Just out of curiosity. My hubby and I have been married 4 months and we want to have kids, but not sure if it's too soon. Neither one of us is getting any younger (25 and 27).
2007-01-10 10:09:28 · 11 answers · asked by Jen G 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We talked about children about 2 years into our marriage, and decided we didn't want any. So he got a vasectomy. That does not help you any.
At your ages you have plenty of time to have children, you are not old by any stretch of the imagination. I think people should wait around 2 years to have children. (that is not a hard and fast rule by any means) Those formative years allow you two to get to know each other as husband and wife. So later when your Mommy and Daddy, you know that there is a flip side to your spouse that is not drenched in baby spit up. Also later when the kids are off in college you two will have memories of what it was like together w/o children in the house and can begin to live like that again. A lot of coulples have that empty nest problem because they haven't thought of themselves (or their spouse) as anything else than Mom and or Dad. In other words, waiting to have children gives your marriage a firm base for later use.
2007-01-10 10:37:26 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We married when I was 25 and she was 26. She already had a daughter from a previous husband, who at the time was going on 5 years old.
We were married in April of 1988 and our first child together was born in December of 1989. Then another in may of 1992, and another in may of 1994.
She wanted more children right away and I preferred we got better established. In part, we made a compromise because we both wanted children and looking back I wouldn't have wanted to do it any other way.
2007-01-10 18:36:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Got married and had a baby 2 years later. If I had it to do it all over again I would have gotten married younger and had kids sooner. You still have time, but if you feel the time is right then go for it. I love being married and being a mom is the greatest fun I've ever had. Also the hardest job I've ever had but the perks are amazing!! Best of luck to you two.
2007-01-10 22:28:54 · answer #3 · answered by wwhrd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
17 years and still counting. No kids. 4 months way to early give yourselves a year or 2 before starting the family. 25 & 27 is no where near too old. My sister had her first at 39.
2007-01-10 18:34:06 · answer #4 · answered by Pandora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
got married at 27 (hubby was 28). am now pregnant with our first baby after 4 years of marriage.
2007-01-14 10:37:14 · answer #5 · answered by Kirsten 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First marriage: 5 years. Second marriage: 2 years. But I dated my first wife for 3 years before we got married, and I dated my second wife for 2 years before we got married. And we are still married after 7 years of marriage and 9 years of being together.
2007-01-10 18:36:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We wanted to do every thing the right way... we were together 4 years before marriage, we waited another four years to have kids... we wanted to make sure the marriage was secure... guess what.. 5 years after kids were born, we divorced. There is no right way. If you feel right with it.. go with it. I firmly believe in the theory now of follow your heart..
2007-01-14 17:48:50 · answer #7 · answered by tootsie38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were married almost 9 years before we had our first child. I was 34 and my husband was 41.
My parents were married 7 years before they had me. My mom was 25 and my dad was 36.
2007-01-10 21:03:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our first child came seven months after we got married!! I was 26, he was 36.
It's been great ever since!
2007-01-10 18:56:37 · answer #9 · answered by ♦♦pixiechix♦♦ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had our daughter before marriage...oooohhhh I know taboo right...
anyways they say if you dont have kids to give your self 2 to 3 yrs so you can make sure you have done all the things you want to do as a couple
2007-01-10 18:38:06 · answer #10 · answered by Pretty Princess 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋