I'm living with three monsters and I'm trying to give up smoking, unsuccessfully. They would drive anyone to drink!! I cannot remember ever being so annoying as my kids. They are driving me demented. Help! What can I do to stop the fighting, swearing, bickering, shouting, screaming. I have an older son who at the time I thought was bad but now I realise was an angel comparing to these 3 miscreants. But I love them really. Their ages range from 13 to 15
2007-01-10 09:27:32 · 28 answers · asked by djdundalk 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Do they get allowances or money from other sources. Make rules and enforce fines for breaking the the rules. Take it out of the allowance if they get one. If not they must pay the fine before they can get any type of freedom to do other things.
2007-01-10 09:58:26 · answer #1 · answered by babydoll 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's just the way we are I'm afraid. I try to be a lot less grumpy now I'm a bit older (17) but when I was that age I was just so moody for no reason what so ever, I'd burst into tears at the slightest thing and to this day me and my mum fight like cat and dog. Of course you don't remember being that annoying, you weren't annoying you, you were annoying others around you. Teenagers are just selfish, we don't tend to think about how we effect others with our moods, you're kids aren't trying to kill you or anything, they just won't notice you much for the next few years, you might as well get used to it, sorry
2007-01-13 14:42:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get them out of the house being stuck at home with each other they are probably just building tension. Then you will be able to listen to what they have to say makeing your life easyier and theres.
Try to remembre what it was like as a teenager and how things have changed try and teach them apropriate ways to resolve these arguments.
Don't keep them locked up inside trying to "protect them from the outside world" thats such a huge mistake parents make these days.
2007-01-11 12:39:12 · answer #3 · answered by Dan Ln 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds just like my house. My brothers 13 my sisters 14 and im 15. You need to give them there space. Or actually get closer. Their all going through their teenage years. The yelling, and swearing is practically normal. Try to put your foot down more.
2007-01-10 21:18:28 · answer #4 · answered by xorenée 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we teens just have a lot on our minds and we take it out on parents because we know that they will love us no matter what we say. At least that is what i have concluded being 14 and listening to my friends' stories of being angry with parents and my own experience. Sometimes just either not talking back or calmly teling them that you're open to talk works too. I think that all children just want somebody to be able to hear them and support them in a time of need
kudos for giving up smoking!!:D
2007-01-10 17:51:53 · answer #5 · answered by *♥Jinx♥* 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you, suffering the same right now. Two boys 13 and 15 next month. One minute best mates the next throttling each other. Can't do right can't do wrong, I think we have to grin bear it and try to keep our cool however hard it is. P.S. trying to give up smoking as well, bloody impossible with two teenagers LOL.
2007-01-11 14:33:30 · answer #6 · answered by Adam A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every stage brings its own problems. If I had to say no to my 3 children I gave them a reason as to why they couldn't. They are of an age now when you can try a wee bit of slack, they do try to see how far they can push you. Be consistent with your rules.
2007-01-12 18:02:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck with giving up smoking. you need to separate them. i grew out of that phase about 1yr ago maybe more, but my sisters are terrible- im sure i wasnt that bad. you just need to separate them, dont shout cos that doesnt help. this make them think- if they start bickering or swearing etc with each other or you, and they dont stop when you tell them to dont let them watch tv that evening- be forceful, dont let them persuade you otherwise. if its all 3 of them arguing, dont let any of them watch tv, if its 2 do the same. also restrict the hours they are allowed out if they start arguing. dont let them sway what you are saying. also my mum gets really annoyed wif my sisters, so she just counts to 10 and walks away if shes really stressed, or ignores them if they start arguing with her when she bans them from watching TV- it works cos they dont do it as often. good luck
2007-01-11 06:51:28 · answer #8 · answered by lalala 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love them, discipline them. Clear rules & clear consiquences for their actions. Be consistent & patient. Set an example. For instance don't yell, "NO MORE YELLING." Seek help, counseling is always a great option. ( My husband always felt asking for help meant a failure...I told him failing is giving up before seeking help!) You will survive! Oh and be creative with punnishments. Make them accountable to each other, by needing eachother to behave to avoid punnishment. Punnishment can be anything from chores to loss of privleges! Be creative & consistant! Good luck!
2007-01-10 18:18:21 · answer #9 · answered by Boppysgirl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
not all teens are hateful . why dont you try talkin to them ? im a teen myself and i dont consider myself hateful my mothers pregnant and i do nothing but stay at home and help her . im only 15 but i never go out i always stay in for my mum . in my experience (as i have an adhd 17year old brother ) i find that if you calmly talk to them . they understand . hopfully ive been a help .
2007-01-12 05:18:58 · answer #10 · answered by linda marie titchener 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋