Please awnser!!?

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Please awnser!!?
Im 16, when i was like, 7, i was sexually abused. I feel horrible thinking about it. I never told my parents. And im not going to. They always are telling people how lucky they are nothing like that has ever happend to thier kids. But it did. and I sometime cry because i think, That guy is still out there and im sure he has done it again. And its my fault for not telling anyone. Other innocent girls can be hurt and it my fault! I stay awake at night sometimes thinking about it and i cry. I just needed to tell someone. Get it off my shoulders.

Answer 1

School counselors are "mandated reporters". That means that if you do tell your counselor, he/she may have to report it to the police despite the age of the crime.

It's important that you understand that nothing that happened to you, or that that sick man did to anybody else is your fault.

It's going to be very hard to tell your parents, but you must. You have to begin the healing process soon. Ignoring it will not make it better, and you will never "just forget" about it.

It's not your fault.

Skcid

Answer 2

I think you know you do need to tell someone. Why are you not telling your parents? Do you think it is your fault in some way?
BECAUSE IT IS NOT, NEVER WAS AND NEVER WILL BE YOUR FAULT.

Tell a teacher or a counselor that you trust at school. And GET SOME REAL PROFESSIONAL COUNSELING. You need help to deal with this - - and that is normal.

Take one step at a time. But start taking positive action to help yourself (and others) right now. Start by telling a responsible adult that you trust. And then find out how you can see a counselor/therapist/shrink.

Why are you so afraid of your parents finding out? They need to know the truth - even if it is ugly. You need their support and love more than ever now.

Answer 3

I'm sorry that happened to you. I was also sexually abused but I was so little to really understand but I still remember the guy's name and what happened and sadly it happened in front of my friends but they didn't notice. I wished I would have told someone now because if he did that to me, he probably has done that to alot of other little girls. My friend was recently sexually abused...she was 15 and it really affected her. I wish that I could do something for her but I can't. If you have bad feelings or think about it alot I suggest you tell a school counselor or an adult you trust. Then, you and that adult should tell your parents together. If you really don't want to tell your parents, still see a counselor or adult friend. I hope you feel better soon. My friend isn't the same anymore and it really affects the people around you.

Answer 4

I'm very sorry for this .... but it is in no way your fault... don't let the fact that this person has chosen to do such a horrible thing control your life and jeopardize your future. Although this is a very difficult situation I'm sure that you understand so much more and are more mature because of it compared to other teenagers your age. Try to pull strength from this and once you are at peace with yourself first, then you should definitely talk to someone once you feel comfortable. This person should face the consequences of their actions.. this will teach them and others like them that this act is wrong and will not go unpunished. I hope this helps somewhat... The most important thing is that you don't feel ashamed for someone else's crime... Talking to a therapist will help you see your feelings better and understand them once they are in the open...

Answer 5

No it is not your fault. The only one that was at fault was the person that did it to you. You were only a kid. You still are. I am the youngest out of 5 (three boy and two girls) and my dad passed away when I was little, the three older kids were taken away and us two younger ones had to stay with our mom. We had a uncle that sexually abused my brother and my mom knew and I asked her why did she not do anything and she told me that because we had no other place to go. So we had to stay. I ran away from home when I got old enough and all five of us kids years later got back together. When I heard that guy died I did not even cry or felt sorry for him. It was my mom's fault for not getting my brother out because she knew.
It was not your fault just like it was not my brother's fault. It was that guy's fault. He knew what he was doing to you. He could have stopped. You were just a child!

Answer 6

Stop being this persons "victim"! Do not allow another day to pass with this on ur young shoulders. Adults with so much more life experience and strength find it hard to deal with a tragedy like this. So, u bn so young, need to get help. About ur parents, u wrote: "And I'm not going to" (tell them) This is a mistake. This will shock them n maybe hurt them if they feel guilty or whatever BUT u will hurt them more if one day instead of crying, u bcome an angry person. U may ruin ur life n hurt ur parents more. Dont let this abuser "win" he obviously likes scaring, hurting, controlling, lil girls..u r letting him continue doing this to u. Think about it.

Good luck!

Answer 7

I am sorry that happened to you....you really need to talk to someone about it though even if it will bring up painful memories because it is the only way that you're going to be able to move past it. Tell your parents - and get yourself into some counseling.

It is in no way your fault and it's not your fault for not telling anyone.

Wishing you the best and hoping you'll go talk to someone about it.

Answer 8

my brother in law was sexually abused and it impacted his whole life he is now battling drug and alcohol addiction, he ended up putting the guy in jail after many years and the guy was doing it to others, but now he in in jail and can't continue. I urge you to get therapy to help you deal with this, he self medicates because he bottled it up for so long, If you do not want to tell your parents it is understandable, but it would hurt them more to find out 20 year later that you did not give them a chance to help you through it and that the perv got away. Gilt and shame can kill us all and this is a big secret to carry, I hope you know it was nothing that you did it was not your fault, my heart goes out to you, I wish you every once of strength and bravery as you deal with the piece of your life. You are a survivor and a great yong lady I am sure.

Answer 9

first it's not your fault, but i do think you need to tell someone. if not your parents then maybe a councilor at school.
you aren't responsible for being abused. you can only do what you're able to do. so you couldn't tell anyone before it sounds like you can now.
it would help you to talk about it.

i will keep you in my thoughts.

edit
i read your other questions, so i understand why you don't want to tell your parents. there is some good advice on here. if you can't tell anyone else try that website the answerer below me suggested.

Answer 10

Try a school counselor. If that don't work then you need to tell your parents to he!! with bragging rights. You have to learn to get past this. I had a hard time telling my parents but once I did they got me the help I needed to move on. This is not your fault and what he does after is not your fault there is no guarantee that you telling would have stopped him. Deal with you, forget ( or try ) him. You are only responsible for you.