I'm i wrong not wanting to marry?

Question

me and my boyfriend have been dating three years we now have a baby girl together now he pressuring me into marriage what should i do?

Answer 1

if he is responsible, loving, and supportive, and has no abuse issues, than why would u not want to marry him? unless maybe your not really in love with him, and your holding out for something better. but three years as a long time to be with someone, and most prefer to marry and know that they have a future with someone, and a life that they can look forward to. if he is what u want in life, than marry him, if not than maybe u shouldn't.

Answer 2

Depends on what your reasons are, is he unreliable, abusive, a drunk? No job, a criminal record? Or is it the blahs have too much of a place in your relationship and he now bores you or hasn't grown up to the job of Dad? I wish you luck, for the sake of the child he should always be in her life, but when you want to marry for love, you know it.

Answer 3

i have always been a strong beleiver in marriage, in days gone by it was thought that if a man wanted to have a child with a woman it was to carry on his name, that child would have to have his surname , every child born carries the mothers surname(used to now any name will do) if he thought enough of a woman to let her bear his namesake hed marry her and give her children and hope for a boy so his name would carry on,,now heres my real version of events though i thoroughly beleive every child should carry the mothers surname, i got engaged to mr wonderful mr wonderful decided were getting married in 3 weeks come of the pill we will take life as it comes, church arranged flowers and cars paid for huge dress all fitted, best day of my life coming up, oops periods late , had pregnany test with doctor found out two days before big day im pregnant , how wondeful could life possibly get, rang him to tell him the news, thats great see you at the wedding, wedding due 1pm guests arriving by car, train and air, biggest event ive ever seen being my fathers oldest daughter and first to wed it was going to be one to remember, i arrived at the church, the best man ran out to meet me with his mobile hed rang to see where my wonderful was, he handed me the fone mr wonderful told me im sorry i cant go through with it im not ready for a family yet, we will postpone until after the abortion, mr wonderful took up a hospital bed for two weeks, my growing bump is now an 8 yr old genius and me well ive been asked 4 times since but somehow cant be bothered my son has my surname good job too because my last relationship gave me a daughter he asked me to marry him i told him to gobut my daughter too has my surname you can see the problem i had if id given them both their dads names i love weddings dont get me wrong as long as their not mine(i am not a slapper by the way i met my daughters dad when my son was 6 yrs old there was no one between mr wonderful and him)(and it was that one that asked me 4 times)

Answer 4

i lived with my boyfriend for 9 years had all 3 of my sons before i married my husband now. even though he asked me several times to marry him in those 9 years i told him i wasnt ready and he stayed and waited and probably you guy will too.

Answer 5

no .. if you dont want to get married than dont do it.. you will regret it later on . believe me twice i walked down the isles and did not really want to and twice i got divorce the last one lasted 19 years ... a long time .. right .. he was real jealous and keep me a prisioner .. only diff was i was allowed to work .. he way of thinking was if i work than i would not have time to cheast on him.. only thing was he thought that was all i ever did..

Answer 6

Up to you, if you do not want to marry, if you are not ready and things work for you as they are, leave it at that. If it's good enough for Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, it should be good enough for your boyfriend.

Answer 7

nowadays you don't have to be married to have a baby. (obviously), If you don't want to marry him don't. But think about the baby to when he/she gets old enough to wonder.