2007-01-10 10:08:31 · 8 answers · asked by Tameeka 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because in most cases he's at fault and when all else fails...bring up the past. Its a sign of immaturity. Your husband is clearly a child and has no self esteem. I feel for you.
So..if he still does this it's time to either toss that up in his face that its mean and hurtful. If he shrugs it off.....screw him...walk out. yeah, yeah...I know...easier said than done but unless you want to be treated like a second class citizen in what should be an equal relationship than you'd best take a stand.
2007-01-10 10:50:13 · answer #1 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The pain is in the past.
A good method of dealing with past issues is to take each issue separately and thrash it out to the bitter end.
It doesnt need to be a heated argument, just a mature approach to a recurring obstacle to moving on.
Dont allow one issue to run on to another.
Tackle the first or most common issue.
A moment of anger is the wrong time to tackle it.
Sometimes it may take a long time to sort one single past issue, but it usually collapses an entire closet full if it is addressed without blaming.
Remember it only takes one to alter the course of a conflict
2007-01-11 11:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by tillermantony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i did not say something propose to my husband. i changed into really in a lot discomfort that i could not a lot talk.. or see. i actually changed into bodily blind from discomfort a good component to my exertions, lol. i tried to have an unmedicated start .. and that i made it by the first 24 hours of excellent exertions unmedicated.. yet then I basically mandatory a destroy. I wasn't prepared for it to flow that lengthy surely. next time i will basically must be! yet yea.. i did not or would not say something propose to him. He changed into basically sitting with information from my side TERRIFIED, lol. even although i changed into in an excellent volume of discomfort i actually felt sorry for him. I knew he changed into scared for me! He hates to be certain me in discomfort. I did scream and curse on the overall practitioner once although!! for the period of good exertions he stripped my membranes without asking or making waiting me for it.. and yea.. I let free on him!! I thanked him later although reason what he did probable helped me keep away from a c-sec.. yet guy on the time i might want to of killed him!! LOL
2016-12-02 02:39:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's about being right, control and dominance in general. He hurts you, because he got hurt somewhere along the "discussion" fight or flight, I deal with it everyday :(
2007-01-10 10:34:52 · answer #4 · answered by nirvana19791979 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he brings up the hurtful things because they are not resolvedm in him. or he says it because it likes to hurt you. if it's the latter of the 2, then he's a cad. if it's not, then you need to sit and talk things out.
2007-01-13 16:12:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you get the answer to that let me know. mine dose the something i think it's just there way of winning a how did you put it discussion
2007-01-10 10:32:50 · answer #6 · answered by teadropsue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he knows they hurt you. It is his way of gaining control of you, by making you feel bad by "guilting" you into submission.
If something is forgiven it should never be brought-up again.
2007-01-10 10:30:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
because he knows it works. You are allowing him to get to you, it's his way of getting the upper hand and turning the argument around.
YOU choose how to react. Try this next time........when he brings one of those things up, cross your arms and reply,"And your point, is?"
2007-01-10 10:43:07 · answer #8 · answered by moniquebell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋