I have this friend, shes in the 8th grade and she likes to hang out with a really bad crowd. She claims we're best friends and all, but recently she let this older guy touch her inappropriately TWICE! Do you think I should let her go as a friend, Help her out, or I don't know what else. I really don't want to be put in the same category as hoochy with her. I just can't look at her the same since she told me about the incident with her and this guy. Anyways, I really need help on this one. It's eating me up inside. Oh and btw my mom can't stand her! She thinks shes trashy and that shes too involved with guys...but my mom doesn't know about the old guy. Oh and my friend also has told me about making out with one of my other friend's boyfriend.
2007-01-10 13:48:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Talk to your friend. Don't just abandon her. Let her know you are concerned about her, and try to keep her out of trouble. But, that being said, everyone is their own person, so you can't keep her from doing things she wants to do. As long as she doesn't do anything that effects you, be there for her incase she ever needs a real friend.
2007-01-10 14:00:05 · answer #1 · answered by meghanhappy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh wow, you're in the same exact situation as me! actually it's a tad bit different...since i live in korea, the cultural standards are a different. anyways, my best friend is just like that. how much older is the older guy? is he more than five years older? if so, does she know the dangers of that kind of stuff? tell her that if she and the older guy actually ends up doing things [like my best friend did], that's considering statuatory rape...and the guy can go to jail.
if you don't think the things she's doing are safe [and i don't think so; she's only in eighth grade! not saying much though since i'm a freshman but i digress...] then just be forward to her and express your concerns.
as a last resort...do you have any other friends that you could go to without this one? if she won't change and your life is affected wayyy too negatively by her, then i'm sorry...you should leave her ):
2007-01-11 00:39:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After I finally stopped hanging out with my friend that was trashy I got a lot of good friends. I even found out that some guys who were kind of interested in me didn't ever hang out with me because I hung out with her. That was years ago and I still think I made the right decision! I love her as a person, but she was pulling me down and getting me into trouble.
2007-01-10 22:04:19 · answer #3 · answered by bb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let go of her. If you stay with her, you will not only hurt you, but also your friend and your mom. You don't deserve anyone like that. I mean really, she is a hoochy and you're not. She is way too young to be letting guys touch her like that.
2007-01-10 21:57:08 · answer #4 · answered by Lolaaaa! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some friend you are . . . and all the people above that posted me. I would not divorce myself from the problem just because it isn't happening to you. I would try to help her out. She is going down a dangerous road, and she probably has some other issues that lead to this type of behavior.
She needs a friend, and friends aren't always nice to each other. Be a real friend, set her straight, and if she doesn't listen to you, let someone know who she will listen to.
2007-01-10 22:30:36 · answer #5 · answered by Big Blair 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this girl needs some friendly help and if she won't listen to you then go to someone like a counselor or a parent figure. Because if your friend keeps going the way she's going she's going to end up with bigger problems sooner than she thinks, wether it's pregnancy or std's. Pull her aside and tell her how you feel about it and that she's too involved with them. She might get mad at first but in the long run she'll thank you.
2007-01-10 21:55:31 · answer #6 · answered by themysteriousmami24 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, let her fly. Let her know that you cant be around that kind of influence.
Sure its gonna hurt, but its the best decision. you seem like a nice girl, and i dont want to c u go bad. Theres 2 many bad ppl out there. dont become another statistic of people who had underaged sex, because thats all that will come from hangin wit th@ girl
2007-01-10 22:02:45 · answer #7 · answered by MistaTim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her actions disturb you, by all means get away from this girl. Her actions ARE inappropriate and life throws teens too many curves without adding garbage to it. Drop her!
2007-01-10 22:04:28 · answer #8 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a friend who is doing some stuff i dont approve of, but she stopped. we had this big discussion, and she asked my opinion and stuff, and she figured out that she was totally changed from it and then she stopped. i was sooo proud of her. you cant just dump your friends cause you dont like what your doing. just talk to her about it and hopefully she will see how you feel and you will be able to see how she feels etc. good luck!
2007-01-10 23:32:26 · answer #9 · answered by superman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom's right. She's trashy, and there isn't anything you can do for her. Find a new friend.
2007-01-10 21:53:27 · answer #10 · answered by kiwi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋