We dated 4 years before we got married. We also have two kids together, a 3 and 1 year old, he has 3 other children outside our marriage. Two of which were before us ages 7 and 4 and one during which is only 4 months younger than our youngest. I have no problem with the two children he had before us but a very big problem getting over the fact that he has a child since we have been together, even though, we were split up when the girl got pregnant and I was the one that left him. I have never even seen this child and he is 1 1/2 . He has cheated on me numerous times and I have forgiven and forgot, but this one I can't. I'm not in love with him anymore, I see him as a good friend. I don't even enjoy having sex with him. I'd rather he just leave me alone! Since we have been married he hasn't worked and I am paying for everything! He reecently has become a minister and is always preaching and reading the bible, etc. But isn't living it to me. What do I do?
2007-01-10 10:10:24 · 20 answers · asked by littleone84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Follow your heart and your mind. It will never tell you wrong. And if he's following the bible now, then he should understand...right? :D
2007-01-10 10:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by Christine O 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if you couldnt get over the fact that he had that baby while you guys were seperated then why did you go ahead and marry him???
I dont know what advice to give you...you are kind of asking for it..I mean you married him even though you couldnt accept it (Which is totally understandable) so
you can either learn to live with it..or end things before you get to far in to the marriage
2007-01-10 10:35:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
properly, i do no longer understand how long you have been married, yet whilst the abode replaced into offered after the two one among you have been married or had your first new child mutually then it is the two yours as long as a prenuptual contract replaced into on no account signed. you ought to constantly report for divorce and have him go away the place of abode. If it is not an determination for you, then you definitely can constantly p.c.. up and go away, report for a criminal separation, report for housing tips, an get foodstuff stamps. As a mom of three, you have an excellent sort of concepts. while you're no longer able to get an excellent job, you additionally can prepare for tips for training. you will get finished advantages and in all threat very affordable to loose daycare. once you're a single mom, the state pays for college and the daycare because of the fact interior the long-term it is greater decrease priced to try this than furnish welfare and scientific coverage till the infants are eighteen, to no longer point out the housing tips. If I have been you, i might report the criminal separation and alter the locks on the abode and lovingly p.c.. his assets. i do no longer kno what the circumstances are at the back of your choose for divorce, yet you have the infants and that they are entitled to the comforts of abode no remember the circumstances. Then i might bypass to the state welfare place of work, prepare for welfare, foodstuff stamps, scientific coverage, training tips, new child care assisstance, and criminal help. you will choose the criminal help for the divorce and for gathering new child help. in case you opt to maintain the abode, i might ask that his new child help be purely the non-public loan charge. in case you do no longer wan tthat, then the criminal help will cope with all of that. while you're clever you will verify you have each and all the new child's very own issues (start certificates and shot archives and SS#) and ensure you have the previous years taxes (From this previous April). That way you have each and all the neccessary papers to start any paperwork for the above.
2016-10-06 23:23:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I stayed married for 24years and that was a bad mistake for me and my chirlden! I should have just left! I am now divoriced and living a better life. In my eyes I say get out quick!!! You and the kids will be better off. If you need help go to your local shelder for women and chrilden. Be smart not stupid. I wish you and your chrilden well!! Take care.
2007-01-10 10:45:10 · answer #4 · answered by RC C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time for you to move on! It's your life and you only live once! He is not ready to settle down yet if he is cheating on you. He needs to grow up and be a man by taking the responsibilty for the children he has created and the family he created with you. It's time for you to leave that lazy sacreligious minister!
2007-01-10 10:41:00 · answer #5 · answered by rucrazy5150 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry him???
I've only been married since Sept 21, 06 together only a year and he abandoned me....short marriages can happen!
Good luck and take care.
2007-01-10 10:35:01 · answer #6 · answered by Smiling Belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey it is never to late to leave someone. With all you have explained maybe you should get a divorce. I think that you should follow your heart and if he is not the one in your heart the way a husband should be then I think that you should get a divorce.
2007-01-10 11:59:13 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Split up with him for god sake. Dont lie to your self .If you dont love him then tell him .I know its not easy but you can't live your life being polite to each other right? He is basically a sponger and you dont want to grow old with a guy who cheated on you on so many occasions.
2007-01-10 10:59:45 · answer #8 · answered by spyderedge30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him sister! He ain't worth it. Get those kids out of there because he is not going to change and he will set a bad example for them. He will teach them not to respect their mother and it's alright to be a looser. Be real a woman and leave him!
2007-01-10 10:38:44 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perfect example of why one should be committed and married before having children. I would say, you made your bed and now you have to lie in it.
2007-01-10 10:32:58 · answer #10 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you should leave hiom he will probably keep cheating on you once he has done it before you should be able to live a real life with some one who cares for you sweetie you can let me know what you want to do ok
2007-01-11 08:14:36 · answer #11 · answered by harold g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋