This is a very unusually situation. My son's father hasn't been in his life for 10 yrs. I'm recently divorced and placed an ad on the Personals. Through that ad a gentleman contacted me and we corresponded a couple times and he thought he recognized me as the mother of HIS friend’s son. Well at God's will I was that woman and have allowed the father to speak with his son. Understand alot has gone on in his life and he didn't stay in contact with him. God teaches us to turn the other cheek so I did and am okay with the situation. The issue is his friend that contacted me through the Personals. We both have strong beliefs and are Christians and allowing God to guide our lives. We have really connected but are feeling a little uneasy because they are friends. I would like to get some opinions on this situation. Should we just leave each other alone? It's been 10 yrs, my ex is living with someone. Would his friend be betraying my ex? Should we talk to the ex......help..........
2007-01-10 09:24:28 · 5 answers · asked by atscarla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have to say that life is too short to be unhappy. If you and this guy have formed a wonderful connection and bring happiness to each other, it is a very special and rare thing. I think you two should try to work through this the best you possibly can, and openly communicate with each other. Be honest about how you care about him and would like to make this work, and state your concerns about his friendship because it is an awkward place for him to be in.
If your new beau is okay with seeing you and not worried about the friendship, I don't think you should have any hesitations/reservations - your ex-husband has been missing for ten years and has clearly moved on.
If he is worried and hesitant to continue a relationship with you because of your friendship, perhaps the three of you can all get together and discuss it as adults. You could explain how you two met and clicked on many different levels, really enjoy being together, and found yourselves interested in each other before you realized your ex is his best friend.
Good luck! I hope it works out for you.
2007-01-10 09:57:06 · answer #1 · answered by SeaSquirt 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's been 10 years. He has chosen not to be a part of yours and his son's lives. You don't owe him any kind of heads up on who you date or are interested in.
As far as the friend, it really depends on how well he is still acquainted with your ex. If they are still friends, then he should talk to him about it instead of letting him hear it elsewhere. If they aren't involved in each other's lives anymore, then there is no reason to stir anything up. Either way-you should not have to leave each other alone. All parties involved deserve to be happy, and since your ex has obviously moved on, you should feel no guilt about doing the same, no matter who that may be with. Best of luck to you-I hope everything works out smoothly....
2007-01-10 09:56:35 · answer #2 · answered by dragonlady 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ten years is a long time,its great for your son that his father has some contact again, but this has nothing to do with your relationships, if you had started this relationship ages age, you wouldn't even be considering what your ex thought. Follow your heart, your ex has moved on, and it looks like it might be time for you to find love. You need to have a life too. good luck with your new friend, i hope it turns out well for you both.
2007-01-10 10:00:54 · answer #3 · answered by sunirose2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"no longer some thing will ever take position between me and that guy till some thing occurs between my suitable chum and his suitable chum" If this reality is real, it means that this guy you want is basically no longer attracted to you or you're literally not attracted to him. it really is basically absurd. do no longer lead your suitable chum to go out with a guy who isn't who she likes as we communicate basically to help the guy or on your pastimes. in case you do, you'll lose your suitable chum, would have an concern consisting of your overwhelm's suitable chum, and do not imagine some thing will ever take position between you and that guy at any price. it really is a very shifty condition, in spite of the undeniable fact that it got here into your way. this isn't bartering for a automobile.
2016-12-28 15:43:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's been 10 years i would not let ur ex get in the way of true happiness...let the ex, if he wants have time to spend with his son, but dont let him control ur life...good luck
2007-01-10 10:12:27 · answer #5 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋