Gay marrige (?)?

Question

Do you think gay couples should be able to raise children


I think if a child is raised by gay parents and his/her classmates know they will tease and their school life will not be a good one

Answer 1

So you understand where I'm coming from, you should know I'm a lesbian in a committed relationship with another woman.

We've been together nearly 9 years, and adopted a 4 year old girl nearly 5 years ago. She's 9 now.

We had this concern when we adopted, as any gay adoptive parents would.

And here is how it turned out:

My daughter came home from school one day last year and told us a boy on the playground was giving her a hard time about having two moms and no dad. We knew this would happen one day, and this was the day.

So we sat down to talk to her about it, expecting we would have to make her feel better about it. Instead, we had the following conversation, which isn't verbatim, but will give you the idea.

Kid: "XXX was teasing me today about you guys."
Me: "What did he say?"
Kid: "He said I was a freak because I have two mommies and no daddy."
Me: "What did you say back to him?"
Kid: "I asked him if his parents love him."
Me: (surprised) "Why did you ask him that?"
Kid: "I told him that I'm nice to people, even if they are different, because it makes my mommies happy, and that makes them love me more."

The fact is, we have never actually SAID that to her. She must have just picked it up from how we act around other (different) people.

Me: (still surprised) "That's right, you should be nice to everyone, and treat them with respect."
Kid: (rolling her eyes) "I KNOW that, mommy!"
Me: "So what did he say when you asked him that?"
Kid: "He said yea, his parents love him."
Me: "Do you think his parents want him to be nice to people?"
Kid: "I don't know, but he sure isn't nice to ANYone. He makes fun of lots of kids."

I pretty quickly understood that this bully made fun of black kids, asian kids, fat kids, etc.

So I put a call in to the school, and the teacher confirmed that this kid was a real problem. My wife and I offered to meet with this kid's parents, but the teacher called back after calling them, and said they weren't interested in talking to us, that their kid wasn't the problem.

The teacher sympathized with me, and told me she (and a lot of other parents) disagreed with this kid's parents.

So, maybe this kid and his parents ARE "normal" as you contend. If they are, I'm sure glad my family is NOT.

But wouldn't it be nice to live in a world where tolerance of differences IS normal? Since gay people continue to be parents, either through natural means or adoption, it's definitely something we should work toward, don't you think?

As for my family, we will keep working toward that world, one playground bully at a time.

Answer 2

What does your original question have to do with the rest of your post?

The two things aren't related at all..even in the straight community they're not related issues.

Gay Marriage(?)? : YES! Legal recognition for same sex couples! Absolutely.

Gay Parenting: YES! My son has NEVER once been teased, bullied, called names or any other sort of harassment because he's raised by two lesbians.


How about this, should bullies, homophobes, haters be allowed to pick on those who "they" see as different?
Come on, it's not like it's the victims fault that bullies are so inadiquate that they feel it's necessary to pick on these kids. No, it's the PARENTS of the bullies who encourage their kids to hate others, who are indifferent about their kids lives, who use money and MTV to raise their kids for them, who forget there is a whole world of differnces out there and to be accepting of them.

Answer 3

Hey , I was raised by straight parents and I know first hand that it's no insurance against bullying. I was physically, emotionally and sexually abused by other kids just for being the smart, shy, skinny kid. In high school, I was called a lesbian just because I didn't put out! I had suicidal tendencies and chronic depression for most of my twenties. I'll be 30 in April.

The one antidote that I see to this is not by choosing not to have children because you're gay, in an interracial marriage, Muslim, Black, or whoever you are. It's by raising your children to love everyone like Forester814 is doing (and doing quite well I might add!). Just imagine, if we all did that, there wouldn't be any bullies in the world, child or adult.

Answer 4

The president does no longer write the legislation. I am a company believer in confined executive as a consequence I think congress must no longer intrude within the elementary proper of the pursuit of happiness. I propose this sort of legislation restricting marriage, established completely on devout ideals additionally violates the courts responsibility to uphold the separation of church and state. This responsibility is about on priority. Other than devout reasoning there's NO argument to hinder Gays from marriage.

Answer 5

Although what you said is true, there are a lot of other things that kids get teased about as well. For instance, if the father or mother went to jail, they would be teased about that as well. But no one ever suggests that those people should have their children taken away so they don't get teased.

Answer 6

Being teased is part of life. Parents cannot protect their child from any possible or potential teasing. If the kid is not teased because he/she does not have gay parents then there will be something else that will come up.

Answer 7

Hello?
Following your logic, the following people shouldn't be able to have children, because they are going to be teased at school too:
red headed, buck-toothed, big nosed, ugly, obese, freckle-faced, knobby-kneed, cross-eyed, ultra smart, ultra dumb, those with accents or lisps, those with alien religious beliefs, and any ethnic or racial minority.

Stop being so precious. If you are going to be homophobic, at least have a better-thought out argument than this tripe. Kids get teased no matter what. Maybe you should devote your energies to putting a stop to schoolyard bullying?!?!?

Answer 8

You'd be surprised how many kids really DO NOT CARE about stuff like this. They're kids and all they know is that they have two loving parents who would do anything in the world for them.

Answer 9

isn't that the fault of society?

the same thing was said when inter-racial marriage was discussed.

it is life, should we keep our society in the stone ages to protect a child that is going to get teased anyway. whether it be braces, glasses, too fat, too thin, red hair, freckles, clothes out of style, too smart, too dumb, too tall, too short.....

I say lets make our world a better place by doing what is right and raising our children to be good people.

Answer 10

Two good loving parents are better than two lousy ones or one loving one and one lousy one. Having said that, I think you make valid points. Also, marriage was intended to be between a man and a woman. The issues you mention illustrate the problems we get into when we try to take the natural order of things and twist them toward our own selfish desires.