2007-01-10 12:21:41 · 13 answers · asked by STEPHANIE L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sit him down and let him know that you want more affection. Tell him you know he loves you, but sometimes you need him to be more affectionate.
Don't badger him with this statement. Say it, and ask him if it's something about you that he is having a problem with. (this takes the focus off him and makes it a 50/50 issues) He'll respond better.
Tell him you wouldn't mind a kiss on the cheek here and there. Roses...just little things. He needs to listen though. Make him listen that is the key. MAKE HIM LISTEN.
2007-01-10 12:27:26 · answer #1 · answered by The Internet Is Yours 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lack of kissing doesn't indicate a lack of love, unless there are lots of other signs showing his lack of affection, respect or attraction to you. It's a huge red flag indicating a fear of intimacy. I'd have to know your husband to know why he's afraid. But intimacy requires a sharing of yourself. Perhaps he's been wounded in the past (abused as a child, or as an adult), suffered rejection, etc. Perhaps his career is not on track, giving him a lack of self esteem as a man? Perhaps he has a secret deep inside he's afraid you'll find out (not necessarily something "bad" he's done, but a secret desire, failing or emptiness he's afraid to let you see). Perhaps he's afraid of being intimate with you? Perhaps he's opened up to you in the past, only to be punished or humiliated?
Whatever it is, he's afraid to open up to you on a deep level. Kissing on the lips is a physical expression of emotional intimacy. Since he's afraid of intimacy, he avoids kissing.
PS. To be sure I'm right... he never initiates talking about deep personal feelings, correct? He tends to agree when you talk about your feelings or ask about his... to the point you think he "feels the same way" about many important issues, correct? And finally, he doesn't talk, or play, or tease much during sex. More of the quiet type, almost always in the dark.
2007-01-10 20:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is just not the kissing type. I know in order for me to get a kiss I actually have to go get one from him and then I make a joke about it. Does he show you in other ways that he loves you? Does he tell you that he loves you? Some men just are not good at showing their love so I would be honest with him and ask him what is the scoop on why he doesn't kiss you...(who knows maybe he is insecure and doesn't know how)
Marriage is about being open and honest though so just ask
2007-01-10 20:27:22 · answer #3 · answered by workit 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course. Kisses show affection but it is really not everything in your relationship or it shouldn't be. My husband and I have been together for a total of seven years but we don't kiss because one he does not like it. Two, I don't like the way he kiss me. Three, he refuses to let me teach him how I like to be kissed. So we just give each other pecks. Now yes I love to kiss him all over his body when it comes down to the nitty gritty but because I am so ticklish he can not kiss or caress me. So go figure - I like it sort of rough or nah... I just like to feel his strength. So anyways kissing is really not a big thing. Plus we are buddies and are so open with each other that there is more to our relationship as it should be in yours. You love him and he loves you. Enjoy your love and friendship with out the KISSES! You can if YOU want too.
2007-01-10 20:48:39 · answer #4 · answered by florie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From one wife to another, if you can count how many times he's kissed you in 6 years.... he's definitely sounds suspect to being a cheater.
2007-01-10 21:13:16 · answer #5 · answered by shawnthavirgo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you tolerated this kind of disconnection amuses me. Why on earth did you ever decide this guy was good enough to marry? Get a divorce!
2007-01-10 22:45:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down and have a chat with him... Some men find it hard to show affection so openly. It doesnt mean he doesnt love you though!!!
2007-01-10 20:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by ciara_e2007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't sound very affectionate. Some men have a problem with that
2007-01-14 18:46:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is why did you marry him? Did he just suddenly turn into a "non kisser"?
2007-01-10 21:07:27 · answer #9 · answered by JOURNEY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a question that only HE can answer, did you ever think of asking him?
2007-01-10 22:09:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋