i have never done anything with a girl before and i have a boyfriend. but i get hot when i see, oh i dont know, when i walk into a porn store with my guy. i cant help but look at the lesbian porn. i dont have to be with him for it to happen though. If theres that soft core stuff on HBO. i just focus on the girls, i dont really pay attention to the guys. but i dont think i could ever mess around with a girl. i need some opinions please!
2007-01-10 10:34:39 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
There's something called the Kinsey scale that ranges from 0-6, zero being completely heterosexual, 3 being perfectly bisexual and 6 being completely homosexual. According to Alfred Kinsey, everyone lies somewhere on this scale.
http://www.kinseyinstitute.org/resources/ak-hhscale.html
In my opinion women are just more attractive than men, and a lot of women and girls who are still exploring their sexuality are often drawn to women because it's more comfortable and what they often recognize as sexy. Mostly because it's what society has ingrained in our brains and partly because they haven't seen a whole lot of men in a sexy situation so it's somewhat foreign. That might change as you gain more experience, if not, refer back to the Kinsey scale to help discover where you are.
I think you're totally straight.
2007-01-10 11:03:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are what everyone nowdays calls "bi-curious". I think everyone is to a certain extent bi. At least most women are--maybe guys as well but they are reluctant to recongize or acknoweddge it.
In some ways I kinda doubt that you are really bi in that you would like sex with another woman since your interest seems to be solely porn. Nothing wrong with that. But you do not mention any attraction in every day life. You do not say whether you scope other girls out in the mall, on the beach, etc. You do not indicate whether there is any attraction to sex with other girls other than the pure physical--although female sex is great--there is a lot more of the emotional stuff that is sometimes missing too much in sex with guys.
I guess what you should do is explore it. I don't know the realtionship with your bf--if it is a serious steady thing you should not cheat. But if you have unresolved desires and feelings you need to resolve them or you may be condemning yourself to a life of disapointment.
You might wish to visit a gay/lesbian bar. What you should understand that with girls there is not all the rush to sex that there is in a hetero bar scene. Girls will be willing and like just talking with you and getting to know you. You should just be honest at where you are with the whole thing. One caveat--increasingly some lesbian girls are sceptical of bi (and more "bi-curious")--this is too bad--but it is a fact. Just don't worry about that. By and large the whole situation is non-threatening and will give you a chance to talk about and explore your feelings.
2007-01-10 19:11:42 · answer #2 · answered by beckychr007 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound just like me when I was confused... I am now a lesbian, and I can tell you, that everything you just said in this email is exactly what I felt. I would say that yes you are bi, and that's not a bad thing, you think right now you can't mess around with a female, but when it really came down to it, you could. You are just feeling that way because there isn't a female around you right now to mess around with, and if you do that, your taking a big step in coming out... It's scary, but I think you are bi. Good luck, and if you ever have any other questions you can always email me at dixiexccoach05@aol.com. Good luck.
2007-01-10 19:35:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are curious. Nothing wrong with attraction. But if you are always thinking of women maybe you should act on it and find out. You don't "think" you could ever mess around with a girl.....tells me you leave it open as an option. Or you would have not used the word think.
2007-01-10 18:55:59 · answer #4 · answered by cripesokay2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't necessarily think that your bi-sexual, but if there are some interest there, then maybe you are bi-curious? I wo't tell you you to try it, that is a choice of your own to make. But if the feelings of bi-sexuality are stronger than that, then run it by your boyfreind. Just maintain control of the matter and you make that final call.
2007-01-10 18:56:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm, could be you are just facinated by seeing what these so-called sex pros are doing. or, could be you are just turned on by watching others have sex.. hard to say. if you don't see yourself actually getting involved with a woman, then i don't think you are bi. maybe just a little curious.
guess what really matters..are you happy with your boyfriend? or do you feel some sort of gap in your life?
do you think you could get romantically involved with a woman? could you date a woman? cuddle with a woman? marry a woman? if not, then i don't think you are bi.
2007-01-10 19:48:00 · answer #6 · answered by Jeff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are etiher bi-curious or bi-sexual, there is probably 33% chance you are straight. Otherwise you sound pretty normal. Now understand there is nothing wrong with being bi or gay.
2007-01-10 19:34:21 · answer #7 · answered by yohero m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can ask a million poeple do u gte turned on and say ah she is so hot my god i wanna bang her!??!?1 if so you prob are. but dont worry ur bf prob thinks thats hot.
2007-01-10 19:59:38 · answer #8 · answered by mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be bi, but you may be pansexual.
You may just get into other people's scene (the sensuality of it) without it being your own thing.
2007-01-10 19:10:37 · answer #9 · answered by knightofsappho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your just paying attention to the girl to see maybe how you should be acting
2007-01-10 19:53:55 · answer #10 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋