Just to fit in with people around you or something.
2007-01-10 13:40:27 · 19 answers · asked by unlikely 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Oh most certainly. Not for long, though, it turned out I was the last person to know that I'm gay.
2007-01-10 13:47:16 · answer #1 · answered by eschampion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG Yes. All the nasty things that people say about gay people I believed, and since I wasn't any of those things I thought that I could not be gay and was just confused. After a close friend came out as gay, and since he was a friend and wasn't any of the things that gay people are portrayed as, I realized that gay people were just like everyone else except for who they were attracted to. The feeling when I finally came out after college was the most liberating feeling in the world, and nobody should try to be something that they are not to please another person and they should lead their lives for themselves.
2007-01-10 22:11:46 · answer #2 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yup, I sure did.
I didn't want to be different than all my friends. I wanted to "fit in" to be like everyone else, or at least what I thought was everyone else.
I'll admit, I was fairly promiscuous after high school. I thought if I had sex with enough guys it would 'cure' me and make me straight.
I even married and had a child thinking it would magically 'cure' me.
It took me a few more years after my divorce to finally accept that I was gay and no matter how much I prayed, pretended, lived a lie would ever change it.
I had to learn to accept myself and how I was made, I had to come to terms with it all and realize that if I was going to ever raise a child to be honest and accept himself, that I would have to teach him by example.
Luckily I have a wonderfully supportive and loving family, have found the love of my life and together we have raised a fine young man!
2007-01-11 02:49:54 · answer #3 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every where in the media and the world books and movies we are shown that men and women go together. and when you have feelings the other way you wonder if there is something wrong with you and you hide it especially when your young and confused. I personally hide what i could but didn't hide for long i guess i don't have a personality that likes to be stiffled and really.... who wants to live a lie anyways? I knew i would be happier just being out and myself
2007-01-11 05:21:43 · answer #4 · answered by qcdon30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tried to hide my bisexuality at first because I hated myself for it, and had to endure the stress of keeping it hidden for 2 and a half years. Once I finally came out, however, I learned to accept myself in under 6 months and all of my friends were highly supportive. I tried making myself straight but that (obviously) didn't work since you are born with your sexuality, so I just dated girls. It really damaged my emotions though, and now I'm completely happy since I've come out as bi.
2007-01-11 03:22:35 · answer #5 · answered by guitarherofairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just realized that i am bi about a month ago.. and no, i am not trying to change or hide anything.. i am very anxious to get with a guy and give these feelings a try.. i am actively looking for my first same-sex partner...
i love girls, but they don't seem to love me. 33 years of rejections and failed relationships after a few dates..
accepting my bisexuality is a new lease on life. it's an entire new avenue to explore that may open the door to finally finding love.. i am really excited and happy..
i honestly don't care what others think of me.. i want a man and i can't wait to find the right one!
2007-01-10 22:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by Jeff 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah! I'm a female! at first i would see other girl that was really fine! i would try to find annoying traits like, talk too much, conceded, or got a messed up nail or twisted eye when they turned a certain way! it didn't work if she was flawless. Not just pretty but out going in sports and smart.
If she smoked or partied too much it made it easy to dislike! but i found the one girl that was perfect! so yeah! I'm bi
now! i'm not so picky if they don't smoke and look good i like her! i hate loud mouth females!
2007-01-10 22:11:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think that most gays do when they first realize that they are gay, just to fit in. They are afraid of what everyone will say about them is your gay. so when your younger you have a tendency to hang with people you really don't want to. isn't society terrible.
2007-01-10 22:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by jumpinjackdw 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when I first KNEW I was gay, I was young, and I was afraid of the bigots...and I didn't know if my parents would accept me or throw me out. I never lied and said I was straight...or pretended that I was straight. I simply just didn't say anything until I was older and more comfortable with who I am.
2007-01-10 21:49:12 · answer #9 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course. i tried conforming to society, even though i know very well that being gay is something that i can't control. i've tried dating girls, when i really wanted to be with a guy.
however, when i was younger, i had to go through the, "i'm-straight-moving-to-be-bisexual" stage. then finally accepting that i'm gay.
2007-01-10 21:50:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋