does anyone know why someone always finds something bad to say about everything?

Question

and what can i say to this person so they would just stay away from me if they wish to do so

Answer 1

They are depressed and probably lack self confidence. I wouldn't say anything to them. They are probably going through a rough time. If they are always like that and it bothers you then you should spend less time with this person.

Answer 2

If its a friend then they are not being a very good one. Some people you have to realize say things in a context only they understand and others would not (they may have been raised that way) The other thing is self esteem...either your too soft hearted or they are to abrupt...maybe a little of both. Not everyone thinks the same, we just have to try to co-exist. I would have a heart to heart with this person and ask them a question for starters that may provoke a negative response (sounds like anything with this one) and simply ask....why do you seem to always say a response that is negative...tell me something good about it....because I am not understanding why everything is so bad to you!
And if they do not stop, ::::poof::::: wave the wand and walk...cause they really need some interpersonal skills!
Good luck!

Answer 3

Some people are so full of self loathing that they can only focus on anything negative. There are also others who build up their own selves by putting down others. The third type person just complains chronically by habit, because they feel the need to be included in a conversation. When I encounter these people I just tell them that I don't feel that way and that I absolutely adore, it, her, him and I am sorry that they feel that way. I don't encourage the conversation. You can also just walk away. I do not however let anyone bully another around me with that I have to immediately speak up. Hope this helps and I know that these people can just suck the energy out of you. I used to feel so depressed listening to it that I had to deal with it or quit my job.

Answer 4

A negative person is usually a very unhappy person and by saying something bad about everything, it's supposed to make you down and unhappy also. This person comes to you because he/she is probably very envious of your outgoing personality and really just wants to be uplifted by you, even if this person does not realize this them self. Just keep on being upbeat, say something good about everything this person says something bad about. He/she will either see things in the positive way you do, or he/she will probably not continue to try to hang around you/

Answer 5

They say bad things because they are very unhappy people so to make them feel better they have to put everyone or everything around them down.

To answer your second part of the question, I would just tell them this: "I really don't like to hear or be around your negativity so with all due respect if you have nothing good/nice to say then I don't want to be around you."

Answer 6

I could write you a book on this topic. I lived with such a person for a long time. This person probably has a phsycological disorder, maybe neading professional help. They really do not want to stay away from you, they want to be near you to download and benefit from your listening. Very difficult to get away from such a person, you have to be very strong and firm. I think you will find they will not listen if you try to tell them how you feel, it is up to you to distance yourself from negative people. Good Luck... Chris

Answer 7

Well. most people who always act like that are not happy in their own life so they don't want anyone else to be happy either. So one, you could just ignore them and be more than happy around them or two, you could just tell them to stop being a negative person around you or three, just go off and call them a very bad name and tell them what you really think of them

Answer 8

Because they are fool. Look what this quote says, " A wise man always find way to be happy but fool always find ugly things and that's why many people in this world are miserable." and tell them that they shouldn't be living now if a lot of things are bad and ugly!

Answer 9

It's called insecurity. I have a sister that does that to everyone except me. The only thing that she has ever said to me was that she didn't like my eyeglasses and I told her that it was a good thing I didn't get them for her and she shut up. I hate to say this, but act like a smart *** and they'll stop or stop coming around. My sister doesn't come around when I go home for a visit(Mi. to Va.) and that's fine with me. I figure who needs glummy goose when I'm on vacation. Good luck.

Answer 10

Those people are called pessimists (always looking at the negative). Simply tell them that you prefer to spend time with more positive people and would appreciate it if they didn't have something nice to say, to say nothing at all.