my girlfriend and her husband and myself and my husband are best friends. My friend and I were very close in school and stayed in touch after. Now we live close and are the best of friends. The four of us, along with our children do a lot together and have so much fun! Her husband and I have always gotten along really well. I've always been physically attracted to him, he's VERY handsome! I have dreams about him and fantasize about what it would be like to kiss him. Help! I am very much in love with my husband and am very happy. What's going on with me??
2007-01-10 13:33:37 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ever thought of swinging
2007-01-10 14:09:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl! If your right hand offends you .... cut it off! You need to put some distance between you and this situation. Dont spend as much time together and spend no more time alone with him. You better consider which one is more important - the lovely arrangement you have of a wonderful best friend, happy husband, kids you love depending on you for security and stability or a messy emotional plus others situation you could face. Imagine going through complications in all these relationships that you have that are harmonious. None of you world would make sense then, cuz it would be turned upside down. Make a decision about what you are going to do, or in this case not going to do before you get stuck in a weird moment and then deciding. Chances are then you will make the wrong choice. Be stronger than this temptation. Get him out of your head. Focus. Good luck!
2007-01-10 13:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by latoya w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is going on with you?
You said that you are very happy with your hubby & very in Love. You should review those thoughts...
If you are attracted to "the other husband" something is missing .Passion? Excitement of the forbidden fruit?
Yes, you could make a move & have a few hrs of passion & later?? Think about the consecuences...becuase you will have to see him all the time after that... and as a friend.
Analize your feeling for your husband & also review how good your intimate moments are....
2007-01-10 15:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by Blond34 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your best friend. Men are so easy to get, they are a dime a dozen but a good best friend is hard to find. She is a treasure. Just put her husband right out of your head. If you do one thing with him it will be the end of all the fun of the two families getting together and having a ball. Get it out of your mind. Instead of thinking about this guy, start thinking about your husband and what you can do to spice up your marriage a little so you fantasize about your husband instead of hers.
2007-01-10 14:06:55 · answer #4 · answered by sunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is deff something u do not want to happen so you need to watch your every move when your around him and as soon as anything sexual begins to happen even just a thought or a certain look from either u or him just walk away its your best friends husband and then theres your own husband there would be a lot of hurt and hed never leave his wife so in the long run you would b hurtinh your self the most just dont be alone with him and dont get in to situations u cant get out of fast and just be careful it will pass in time but untill then hang on tight it could get bumpy
2007-01-10 14:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are experiencing is known as "Pon Far"...The Love Fever.
Let me put you straight.
The fire and burning and yearning is going to grow until you burst. Them mere thought of a close encounter of the third kind will make you moist with excitment and anticipation. You will experience periods of the hottest desire that will make you want to literally howl like a primal beast and powerful predator.
It will begin slowly, the thought, the delicious bet-everything-you-own for just one time thought and then grow to consume all of you.
You will think about the next time, the next moment you can be in his presence again. A simple conversation will begin but your pulse will race, your bosom heave, and you will desire beyond any known measure. Your ears will ring so loud that you can see people's lips moving but you can't hear what they say.
And then, you will cross over to the dark side.
You have already broken the Commandment in your heart. The body will soon follow.
2007-01-10 14:25:57 · answer #6 · answered by angelthe5th 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are experiencing is very normal.It is human nature to fantasize.There is nothing wrong with dreaming and fantasizing about it as long as you do not act on it.You have to beable to distinguish the difference between fantasy and reality.If you truely love your husband you will never turn that fantasy into a reality.
2007-01-10 13:53:35 · answer #7 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all unusual to be attracted to someone else. (forbidden fruit) of course , you realize that should you 2 engage in any extra-marital hanky-panky, it would blow your cozy relationships right out of the water. what i would do, after i realized that i was not a horrible person, would be this: every time i entertained thoughts of being with him in a compromising situation, i would start thinking about the worst case scenerio that could happen if you were found out- all the way to violence,children crying, his wife confronting me, etc.make it bad. and never fail to do this when thinking these thoughts,. soon , your mind will start associating kissing him with negative thoughts as well.you must associate sexual thoughts of him with something unpleasant. best wishes, and i truely hope you never act on it. so many people will get hurt
2007-01-10 13:50:40 · answer #8 · answered by DEBI M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal to fantasize... What's important is that you not act on those fantasies. Just keep them private, and maintain self-control. You can't help who you are attracted to ;-)
Alternatively, you can attempt to change your relationship with him. My husband's best friend is a very charming, cute guy. But he's like a brother to me now. I couldn't fathom anything else...
2007-01-10 13:43:29 · answer #9 · answered by MtnBlossom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you are very much in love with your husband. How can that be? Having the hots for your best friend's husband doesn't show to much about your devotion to your own husband. For the sake of your marriage and also your best friends marriage, let this one go and mind your own business. Nothing wrong in fantasizing but don't act on your impulses.
2007-01-10 13:40:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I dont think there is anything wrong with you, it is natural to be attracted to the opposite sex. HOWEVER, keep it just that a secret attraction. I have found myself attracted to my fiances friends but I never have or ever will act on it. Just think about what it would do to your hubby, your friend, and the children involved. Is it really worth it ?
2007-01-10 13:45:57 · answer #11 · answered by jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋