i don't want to get punished like a kid anymore. how do you tell your parents that you should be grounded? all of my friends parents ground them when they get in trouble but my mom and dad don't. i would much rather get grounded. i told them that my friends get grounded a couple months ago but they don't change there mind.
2007-01-10 08:21:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
they think i am just like my little brother or sister. i get put in time out or get a spanking. ight now they are making me go to bed at 8:30 for a 9 more days on top of everthing.
2007-01-10 08:52:05 · update #1
rumbler how do i get them to ground me instead. i don't get parts of your answer.
2007-01-10 10:16:27 · update #2
rumbler why won't they use a different punishment?
2007-01-10 10:40:26 · update #3
why wont they change there minds?
2007-01-10 10:41:29 · update #4
i am older then my brother and i should not be treated the same way.
2007-01-10 10:44:55 · update #5
Zach, boppysgirl has a perspective on your situation and is giving you good advice. the key is to not do the bad things.
Helping you mom do the dishes or sort laundry and help her put it up might be a good way to show your parents that you are sorry for your recent actions.
That may help them be less upset. Most times, we parents are really mad at our kids, but disappointed and that hurts us. It seems to kids we are mad, but it is the other most times. Help out your mom and dad and show you are responsible and they will quit being upset in a few days. Mostly though, just don't do things that wil get you in trouble.
I'd not press the grounding issue, because they feel spanking is more effective and I bet they are right. Again, i think you have good parents.
From communicating with you, I am pretty sure that your emotional maturity level is a bit younger than your age, as is your body. Both will change, soon enough. Your reasoning is still more that of a boy and not a teen. Remember you are just now a teen in years. I do not tell you this to hurt your feelings or anything, but because i was that way too at about your age. things are tough during these years of age.
Anyway since you are doing more boy like things, like the markers incident, they are disciplining you in a more child like way. This is not wrong. They are trying to make the punishment fit the crime.
If I were to get a ticket and te patrolman let me choose the amount of the fine, I'd probably choose a small amount (human nature) and then speed again, but if the fine were large and it hurt my wallet, it might have a better chance of slowing me down.
That's just an example, but i hope you can see my point.
I'm not going to be near my computer as often for the next number of days, so I may not get to answer if you have questions, but try to listen to the advice of others who give advice similar to mine. And, don't follow anymore advice of people who tell you to destory or mark on someone elses stuff.
I'm glad your mom told you about not giving out info here, that is good that you know that!
I answered your other question here ( about helping around the house) so I won't answer it separately
Wish you well kiddo!
Take Care
PS to your other question about how to get them to ground you instead.
It is not going to happen right away. as long as you do boy ike things, like marking your brothers things, they won't consider a new type of punishment. Don't eben try, they are not going changes their minds yet. The only way is to try very hard to do what is right and to try to get along with your brother ad sister as well as take your baths as they require, do your homework when you first get home. If your brother or sister do something to you, tell your mom and dad and don't take it in to your own hands.
If you behave well like this for several months, then you may be able to talk to them about different type of punishments.
I think that is the best you can hope for. It's up to you and how you behave.
Zach: they will only change their minds when and if they feel it is an effective punishment for you. They don't feel grounding is right now and since you said yourself you do not mind being grounded, they are right about that. You mind being spanked etc, so it is their hope that since you don't like it eventually you will get tired enough of it that you will behave more maturely. That is also why I think it will be some time before they change their minds. I never used a punishment on my kids that they wanted because I knew it would not make them behave better.
Later
2007-01-10 09:53:34 · answer #1 · answered by rumbler_12 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, most criminals don't get to choose their punishment... That doesn't make sense, at all! Instead of weighing doing wrong based on what the punishment is you should just try to stay out of trouble. Obviously, if your parents switched to "grounding" you would be happier, right? So how is something that makes you happy punishment, or good punishment? Stay out of trouble. It will come back to haunt you someday!
2007-01-10 08:40:39 · answer #2 · answered by Boppysgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What they're doing is a good thing. The more degrading the punishment, the better. Should make you think twice before you do whatever you did again!
If you don't want to have to deal with those punishments, then don't get into trouble. It's as simple as that.
2007-01-10 08:59:51 · answer #3 · answered by Random G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick a time when you are *not* in trouble to explain, rationally and reasonably, why you feel your current punishments are not appropriate and what you think would be.
Do NOT mention what "everyone else's parents" do. That is the best way to have your parents say "If every one else's parents let them jump off a bridge should we let you too?"
2007-01-10 08:35:55 · answer #4 · answered by tabithap 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think most teen guys definitely do NOT like getting a sore stinging butt. We don't like the "drop them and bend over" routine. And by mid-teens I reckon we could sort of 'refuse' to be spanked ... the alternative, grounded or loss of certain privileges. That lasts much longer than the sore but lasts.
2016-01-25 13:24:15 · answer #5 · answered by Jim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you don't mention what your punishment is I'm guessing you'd rather be grounded and free to just hang than having to do some "chore" to make up for what you did...
here's an idea try to keep from doing the wrong thing in the first place.
2007-01-10 08:29:33 · answer #6 · answered by Chele 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to avoid doing what you are doing to get into trouble. Also know the difference between spanking and beating. If you feel your parents are out of control, speak to a teacher, counselor or someone else that can get you help.
2007-01-10 08:25:45 · answer #7 · answered by been_there_done_that 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wait, you WANT to be grounded? what do your parents do now?
anyhoo,
the most adult way to approach this is to sit them down calmly and explain your reasoning and your feelings
"Mom, Dad, I'm not a kid anymore and I would like you to reconsider punishments for when I misbehave...etc."
good luck
2007-01-10 08:30:18 · answer #8 · answered by bec 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA...you're funny! And punishments are suppose to be degrading. Let them spank you....as long as it doesn't leave bruises. AHAHAHAHAA. Because a bruise means abuse. Maybe in your parents eyes, you're not as old as you say you are. =D!
2007-01-10 10:18:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
how old are you and if you dont want to get in trouble dont do stupid things. im 15 and i was never grounded. my parents dont really do stuff like that its dumb and they know it
2007-01-10 09:14:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋