Depressed and shy?

Question

Don't want to talk to some shrink. Can't talk to my family for my motto with them is trust noone. Don't trust a shrink ether. 21 yrs old. Any ideas? Thinking of killing myself. No longer believe in God so none of u can use that crap. Talking to family is not a option. Plus I can't afford a shrink too.

Answer 1

Hi. Sorry to hear you're going through a rough patch, I hope you'll get out of it soon. Please remember that suicide is a permanent solution to temporary problems!

Shyness is a personality trait, not much can be done about it. Does it really bother you? If so, why? Are your fears rational, or not? If they are not rational, you might be able to solve them by thinking it through.

For your depressed moods, I have a website for you with an idea for a therapy you can do at home, in about four days, without a supervisor. I can't guarantee it will make you happy happy joy joy, but you could try if it works. Don't think it's stupid right away: http://homepage.psy.utexas.edu/HomePage/Faculty/Pennebaker/Home2000/WritingandHealth.html

It's something we discussed in Psychology class, called the Writing Paradigm. Read the instructions and see.

If you aren't a religious person but would like a spiritual pick-me-up regardless, look for books on philosophy or eastern religions (which are a bit easier on the whole God-thing and a bit heavier on the 'living in the present'-thing).

I sincerely hope you'll feel better soon.

Answer 2

A shrink would ask why you are depressed and shy? Do you know why? What has happened in your life? Personally, after years of abuse and FINALLY seeing a shrink, it really helped. Yes, there are wacko shrinks. You said you are turned off to God...but actually there are some great resources available through churches. I interviewed several shrinks before finding the right one. It's hard to step out of the reality of your pain to interview someone, but if you can pull it off, it's well worth it to find someone you really trust. Also, many shrinks, especially those who may be recommended to you through a church pastor, may use a sliding scale for payment. Don't kill yourself. 21 is to young to make such a permenent choice. Is there anyone in your life you can trust to help you through this? You need to find someone to talk to. I get not wanting to talk to family and not having anyone. But, if it's a matter of life and death, you just have to reach out to someone...and reach hard until someone holds your hand. There are caring, loving, nonjudgemental people out there, you just have to get linked up with them. Let someone help you. Email me if you need a hand.

Answer 3

By coming on here and speaking up ,,, you are not ready for the suicide trip..
The first thing I think you should do is get a pet.. it will depend on you.. love you.. give you joy.. be happy when you come home.. Especially a dog can fill in the loneliness.

Now, there is a big Plus in here too..

PLUS:
Take your dog for a walk in the park and you will be surprised how many people will stop and talk to you. When you have a dog ... you are approachable.. SHY? heck.. talk about your dog.

Just A Thought To Try To Help

GOOD LUCK
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Answer 4

No longer believe in God no wonder you're depressed. Wow, I can't really think of anything. I can't think of a single thing to inspire hope without God. All I can recommend now is find a pill for depression.

Either that or change the way you think. Think about positive things. And find better friends. The only thing that makes depression worse than being alone is being around depressed people.

Answer 5

Hang in there kid. I'm glad you came here. I sometimes get depressed and see a shrink and im on antidepressants that help.Try talking to a friend, your doctor, councillor, teacher....ANYBODY. If you feel uncomfortable speaking to someone you know...call helpline service and tell them how you feel. It's worth a try and yes strangers do care about you. You are worth living. You can e-mail me if like. Good luck! And don't lose the faith.

Answer 6

It's ok your not alone. Many people are depressed you can get over it. Just think many people live with it, actors, pro sports players, and many others around you. Please talk to your family i know you say its not an option but they can make ou feel better. You are going to be ok. They are just your feelings you can be happy again. Go out with your friends ,find a nice guy, trust me every girl can find a nice guy that wants to take care of them. Your going to be okay fight through it think about the great things you hav eto look foreward to. Your going to be ok i promise.

Answer 7

Hey dont kill youself.Every life is worth living. Start today and make a change. start doing things you love.And learn to trust a little theres a lot of good people out there. And dont give up on God. Remember if you take your life satan wins.email me [e-mail] i use this one more

Answer 8

why don't you just think it over. sit listen to music and think, forget about all the dam shrinks and questions, you should just lay there, do nothing about anything and be yourself, i do the same. forget about everybody's ****** up life and be myself alone for a moment. wow i sound like a shrink person, well yeah.

Answer 9

How are you asking for helping if you're telling everybody NOT to help you? Honey you have to open yourself up to all areas of constructive advice and reason....we don't know why you hate life or why you don't believe in God....someone telling you to pray and believe may be the only way that they know how to encourage you to go on......taking your life is not the way to go, please try to find someone you trust and feel comfortable speaking with.....you don't have to pay for all forms of help, there are hotlines that you can call.......

Answer 10

DONT DO THAT BECAUSE YOU HAVE A WHOLE LIFE A HEAD OF YOU AND KILLING YOURSELF ISN'T GOING TO SOLVE THAT PROBLEM AT ALL I HAVE TRIED AND I AM 14 I WENT THROUGH THAT 4 TIMES EVERY TIME I BREAK DOWN AND CRY. NOW I GET MY BIBLE AND READ. YOU MIGHT DON'T BELIEVE IN GOD BUT READ SOMEONES BIBLE . OR GET ON YOUR KNEES AND ASK HIM WHAT CAN I ,DO BECAUSE I NEED SO HELP TO FIND MY PLACE IN LIFE. THAT IS WHAT HELPED ME THROUGH THE HARD TIMES