i dont know what to do with my life . im 22 years old and i have no idea what my calling is . im scared that i will be a nobody . i want more in life i want to be a mom a wife and i want a career. what should i do ?
2007-01-10 13:28:56 · 10 answers · asked by jen 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Find a goal you want, maybe a job you would prefer and try to get to it. You have nothing to lose, but much to gain, if you just get out into the world and apply everywhere.
2007-01-10 13:38:03 · answer #1 · answered by David 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've passed the most critical step which is "understanding that you don't want to grow old and be a nobody."
I just turned 45 years old and as I reflect on my years as a person your age, I always tried to figure it out, but I just couldn't put my finger on the one thing I wanted to do. My problem was that I wanted to do everything. Now that I look back on my life, I realize that I did exactly what I wanted to do: everything. I've been around the world several times, I've worked successfully in several different career fields, I graduated college, I served in the Marine Corps, I got a commission in the Army, I completed a Master's Degree and about to complete another, I married, raised an wonderful daughter who now has a great eight-month old son, and I 'm going to retire in five years. When I retire, I plan to attend law school and live another twenty years as a lawyer. I am by no means a "tee-totaller"; I've led a very exciting life.
If you want to end up where I am, then start taking some college courses near your hometown. Keep it simple at first. As you go through college part time, you will find at least one course that will spark a passion within you. When that happens, follow it. As you attend college, you'll still have to support yourself by working. If you're in a job where you are not happy and you are not excited about going to work, then find another job immediately.
Find some hobbies. One day I picked up a banjo and started plucking it. Eventually I became good enough to play on stage. As I learned the banjo, I became proficient enough with a guitar, violin, and mandolin. One night, while visiting in Wichita, Kansas, I heard a street entertainer play "Danny Boy'. Within three months, I bought a Trumpet and learned to play well enough to play along with an ensemble.
Don't get married just to get married, or to satisfy your parents. Don't get married just because your friends got married. You're still young, I got married at 28 and I've been married since then. Get married because you found the "right" person. Make sure you have a solid footing within yourself before you marry so you become a partner; not a leach. And vice versa, make sure you don't marry a leach.
I hope this helps. Don't get discouraged. Always keep in mind that if you can live to be 70 years old, then you have another 50 years to figure out what you want to do.
2007-01-10 22:01:32 · answer #2 · answered by joe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are faithful and just in the little things you will be faithful and just in the big things.
Similarly BIG Goals start from a person who can live out little goals. Start small. Start winning by going on a holiday somewhere. Notch a few wins up on your belt and as you gain momentum in the small things bigger and brighter visions will form in your head. Then you can pursue those.
It is time to take stock too. It is a common feminine trait to want 'everything'. You might want to study the concept of contentment. If you are idiscontent with the few things you have you will be even more discontent when you have EVERYTHING.
Being happy with what you have today is a choice. Make the choice to be happy and then as things get bigger and better you will still be happy!
Enjoy!
2007-01-10 21:40:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself what you like to do then try pursuing something sort of related to it. Not an easy question and be assured everyone goes through this uneasy feeling several times in their life, even after they find a good job. If you are not a risk taker, it makes the decisions more difficult. Talk to someone that is close to you, that you trust and respect, and bounce your thoughts off them. They won't think you are weird.
2007-01-10 21:38:16 · answer #4 · answered by G T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set some goals to attain those dreams. Most people don't know what their "calling" is. Life is what happens to you when you're busy making plans. Just be happy and take action in your life.
2007-01-10 21:32:26 · answer #5 · answered by 1truthseeker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need more trying . you known : The future is end of The present. If you don't try , you will what you calling are . Because take a long plan for your life . let happy, nothing what you can't do unless you not try
2007-01-10 21:37:16 · answer #6 · answered by hoacomay22684 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats exactly the age when i didnt know myself what to do with my life.
but what are you looking for? what is the thing you´d like to be proud of some sunny day? do not trade yourself to cheap on the market of career and success. as always, again, the answer is INSIDE only. tt
2007-01-10 21:42:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever interests you. You dont have to stick to something you dont like. Work for a year and move on if its not for you. You'll find your direction with time.
2007-01-10 21:35:59 · answer #8 · answered by helplessromatic2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't beat yourself up over this. Get out, get active, look into schooling, join groups, search---look-----the world is your oyster.
2007-01-10 21:33:19 · answer #9 · answered by samaustinashlee_billiewjr 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a cause you BELIEVE in, & then join a group that promotes it. Good luck- & don't get discouraged! :)
2007-01-10 21:37:35 · answer #10 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋