I've felt extremely guilty since I lost my virginity in October. It was something that nobody ever expected of me and I've always been the 'good girl'. But I think it's time to fess up...what would be the best way to tell my parents?
2007-01-10 09:53:51 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It goes something like this...................
.....Mom, Dad,
I really need your support in the decision I made to tell you...
Don't get angry with me ...I think I've done wrong and I'm not looking for your blessing in this matter but only your acceptance that I was feeling bad enough that I felt it needed to tell you...this is no means to hurt you...its just to let you know ...I love you...and hope you can continue to love me......I'm sorry....Last October .......Please forgive me!!!.....I do love and respect you!
good luck!
2007-01-10 10:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by yahoo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you feel is not guilt but shame. You are embarrassed that you violated your own code of conduct and now you feel that by telling your parents that is going to restore something within you. It won't. You made the adult decision to conduct this behavior now accept your decision and move on. After moving on with the knowledge that you are the one responsible for your actions and not your parents you should be strengthened by your resolve. Now that you have matured by accepting self responsibility you can then approach your parents, if you deem them approachable or another adult with whom you can share your life experiences. Don't approach them from a guilty standpoint because they will be able to read right through you, see that you are guilty and then no longer trust you to manage yourself, which means you will be demoted in their eyes unless you can trust them to be absolutely understanding, and who has parents like that!
2007-01-10 10:59:09 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Dann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel it is really necessary to tell them, If the guilt is too overwhelming, sit your parents down, and tell them, that you are being an adult about this situation, and you wanted them to know that you have been sexually active. Let them know that you took precautions, and that you will be more than willing to go to a Dr., to ensure that you don't get pregnant and that you plan on handeling this responsibly, and you can't tell them that you won't have sex again, but you want them to know that you will be responsible about it if you do. Give them the respect you expect to get by telling them. Good Luck!
2007-01-10 10:06:27 · answer #3 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guilt is not the best way to make decisions, do you really need to share this experience, will it help the situation by talking about it, or will it make things worse. If you feel that you need your parents advise and will feel happier because you share this information, then go ahead and talk to them, perhaps chose a night when they won't be stressed from work, and pick your time so that you can have a private conversation without interuptions, and make it clear to them that you are sharing this because you value their opinion and don't feel comfortable having this secret. I hope it goes well for you.
2007-01-10 10:07:40 · answer #4 · answered by sunirose2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't, because it is none of their business. Good grief nobody needs to know that you had sex, least of all them. If you feel guilty about it, don't do it anymore. Rededicate yourself to your faith and your God. But for the love of all that is holy keep your mouth shut about it!!! Sex is very personal.
The absolute ONLY reason they need to know ANYTHING is if you were stupid and got pregnant. Are you pregnant? No? Then just don't have sex anymore.
2007-01-10 10:28:05 · answer #5 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do, is ask them to sit down with you and talk, then just tell them the truth. They might be a little angry and not trust you for a while, but it will all be worth it in the end. Be honest and it wont go as bad.
2007-01-10 10:06:32 · answer #6 · answered by Molly 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you have an open relationship with your parents then you should sit them down and tell them. i know how you feel when you are in the "good girl" position. your parents will understand (shocked but will understand) you are a human being. dont feel guilty about this. its life. open communication is key!
2007-01-10 10:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sing her that song , I am not to sure how it goes but it goes something like this.. How can i tell my mom and dad that I've been bad, will they understand how much i loved him or will they know how much he hurt me.
Good luck. I hope you will at least know in your heart that you at least thought you loved this person..
2007-01-10 10:50:32 · answer #8 · answered by LittleDaisy. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? That was YOUR buisness, not anyone elses. That's a personal thing, a personal choice. Why the guilt now?
2007-01-10 10:05:57 · answer #9 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt tell them. They find out when they find out and if they think your such a good girl then there not even thinkin bout it so i wouldnt worry about it if i were you.
2007-01-10 10:13:34 · answer #10 · answered by .em. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋