I moved to a town about 3years ago because I had family here and I'd been through loads of crap with my partner. Anyway, all my family have moved away and Ive now gone through a fiencee who cheated on me with my best friend and a crack smoking boyfriend who stalked me for months. I feel really down staying here and my family now want me to move to where they are. The only prob is where they are is so small and secluded with absolutely nothing to do I dont no if that would make me feel more depressed than what I am now. When I go out around here I cant stand it, I hate the people I see and my ex caused so much trouble between me and people, I dread seeing them even though I havent done anything wrong. I really dont no what to do, but I have to think of my 5 year old child as well because his happyness counts too. He told me he wants to move but I really dont know. I've only got 2 friends here and they've only started making an effort since I said I was going to move.
2007-01-10 09:08:02 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It seems to me from what you have said that 'the place' is not really the issue, you hate what is associated with the place. You have been through a rough time. I would give yourself time to get over the emotions you are experiencing first.
Perhaps set yourself a time limit....6 months? In the meantime, really make an effort to get the best out of your situation and keep in touch with these two friends.
Then if things haven't worked out and you've tried, perhaps move. You don't have to move back to your family though, perhaps you could move to a larger town that is not too far away from them?
Be nice to yourself , when you feel a little more stable, I think you'll have a better idea of what to do.
You see we can go wherever we like, trouble is, our heads will always go with us!
Best wishes.
2007-01-10 10:02:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I moved to a small town because my dad lived there.I was there a few years then he moved.I started getting trouble after he had gone,there'd been bits of trouble b4 but when my dad was there I had his support & it was just stuff wot hapens on roughish estates but it got worse with sum particular people after he'd gone,no particular reason,it was just a roughish area,i'd lived there b4 so i'd always been able 2 handle it.I stayed a few years after he moved but i should of left sooner,it was as much fear of change & what i was used 2 as anything else keeping me there.Things came 2 a head & i moved & even though i had 2 liv in with my mam & put my stuff in storage(it was that bad why i left) i was so glad,it was an instant weight lifted.Things got better straight away even with the initial living arangments b4 i got rehoused.I liv near my mum now.Move & go liv near ur family,u wont regret it,it can only help.Kids readjust much easier than adults & ur child will b happy/ier coz u'l b happier.Get urself near ur family.Ur friends will fone/visit/rite if theyre proper friends.U'l make loads of new 1s.Hav a fresh start with family 2 support u.GO 4 IT GIRL.I know change is scary but by the sounds of it u wont regret it.U cant lose,u can only gain.GOOD LUCK WOTEVER HAPPENS.Ur son wants 2 move & u could move 2 the nearest town or larger village near ur parents instead of the same vilage then u'd stil b nearer 2 hav more suport.That would b a good option if thats possible 4 u.Good Luck.Happy mums have happy kids!
2007-01-10 09:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by Poppypunto 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely consider your 5 year old - and maybe talk to him - just so he knows what's going on. 5 year olds may not always fully understand, but to have someone sit and talk to them means a lot.
As for your happiness, I think you should move. People say that you cannot run from your problems. However, sometimes a fresh start is needed and then you can build your life up more.
Whatever you choose, I wish you the best of luck and a happy life.
:)
2007-01-10 09:37:29 · answer #3 · answered by beautiful_only_slightly_mental 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a fresh start and some close family will do u and ur son the world of good, i hate where i live to and i hate all my husbands friends. I would love to move and if it doesn't work out u can always come back. Children are very reciliant but they need mum to be happy. Give it a go
2007-01-10 09:13:41 · answer #4 · answered by sammyantha 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do what is right for you and your 5 yr old.I say find some middle ground find somewhere to move that is near your family so that you can pop in to see them at the weekends and be away from the area where you are now.wherever you go join some clubs and get your five yr old into some after school clubs/activities aswell.Good luck.
2007-01-10 09:18:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go there for a couple of weeks, and concentrate how your your feelings are there. Don't rush into it. It may help, then it may not work. Or, try to florida or the nice sunny places. I enjoy the sun myself. But only you are in charge of what you want, you are your own person, and with a son to think about you and he talk about it. Let him know about your problems, ask him about his own, if he has any. Then base your feelings with his. Don't let your friends try and keep you there. A child of five can be pretty upset cause you're not listening to him. They know more than you may think. I wish you luck
2007-01-10 09:31:30 · answer #6 · answered by blue_eyedpixies2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh hun!! ive been in your situation. i moved away from my home 4 8 yrs and they werent the best. i tried to stand proud but eventually came home. im so glad i did. i was able to start a new life again and my daughter was so much happier coz i was. thinks are different when u leave somewhere u think u no but its the best thing i ever did. good luck babe. u do what u feel will make both u and your child happier xx
2007-01-10 09:14:25 · answer #7 · answered by trout 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK first your child must come first then you must be happy in yourself i think move away start fresh new life maybe new man friends etc you can always find someone on here to talk to become friends etc think of your child and yourself i open to talking to anyone but you need too be happy
2007-01-10 09:18:30 · answer #8 · answered by johnny boy rebel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have the opportunity to leave a place that you are not happy then you should. Is it possible that you could just move near family someplace in between that might be more you style? Good luck!!!
2007-01-10 09:17:48 · answer #9 · answered by irish eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would put your child first, the location to where your moving should be embodied around his needs(and yours) like school, close shops, medical centres etc. life maybe hard now, mine is too, but learn from your mistakes. family in close support roles are great to have, especially when you have children.i hope you sort this out for both you and your child
2007-01-10 09:25:46 · answer #10 · answered by scott g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋