what shall i do about my 15 year old wanting a girlfriend if i think it's wrong?

Answer 1

You are the parent, you know your child and what is best for him. You set the standard and make rules in your house to teach you kids morals, right, wrong. That is what parents do. You won't always be popular, but you still have to do the right thing. I believe a person should not start dating till 16. Believe me, I wish my parents would have set more boundaries for me. I married too young and at 35 am still paying for bad decisions I made earlier in life. It's worth it to set boundaries for your child, and yes 15 and living at home is still a child.
You should have started younger. You pick an age when you feel it's okay to have a girlfriend and talk to your kids as they grow up about when it's okay to to have a girlfriend, and what is appropriate and what is not. that way, at 15 when there is lots of pressure, he will already know what he should do.
Now that he is 15, you just have to present it to him in a way that makes him feel respected and still mature. Be kind when you talk to him and let him know you think highly of him. The worse thing is to make him feel childish and controlled. If you do that, he will go behind your back. Explain why you think that way, give him real life examples. Tell him what good things can come from waiting and what some of the natural consequenses of life will be if he does not listen to you. At 15, they have some independence and could always do it without your knowledge so treat him as you would like to be treated, but be convincing and sincere and let him know what you expect of him. Hopefully if you have a good relationship with him, he will listen.

Answer 2

Make sure you ahve had 'the talk' and lay down some ground rules. He is 15, he has horomones charging through him. Whether or not you think it is wrong, it is a reality. I would try to make it a supervised thing, she can come to your house for dinner and homework (doors open) and he can go out on group dates with an early curfew. If you give a little and show him trust,, then maybe he will reward you with being trustworthy. And this could open up a new door of approachability between you two. Maybe he will come to you when making big decisions.... good luck! (and I am soooo glad I have a few more years before this is my life!)

Answer 3

i'm with Konrad on this one...let ur son live and learn...
it is perfectly normal for a teenager to want to start relationships...
listen...if he isn't an abusive or violent type of kid, then why not let him have a girlfriend...and even so...he might act out more if he CAN'T have a girlfriend!
why do u think that it is wrong for ur 15 year old to have a girlfriend?
i think u should let him love--just make sure that u keep him in line
make sure he keeps up his grades and what ever else...
he might even become more mature, sensitive, kinder, understanding, happier, etc!!!
why is it that people think love is so wrong???
when u were a teenager...weren't u interested in dating???
u've just gotta trust ur kid to make the right decisions
if u can't trust ur own kid to LOVE(the most beautiful thing in the world)...then...u really need to take a good hard look at ur relationship with ur son and c where u need to improve as a parent
good luck
xao:)

Answer 4

you should get that boy to sit down show him the tools he needs to avoid pregnancy and all the different illnesses std's
i would think that by now he would at least know that he needs to have the protection but look at all the girls on here asking i am 14 and i am pregnant ?
so even though you would prefer he did not have sex at his age and you may tell him that you should at the very least give him the box of protection so you don't end up with a son asking
i am 15 and i got this girl pregnant what ?
that's the way i would do it .
now you may think he would have the sense to buy them but it seems that even though some boys figure there old enough to be a situation where there needed they are just not old enough to buy them saying I'm to shy .
inform him of why you think its wrong give him the box and pray

Answer 5

You have to let your kids grow up, and I know it's hard. He will respect you if you let him get a girlfriend.
When you're a teenager, having a girlfriend/boyfriend is a very big thing. Don't you remember being a teen? *lol* Anyways, all I'm saying is that your son's a teenger, and a young one, so of course he's going to want a gf.
Sometimes, it's hard to let your kids grow up, but you just have to do it. Tell him to respect your wishes, but remember that there's nothing wrong with having a gf/bf.

Answer 6

I would find a way to compromise because if you don't, he may get a girlfriend anyway. I think you need to discuss with him your reasons for objecting, he might surprise you and be able to reassure you. Without more information, I think it's pretty normal for a fifteen year old to want a girlfriend.

Answer 7

there's nothing wrong with him wanting a girlfriend.. that's normal.. I'd say let him. What are you worried about? You're the parent obviously, so dont let him have sex and crap.. if you can stop him. but if he really wanted to he'd go and do it anyway. Dont be the parent that ties there kids down. Let him grow.

Answer 8

I don't think it's a good idea, 15 is too young to be in a relationship, besides he has all his life to have a girlfriend, there's no need for it now. I think 17-18 is a good age.

Answer 9

why is it wrong? i agree with konrad on this one. he has to grow up sometime. i hate it when mothers are so overprotective of their sons. it's really annoying. they have to grow up someday, they have to make their own decisions, and they have to fail in order to be successfully, unfortunately this is how life is, and if you don't let him have a girlfriend he will be miserable! let your son grow up, he's 15 & he can decide what girl would be good for him. you shouldnt keep him away from girls, it is natural for guys to like girls & have girlfriends. i am in 8th grade, and konrad & i are boyfriend/girlfriend. we are 13. i am one of the happiest girls alive, and we love eachother very much. i think it is important for a boy to have a relationship with a girl in middle school or high-school. let him live, you can't keep him little forever, as much as you would want to.

Answer 10

kids grow up a lot faster these days. most kids have non serious boyfriends and girlfiends from being like 6! but really, most have serious relationships at around this age........some lost their virginity years before turning 15 and others didn't. you have to trust your son that he'll be careful and not rush into stuff, but you shouldn't stop him...it's his life and he won't thank you for interfering. chances are, the relationship won't work out anyway.