I don't want to have sex with my boyfriend of 10 years as often anymore. I will turn him down for sex and then after he leaves I will think about having sex with him or someone else and even sometimes masturbate...What's wrong with me?
2007-01-10 12:51:05 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sometimes when our relationships aren't as rosey as they use to be, we are reduced to dreaming about our loved one and what we would like him/her to be. When you dream about him, do the dreams often portray him in a different light? Is he more romantic, a bit more sexier, and/or appealing? If so, these dreams--whether they involve him or not--may reflect or highlight a few changes that you would to see in your present relationship with your mate. If you feel that what I am saying holds some truth, talk with your man about your feelings and needs. If he is an understanding person, then he will be receptive to your feelings and, with your full cooperation, will be willing to work on making things better. If, however, you feel that the "well has run dry", then perhaps you need to talk to him about bringing an end to the union all together. It is always best to nip a bad or soon-to-be-bad relationship in the bud before any more feelings and/or time is invested. (Given the way you delivered your question, I don't think that it will come to this. At least, I hope not.) Good luck to you and yours!
2007-01-10 13:12:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dosn't that suck? I am so sorry to hear this. Major communtication issue. You really gotta open up and Talk to him about why exactly he isn't pleaseing you. And if you cannot figure that reason out get a book like the joy of sex and use it together. Better yet, ask to watch him masterbate while you masterbate. then I am sure you will both be happy.
There may be an unconcious barrier there why you do not want to have sex with him, like maybe something he has done to you in the past. Or made fun of you, etc.
I had this problem, and ex just got to me after so many years, and i also knew she cheated, and it bothered my will to have sex. And I am a dude.
2007-01-10 21:30:36 · answer #2 · answered by Seerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you. You have been with this man for 10 years, and you need some excitement. Try different things with him for a change. There is nothing wrong with pleasing yourself and having fantasies about other people, its normal.
2007-01-10 20:54:47 · answer #3 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U are bored with this guy u are no longer sexually attracted to him,cut your losses and move on now u are already in there for 10yrs of your life, unless u want to be miserable for another 10
2007-01-10 20:55:25 · answer #4 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're a woman.
2007-01-10 20:54:13 · answer #5 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋