UGH!!! Frustrated. I love my best friend to death. We have been good friends for 3 years. We enjoy all the same things, hiking, biking, climbing...and get along amazingly well. He's a guy, I have a lot of male friends. He has always been super protective of me when it comes to me dating, but in a brotherly way. In fact he has told me on more then one occasion that dating me would be like dating his sister just gross & weird. (this is indirectly because we had an issue where everyone at our church thought we were together because of us hanging out & I feel the same way) Well I've been with my boyfriend for a while now. My friend has been unhappy since we started dating. He's acting like he's jealous. He says he has no problem with my boyfriend & he thinks he's a great guy. But it's defiantly put a wedge in our friendship. Now my boyfriend has broken up with me, and I'm terribly upset, my friend is acting like it's the best day ever. Very happy & flirty with me.
2007-01-10 12:06:34 · 3 answers · asked by Marie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It’s very frustrating to me. My friend knows that I’m not in the mood to be asked out, he knows how frustrating the last week has been for me, especially when I get hit on. He knows I’m hurting, and yet he’s flirting with me, keeps trying to get me to come over so we can hang out. Says things like, ‘Hey baby, it’s okay why don’t you come over you know I can make you feel better…We need to get together, I really, really want to see you. Your so beautiful any guy would want you, you just need to forget about him & move on.’ (My boyfriend broke up with me because he’s in Iraq & he doesn’t think it’s fair for me to be with him when he’s in a dangerous situation. Not because of any other reason. He’s trying to do what’s best for me. He wants us to get back together as soon as he gets home.)
2007-01-10 12:06:43 · update #1
tell your friend you really care for him but you're not in the modd to see anybody in that way right now. you're still trying to get over the fact that your ex is in iraq. tell him if he really cares about you he'd stop flirting and be there as a friend not a boyfriend.
2007-01-10 12:12:08 · answer #1 · answered by illinios2hollywood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a firm believer that you cannot be *friends* with guys...unless he is gay! he is obviously jealous. If you do not like him at all, I mean for dating and you want to move on with your life or at least try to reconcile with your ex boyfriend, you need to let this *friendship* as part of your past.
2007-01-10 20:30:11 · answer #2 · answered by Annie D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is be honest
2007-01-10 20:35:24 · answer #3 · answered by Devin B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋