I've been searching for solutions to my dilema but cannot find a situation that closely matches mine. There is a guy I like a lot, as a friend and more. I've known him for a long time, and recently we have become very close...I confided in him with situations in my life and he was genuinely concerned and the conversations we had afterward are literally the best talks I've ever had with anyone. He knows what I'm trying to saying before I even say it. When we're together I feel more chemistry between us than I've felt with anyone else. He has a girlfriend and I respect that, but I would like to remain friends only he makes it difficult because it takes him a few days to respond to e-mails and text messages. I'm scared of loosing him as a friend, I find him to be an invaluable friend. I know I'll never be with him, but I can save the friendship, right? I haven't talked with him in 3 wks and still can't get him off my mind. I've gone out with friends, met some guys, nothing works.
2007-01-10 13:18:46 · 3 answers · asked by Sanityplease 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You see all that stuff you just wrote there. Find a way to give it to him. Print it out, email it, read it over the phone, anything.
2007-01-10 13:26:15 · answer #1 · answered by MrItwasgood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you have to save the friendship if you are good friends a girlfriend can't change that. Why haven't the two of you talked? I would express the way you feel when you can, but just focus on how to improve you. Think about your dreams, what you can do in your own life to improve you, or show the people around you, who are in your life like friends or parents or children how much you love them. You could also volunteer your time. There are so many people who just need your help and our communities need you. Wishing you the best.
2007-01-10 21:29:59 · answer #2 · answered by pixelchix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you said it your self he is a very good friend of yours and you seem to be able to confine in him well so tell him your troubles about this I am sure he will be more than understanding but keep in mind he can not devote large amounts of time to you, he has a girlfriend and a lot of girlfriends get unsettled when their boyfriend is spending lots of time with another girl whether it's harmless or not it tends to worry partners.
Having friendships with males who have girlfriends is something very hard to keep for that reason. So I think your time with him will be limited doses but I am sure you can keep it a very long lasting one. Just tell him how you feel he is your friend and you telling him this would probably not do damage to your relationship with him.
2007-01-10 21:39:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋