How do you become more confident..?

Question

Okay i'm not the most fragile person in the world lol but anyways a while back i got into a pretty messy situation with these guys because they were picking on a friend..and it kind of ruined my life..and since then my confidence has gone way down..and i don't just mean with girls i mean with school work and stuff like that...its not to say i havn't been asked out or anything its just that i can't find my confidence anymore and im starting to worry about it..help! x

Answer 1

lol, same here... only I was with this group and they screwed my life up... just left the group yesterday... I just feel like im useless for everything. Just thought i'd tell you to make you feel better that ur not the only person...

Answer 2

ah! same thing happened to me back when i was in 9th grade. Some bitttcchhess were picking on one of my friends. I stuck up for her, and then they stopped talking to me. Stupid. I know. It takes awhile to gain some confidence. What helped me was, i got myself together, joined a sport in school, made some new friends, and i got a job.

I think that once you're happy with your friends, confidence eventually just comes to you. If you learn to not care about stuff that not important, everything is easier.

Oh, and girls are just as shy as guys. Even if you get turned down, its not the end of the world. Just be nice; girls adore nice guys. The only time i've turned a guy down is because he was actually really rude to girls and i felt like he wanted to use me. And dont waste your time asking out a shallow girl. Find a girl you like being around. She'll give you confidence, even if you're just friends.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Rest assured this lack of confidence is temporary. It happens to a lot of us.

Maybe do something small to help others. Like helping a family member carrying grocery. Opening doors for strangers with a smile.

Something small but kind acts. Maybe you'll find the world is smiling back at you soon. You will get your confidence back. This experience will make you stronger and more understanding for others.

Hope this helps.

Answer 4

Hi Chris you're not alone, we all go through something sooner or later & it has an effect on our self esteem/self worth it makes u question your being. Always, know that there is a tomorrow, and u can change it w/the help of God. (I often have to re-enforce that to myself because of negative energy that is surrounding me/those so call friends-which r the main one to bring u down because in someway or another they envy). But, I can't let that stop my float; I'm keep rising to the top & just let them hate/ because they r miserable w/themselves. And, u know the old saying Misery loves Company! So, don't let negative people bring u down; you're better than that.

First, u need to stop doubting yourself (that what they want) someone who is insecure & unsure of themselves..because they r unsure of who they r & what they r about; thats why they pick. It gives them strength to make someone else feel little.

Once u start trusting yourself again; that will make all the difference. It's Ok to fall down as long as u get back up! (smile)

And, never, never ever let anyone take your power!, never let anyone take your Joy!, never let anyone take your peace!---Keep your head up & stay positive & sooner or later it all fall back into place.

Answer 5

Life is big and has so many different avenues for you to walk on. Don't be stuck on one little road. Widen your view of life, get more involved in other directions.

Go help those who are less fortunate than you are. Cultivate compassion and wisdom. You will find the meaning of life. Your self esteem will emerge and grow fast. Then you will see those people who are giving you a hard time are a bunch of losers not worth thinking about.

Answer 6

Pick some things you are fairly confident you can succeed doing. Do them, succeed, and use each as a stepping stone to slowly work your way to where you want to be.

Most folks can't just get up in the morning and say "Today, I am confident!". Confidence comes from setting goals for yourself, and then succeeding at those goals.

Answer 7

You become more confident by ignoring what people say about you and what people do. If you like a girl tell her.If she tells a lot of people stand up for yourself and say I sure do like her. Go and apologize for picking on the boy.That wasn't nice but in life people make mistakes. I hope this helps. E-mail me cause you fine at [e-mail]

Thanks boo

Answer 8

confidence can come from many sources. Martial Arts, religion, drug, alcohol just about anything. the reality is your in control of you. First things first.......only the people you care about matter the most and if they still love ya then you have a great starting point. Just be who you are. and stop over analyzing stuff. its just life and it always hits the restart button at the beginning of every day

Answer 9

I have been in your situation a few years ago, and it bothered me so much I ended up seeing a counselor, and the 1 thing I did learn was this & I hope it helps you,believe in who you are, we are all special people in GODS eyes, to hell with what other people think. You know the old saying, If you don't believe in yourself, how can you expect others to believe in you. I can say comfortable that you are A WONDERFUL PERSON, otherwise you would not ask the question!! Forget what others think or say....YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE.....And that is a GREAT PERSON....Believe!!! GOD BLESS!!

Answer 10

Self confident people understand the impact of believing in themselves and relying on their abilities.
This confidence ultimately creates opportunities for success and with each new success another self confidence building block is put into place. Success builds upon success reinforcing self confidence with each new achievement.
Self confident people perceive themselves as able to achieve those things they set out to do and this perception creates reality in their lives.Perception creates reality. You can become the person you want to be. You have heard it said that if you can believe it you can achieve it.So start believing in yourself, acting on that belief and you will start building self confidence in your life.

Answer 11

This is going to sound weird, but fake it. The more you fake it the easier it gets, frankly I think thats what some people do anyway.
Eventually the pattern becomes established and people will judge you and treat you by your adopted attitude. This will give you real confidence and no one will notice when you just act like the you they are used to.