I might be pregnant, but the thing is, how do I tell the father? And to make it worst, he has a girlfriend and she is having his child too. She is almost 6months. How do I tell him if I am? Should I?
2007-01-10 10:00:10 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Hi. Definitely tell him b/c secrets can come back to haunt you and he deserves to know. If you do not want to get back with him or need financial support just tell him that. Tell him he can have as much or as little to do with baby that he wants but you told him because he deserves to know. Best of luck!
2007-01-10 10:28:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming you know for sure that he is the father. The fact that you have been sleeping with a guy who has a pregnant girlfriend does not say a lot about your morals.
First off, find out if you really are pregnant. There is no use doing it and causing all the trouble that is going to follow unless you really are pregnant. You also need to decide what you are going to do. Are you going to keep it, abort it, or put it up for adoption.
Secondly, you have to just tell him. He is as much to blame here as you. If you are planning on keeping it, do not let him pressure you to do otherwise.
You should also insist that he tells his girlfriend as well, because these children are going to be brother and sister and deserve to know each other and their father.
Most important of all, be prepared for the storm to follow. Everybody will know that he is a cheater and that you slept with a soon to be dad. Many people will judge you and you need to be able to deal with that. You opened your legs and now you need to deal with the consequences.
Good luck to your child if you are pregnant.
2007-01-10 10:45:38 · answer #2 · answered by Minerva 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, make sure you really are pregnant. There is no need to put yourself through the stress of telling him something that hasn't really happened.
If you are pregnant, best to wait until you are at least 3 or 4 months pregnant to tell him. Many pregnancies end before that point....again, no sense in stressing yourself out about telling him until you are sure.
The question is: Do you WANT to tell him? Depending on his personality, you could be a victim of a crime if he feels overwhelmed and inconvenienced by so many pregnant women.
I would tell him only if you knew for sure it was his, and you are past 16 weeks, AND the guy is a good father and responsible.
2007-01-10 10:28:24 · answer #3 · answered by gg 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you need to tell him he has a right to know and Im sure that he is aware how you got pregnant in the first place he is responsible just as much as you the baby has a right to know who there daddy is and if the girlfriend is mad well to bad b/c how would she feel if the shoe was on the other foot. Im sure you would be notified if it was the other way around and if he is close minded than he isnt thinking of the poor little children he is bringing in this world.Good Bless
2007-01-10 10:39:16 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off, find out for sure if your pregnant and be 100% sure it's his. Make a choice on weather or not you want to keep the baby. (Most likely he'll be pissed and not want to deal with it) and then Tell him. Dude i'm pregnant, i'm keeping the baby and it's yours. Don't get all in his face, Don't get all in his current g/f's face either. You slept with him knowing he was with someone else who was pregnant... that's not the most admirable thing to do as is. Be calm and decided. What do you want to do? If i was the baby's dad I'd like to know... but I know it would kill my relationship. Decisions, decisions... I'm so sorry, this has to be hard. Good luck.
2007-01-10 10:29:44 · answer #5 · answered by Gig 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing the relationship you have with the father I have a hard time answering this question but I'll try.
If this man is a noble man (which I'm guessing he's not if he has 2 women pregnant, neither of which are married to him) then he deserves to know. I guess in either case they deserve to know, but you're the mama, and you need to do what's best for you and more importantly what's best for your child.
My son's father was not married, but apparently he was still with his ex-wife on the side. I got pregnant he decided since we were not going to be wed that he was going to get back with his ex-wife.
This was the choice I made. I told him that he was not to contact me until she knew he was about to have another child. When he told her she went all sorts of crazy (be prepared for this).
I knew he couldn't be a good father to my son as he wasn't the greatest father to his children so I told him "you will be in or out of this child's life, not in and out. You have until this boy is a year old to make that decision until then you can see him when you choose or not choose, under my supervision" He made the choice to be out of his life since he knew he couldn't be a consistant father, it was the best thing he could have done as a father. He knew I could give our son a much better life with him out of it than he could with him in it. I also gave his family the choice to be in my son's life or not. They are all very much a part of his life on a near daily basis. My son is no worse for the wear.
My point is, think about what you want for your child NOW, TODAY. Realize the decisions you make now will more than likely impact you for the rest of your life.
One word of advice... DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT give this child his/her father's last name. You will regret it every day. Every one of my friends that made this mistake tells me today they wished they would have listened to me and are going through hell trying to change the baby's last name to theirs.
Good luck to you, you have a long road ahead of you.
2007-01-10 10:31:40 · answer #6 · answered by Heather S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure you are for sure then go and tell him. I think that is why you do not mess with men that belong to other women because it will always come back on both of you. The best thing is to tell him if you are and then expect him to help as much as possible and pay child support on the child when he/she is born ( it takes 2 to tango)
2007-01-10 10:27:12 · answer #7 · answered by mommy of 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He left you for her? or you was the mistress? Well just tell him, but make sure that YOU are sure he is the father. If you dont know, U might want to let all the possible candidates that u are expecting and u are not sure whos the dad...
2007-01-10 10:29:33 · answer #8 · answered by u_better_remember_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should a minimum of take the try previously you tell him you're! No experience in telling him something which couldn't be a truth or not. once you hit upon out that you're pregnant,then tell him one on one. in case you want to make it a suprise you would possibly want to purchase him a card that asserts he will be a daddy quickly. solid success
2016-10-17 00:45:17 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out for sure. Then sit him down and be honest. My only question is why don't you find a man that only wants you? Your worth that. But he does deserve to know. Good luck
2007-01-10 10:24:49 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋