm afraid you have to bite the bullet & accept that the money won't be returned and the friendship is gone. You should either make sure something is in writing or VERY CLEARLY stated before loaning money or give it with the notion it will not be repaid - if it does, it's a blessing. If your friend is not conscientious enough to be stressing about making sure she repays you, then she is not a good friend to have. I know we all have the urge to tell everyone how upset we are, but this is really between you and this 1 friend and should not involve others. I've loaned money to lesser friends without seeing a dime and the only thing that will happen is you getting an ulcer or something. Take it as a life lesson, forgive yourself, and learn. Good luck!

Answer 3

That is really sad. It is good that you gave her the money but you had the right to ask for it back. Next time make sure that there are specific rules set up for the money. Like when it needs to be paid back IF it needs to be paid back. Hopefully you two will be able to be friends again. You never know what time has in store for you. I hope all goes well.

Answer 4

She's obviously not a real friend if she takes money from you, not willing to return it when you want it, and puts a guy before your friendship. I think you should just forget about the whole thing. If you really want the money back then sue her, or just drop it. Good luck.

Answer 5

If you guys were really that close of friends she will come back. I have been thro that type of thing before. My friend and i stopped talking for a week then one day she called me so I'm pretty sure your friend will do the same cause you can't find many true friends in this world.

Answer 6

I don't think you have a question here, but it looks like you learned a lesson. Don't ever lend money to family OR friends. If you want to help someone out financially consider it a gift or offer to help in another way.

Answer 7

if she was a real friend she would of gave i back the money and she wouldnt of treated you like that and said she was to busy to tlk 2 u if u were that close she would of told u about it

Answer 8

sorry but if your friendship is not at all important to her then just let it go.And learn from your mistake don't lend money to friends or family without a ageement in writing.setting up a payback plan'.

Answer 9

oh well just wait till she's over the guy she was dating and then if she's a good friend and she really loved you then she'll come back herself..

dont think much about it..
i know its hard you'll eventually move on =)

Answer 10

If you can't change her mind, try to move on. Be the strong one, and always be there for the possibility of her coming back to you. Maybe you should try to get over your ex.

Answer 11

Call Judge Judy. Also, as the old saying goes, you soon know who you're real friends are.