im really lost right now and feeling depressed?

Question

hey guys latly ive been feeling really depressed i think its becasue of my girlfriend and other family issues right now i know my girlfriend cheated on me at new years but i cant come to face her and tell her about it and how i know..you know guys and there bragging...well yea i found out its been really bugging me and now i when i talk to her i guess the guilt is getting to her and shes talking to me but shes acting different then normal and when i ask her whats wrong she says that some people are confusing her and im guessing its me then my parents are on the verge of getting divored and thats getting to me too what should i do guys and me and this girl have been going out for a year now and for the last 2 weeks ive been really out of it like i dont even feel like going out any more with my friends what do you guys think i should do to help me get out of this feeling even if i dump her i feel like im still gunna be the same

Answer 1

You need the company of people who have nothing to do with any of that.

Answer 2

If she cheated, confront her and dump her..a year lost now is better than 10 lost after you marry and have kids involved..you will never be able to trust her again and you thiink you are miserable now? As far as the depressed feelings go, I am bipolar and 30 years old..it was only a year ago that I realized with all the meds in the world, the one thing that seems to make the depression better, especially when you know what is causing it, is to confront and conquer..making a decision alone, will help you feel better, knowing you made the right one is even better..You already know the answer..

Answer 3

Address these problems one at a time.
FIrst of all "Guys talk". But they do not always tell the truth.
So, get this out in the open with your gf. The worst that can happen is that you break up and you are thinking of that anyway.
If she cheated on you and likes the other guy, move on. There are much better girls for you out there.
There is nothing you can do about your parents. Just realize that you are not the cause of it and you cannot prevent it.
Now, see if there is a high school counselor whom you can discuss this stuff with. Know that someday you will be happy again. It takes time.
Good luck.

Answer 4

First, realize that you can't solve the world's problems and that it's not your responsibility to do so. Your parent's divorce will definitely affect you, but it's not something that you have any control over. You must learn how to focus on yourself and your own needs. It's hard to toughen up enough to w/stand the obstacles in life, but you have a responsibility to yourself (and those that love you) to learn how to do just that. You have to fall back into love with life. Self love is not something people talk about often, but it's necessary to develop self love in order to progress. Focus on what is in your control. Talk to your girlfriend if you desire to do so.......or exercise your option to leave her. You must ensure that you don't do anything now that will have long term repercussions or will affect your future. You're dealing with some pretty tough issues right now....but the future could be as bright as you decide to make it. It can get better as you have much to look forward to. Spend some time thinking about the future instead of what's going on in your life today. Good Luck

Answer 5

You are perfectly normal. Everyone goes through what you are going through. And everyone comes out of it, and often all the better for it...remember if it doesnt kill you it only makes you stronger.

The relationship question is easy, leave her, you can never trust her again, and you will always wonder, and obsess on her faithfullness to you.

The depression is natural, this wont be the last time. You will come out of it. The only question is how long you will wallow in it.

The antidote to depression is the same for everyone...it is action....put one step in front of the other and get busy doing things, and seeing people.

I know you dont feel like it. You are not motivated because you are depressed. The remedy is to realize that in this situation you wont feel motivated first and then take action.

You must take action and then the motivation will come...for instance if you work out you know its hard to get motivated, but if you just sit down and put your socks on then pack your equipment one step in front of the other then at some point you will feel motivated....then its easy...so start moving and then you will feel better and motivated...

Good luck...

Answer 6

Being betrayed is so hard, confront her and ask in a non hostile way. If she admits it and shows true remorse, than you will have to decide if the trust is too damaged. A relationship is the sum total of all of your past experiences. You can't forget but we can forgive. But don't do if you really can't. I tried and couldn't do it and wasted alot of my time, when I should have moved on. Think long term, will you wonder what she's doing, become controlling, see what I mean? It hurts I know but just do what you can do, you can't count on others to do the right thing. Tell her you love her, hug her and leave, and let her think about that, if she really wants your relationship she will fight for it. The ball is in her court. Bob

Answer 7

life is hard and you have to make decisions and accept the consiquenes if you cant ask her write to her at least she will know how you feel tell her how it made you feel she should accept that and answer you but if not its hard to let go but you should know that there are more fish in the ocean if you know what that means and for your parents it is difficult to not have any parent but you will be with one of them they have to make the dicision and accept the conciquenes right you will have both parents but two houses its hard im sorry i dont know but i know living without any parent i do and i miss them dearly take care my address is [e-mail] ok if ya like to chat... only if ya want you dont have to.... take care of you thats all you can do... look after number one thats y......o......u...!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

You have been hit hard with disappointment. You don't want to stay with a cheater.......they tend to do it again and again.....My mom and dad got divorved my Sr. yr of high school and it sucked, but in the end it was the best thing for my parents....my dad was a drunk and my mom would have died if she stayed. It got to the point where he was hitting me and my sister. Which he never did until he came between him and mom.

Answer 9

I think you need to dump her and get on with you life. Look at it as a blessing. Look at it this way. Would you really want to marry somebody like that?

Answer 10

The faster you can come to terms with what's going on between your gf and you, the faster you can move on. She cheated on you dude...get outta there...once a cheater, always a cheater..