I’m a 24 year old male virgin, the reason I’m a virgin is because for some God forsaken reason I have got it in my head to wait for the right girl. However because of this it has left me really sexually frustrated. I know from reading from sex books that sex Is normal and healthy, and leaves you extremely gratified after the experience. So why have I got it in my head to wait for the right girl? Please help.
2007-01-10 11:57:27 · 32 answers · asked by Mr. White 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Feel glad you still have that title. I would have giving anything to say I was still a virgin when I got married. I think it would have changed a lot of choices in my life. You are a good person for waiting. In time she will come and she will be glad you waited for her. Please yourself for now and in time things will be better.
2007-01-10 12:14:42 · answer #1 · answered by samantha s 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not kidding, an angel is making you wait. you just don't know it yet. i was 17 my first time. i married this man, we were together for 24 years. we divorced two years ago, the problem was i loved him and he loved him, and i was a very distant priority. he was my only partner. i had been very curious about what others would have been like but never experimented. but this past fall i had a chance encounter with a puppy love crush, we were both 10 years old the first time we met and after many phone calls i flew to see him. because i was sexually frustrated as you are now. well it was a 10 day affair, that's what i went for. he was sweet and all went well but i know now that i couldn't do it again because i like you, need the the soul to be touched before my body is. am i lonely now, sometimes but being with someone for the sake of just sex is lonely too. and any of these guys that are telling you do just do it are at their cores, just as lonely as you, a quick f is only a band aid for their loneliness. a man with morals, self respect and dignity for themself and for the very lucky girl in your future is HOT, so take care of your own business yourself just the same way we all do, you're not so different, she out there. your angel.
2007-01-10 17:16:09 · answer #2 · answered by bridget 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Continue to wait for the right girl. Just make sure she is the right one. Sex is a very nice thing so why would anyone want it with just any Tina, Denise, or Lonnie (or Tom, Dick, or Harry)? In the meantime, just maturbate - it's healthy as long as you are not consumed by it which you probably already know.
Sex with the wrong person can leave a person totally ungratified and anxious. You don't want that.
If it makes you feel any better, I am an attractive, fit 35 year old woman/girl who has not had sexual intercourse in almost 11 years so don't feel bad. I'm frustrated too but what am I supposed to do just go and do it with whoever shows interest in me? Can't do that.
2007-01-10 12:11:25 · answer #3 · answered by Hermione G 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I completely agree with TC. I never thought I would find a guy that had enough will power to wait for the right girl instead of jumping on the first girl at the first opportunity. But I did and the fact that he waited for ME to share that first experience with is truly a gift that is so worth the wait. You can give a girl a hundred things, but if you can honestly tell her that you waited and said no to other girls because you were waiting for HER, no one else...nothing else could possibly top that.
And in the mean time....masturbate. It will make you much more sane.
2007-01-10 12:14:39 · answer #4 · answered by kayceyj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't read anything more about sex. Stay active. Working out releases endorphins in the body making you feel happy. Still having your virginity is noble and smart theses days, with all of the diseases you can get. Stay strong mentally and remind yourself that your virginity is a gift that should be protected until the time is right. You GO! =]]
2007-01-10 12:09:40 · answer #5 · answered by 1truthseeker 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
They say the e-harmony is a great place. My friend Jen and I have decided that if we are still single in 6 months we are going to join. You don't want to blow your virginity on some random girl, but i'm sure you can find someone who is looking for the same thing as you, i mean, afterall, the internet brings the world to you!
2007-01-10 12:07:52 · answer #6 · answered by Jon C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am proud of you. I don't know to many people that are waiting for the right person. I wish I would have waited. You just need to find the right girl. She's out there somewhere. And when you it's right you will know. Good luck.
2007-01-10 12:08:32 · answer #7 · answered by TWil 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think you have hold of the wrong end of the stick. You are seeing your thinking about waiting fro the right person as the problem. This is not the problem or even a problem. I think you are very wise to wait. Sex is a magnificent and very powerful experience, and your first time should be something special and meaningful. I take my hat off to you for having the sense to realise this and the will to successfully implement it. Also, there are more people who do this than you realise, it is not weird or strange.
The actual problem you have is frustration of your sex drive and this is easily solved by masturbation. It is far better to masturbate when you need to than to entangle yourself in a bad relationship or cheapen yourself with meaningless sex.
2007-01-10 12:04:00 · answer #8 · answered by TC 4 · 9⤊ 2⤋
*Applause* It is rare to find a virgin anymore... especially a male. There is nothing wrong with giving it to the right girl. You should! Making love used to be beautiful.. but nowadays, the act has been somewhat tarnished by one night stands, orgies and what have you...
Masturbation will give you the same contentment...
2007-01-10 12:07:20 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
You should wait for the right girl because that right girl will thank you some day. Sex is normal and healthy inside a marriage. Sorry if I sound old or something but I'm eighteen and I'm waiting for the right guy. I know it's frustrating a lot of the time, but anyone can wait, even you.
2007-01-10 12:03:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 3⤋