Would you play golf with your wife?

Question

If your wife was 30, hot, and knew about golf and was interested in it- would you teach her to play and then make it a couple hobby?

But we don't do anything at all together. We have 3 kids and when he is not working 40 hours a week he is gone or playing golf. Well I am sick of being stuck at home all the time. I only leave the house to take the kids to school and to grocery shop. No spa! Sorry. I sew and cook at home.
I just want more couple time, he cheated 5 years ago and things have never been the same he is still distant and I think if we came together and started doing things 2gether, we would have a better relationship. I mean the man won't even screw his own wife he say the mags are better.
I am a size 3.... I am 5 feet 7 inches tall with a pretty face and for having 3 kids - I look ok.
I am at wits end. It's been 11 years and I haven't been kissed in over 5 years, sex runs about 1 time a month or less by HIS CHOICE. See he is good looking too, so he holds that over my head, since his affair. I just want my husband back, the man I knew b4 his bad ways.\
But he won't talk to me unless its about him.

Answer 1

So, how do you like the role of kept woman, anyway?

Sounds like you've lost his respect. He cheated and he holds his good looks over you? What is that about?

Tell him it's time for him to bow up and spend some time with the kids while you go have some fun for a change. Get some gal friends and go do stuff (and NOT writing or quilting!), have some fun and goof off.

And don't take no for an answer. Let him moan and complain, so long as you get to pamper you for a change. Show him life with you having a good time without him while he's stuck at home.

Right now, he has no motivation to treat you any better than a babysitter; it's on you to change that.

Answer 2

First of all may I say your husband is a tool. Sorry hope that did not offend you, but if you are the mother of 3 beautiful children you would think he would be man enough to take responsibility and spend time with you and your kids and not cheat!!

My dad used to play golf a lot and I think golf is more than just a pansy sport that sub-athletic men play (ie. John Daly, if you don't know him look him up on Yahoo.com). To men golf is a way to burn $100, waste 4 hours of a perfectly wonderful day to take your kids to the park, and many other things. Golf is essentially a way for them to not spend time with their wife/kids and face being a good father. (I do not say all this from bitterness, me and my father are on good terms now, it's just analysis I've put together.)

I think this not inviting you to play golf is his way to become more distant, but if you really want this tool to teach you, have you tried asking him yet? If he says I don't think it's such a good idea, my analysis is correct, he is using golf as a way to not put in the responsibility of being a father.

A typical day on the golf course is a way for grown men to all hang out with each other and talk about which driver gave them the longest drive, or which putter has the most control (yawn). If it was up to me I would tear down all the golf courses, build a thousand parks (they all can fit, have you seen the size of one golf course?) and build a center for men to become better fathers.

To sum it up, he probably doesn't want you to play golf with him. Maybe you should go to couples counseling, if he really cared he would take the time and do that activity to make your marriage right. Whatever happens though you can live without him, it's not the end of the world and you get alimony and child support to ease the pain.

Good luck,
Beejster

Answer 3

Absolutely. Golf is a great way to spend time with the people in your life that you enjoy being with. Its both a competitive sport for some and a social event for others and BOTH for me.

Answer 4

Yes. I already have played golf with her, we played on an executive golf course, and we also played on a par-3 course
which was fun. An executive course, and a par 3 course are
easier to learn on because they're shorter.

Answer 5

Maybe the man looks at his golf time the same way a woman does her spa time...

So, no...I don't think he should have to unless he wants to.

Answer 6

hecks yea!
it would be amazing if she wanted to golf with me
i wouldn mind at all
i would love it
hey might as well make the kids golf too huh?

Answer 7

Absolutly. Couples dont spend enough time together these days and anything that you can share common ground in is wonderful

Answer 8

No, let him have golf to himself. You can't be with him every second of every day.

Answer 9

Oh, absolutely. I would love that.