Yes, it's me again. First, thanks to all of you, who answered my first question few hours ago, I really appreciate it and it'll be tough to choose a best answer!!
Among the names you showed I saw the name of my son's father (my dear husband). I really, really wanted to name my baby after him! But he already has a son from a previous marriage... my baby is going to be his second son and my hubby told me that here in the US most people might find it a little weird and they might think it's funny. He also told me that his first son might get ofended. What do you all think about that? I don't want to make anybody uncomfortable. I was actually hopping that my son and his brother might have a relationship one day... although I don't see that happening, because his other son lives on the other end of the world and he and my hubby barely see each other more than 2 times in the year. Plus, I liked some of the other names you suggested. Thanks
2007-01-10 07:52:38 · 34 answers · asked by baby2007 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
of corse! its your kid, you can name him whatever you feel is right!
2007-01-10 07:55:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see any harm in it if it's something you and your husband can come to agree on. It didn't quite catch this in your question. Does your husband's first son share his name as well? Just curious. I still don't think it's that big of a deal especially if the father and son don't see each other often. That has to be hard. Hopefully that will change in the future. I actually had a similar dilemma. I have a daughter from my first marriage. My husband has two daughters and a son from his first relationship. We have one little girl together. I also just found out I'm pregnant with my 3rd. Our 2nd together. I wanted to name it after my husband if it was a boy the last time and since it wasn't I like the idea this time as well. His son doesn't have his first name, but he does share the middle name. I had also considered using just my husband's first name and a different middle name. I know it is traditional to name the first born son after the father, but I don't really think it matters. We've actually decided to go with a totally different name. Not because of the tradition. Just because my husband hates his name and he practically begged me to pick something (anything) else. In your case though I think it's a great expression of your love for your husband and I think it would be a wonderful honor. Hopefully you can get your hubby on board. Good luck and congrats on the baby!!
2007-01-12 20:14:49 · answer #2 · answered by Child Of Thought 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know two boys, 13 and 11. The first is named Jesse, the second Gerald - after their father. The first doesn't feel slighted in the least, and the second likes his name. It's probably a bit unusual, but I really don't think there's any problem with it.
If the first son might feel offended by it, why not ask him about it? Communication can solve so many problems.
What's the name, by the way? Just curious.
2007-01-10 08:11:37 · answer #3 · answered by Bishop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend in the same situation. He had a son from his first marriage, and a son with his new wife, and they named the second son after him.
I don't see why someone would find anything wrong with it. I think it's fine!
As far as making the other son uncomfortable, I don't know him so I can't speak for him, but you have to do what you think is best. If you think the perfect thing is to name him after your husband, than do it! :-)
2007-01-10 10:16:31 · answer #4 · answered by Syd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you'd have to explain to your fist son why he isn't named after his father. If you want your boys to love each other as brothers, I don't think it would be a good idea to name your second son after your current husband, because that will be a daily re-enforcement that your first born is not your husband's, it could be divisive. And other people will wonder why, some may ask you, but most will make their own assumptions. It is difficult enough for grown adults to brush off other people's assumptions, but much more difficult for a child.
I think you should think of another name, perhaps a name that is in your family, or something "new" that isn't in either of your families. After all, you are making your family now!
2007-01-10 08:08:12 · answer #5 · answered by Lois D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it does happen. I never really understood why. My ex was the third brother. His second oldest brother was named after his father. They all come from the same mother and father. Why the first born son wasn't named after his father I don't know.
In your situation especially, I don't see why you shouldn't name him after your husband. I personally would never name my child after my husband. I think every kid ought to have his own identity, not have to be Little Joe, Junior, or JR.
Why can't he be named something totally different from Dad? In my current husbands family everyone is Bill the first Bill the second, Bill the third, Bill the third got smart and named his son Dalton. I admire him for that.
2007-01-10 17:30:33 · answer #6 · answered by Karen H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 nephews. One is named with just some names they chose. The second son is named for their dad. I don't think it is weird. I like it. The first son usually gets everything. Why not the second. I say name the baby what makes you guys happy. Good luck and Congrats on the new baby.
2007-01-10 07:58:32 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course you can name his second son after him. Just because his ex didn't dosent' mean you can't. I doubt that the name would be what keeps them from having a relationship. The other brother might be mad that your son gets to be with his dad full time when he only gets to see him twice a year.. Go for it!
2007-01-10 11:22:34 · answer #8 · answered by Tina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that would be a good idea seeing that his first son has his name. It isn't necessarily that this is his second son getting his name, but it's the fact that that honor had previously been given. Try a variation of your husband's name ( I am not sure what that is), but that seems to be a better idea.
2007-01-10 08:05:43 · answer #9 · answered by Vanessa H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to name your second child then go for .Why do we all worry about what others think.It is your baby and i am sure the kids from your husband first marriage will have to live with it.Dont live under the thumb of making others unhappy cause you will live youe life doing what every else wants .I think it is a good idea go for it .And people in the US i dont really think they care what you name him.It is an excuse on the part of you husband not to rock the X boat .
2007-01-10 09:01:00 · answer #10 · answered by Donna Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, you can definitely give your son his Father's name. Being the second son doesn't designate him to being a second class citizen in the family. Sorry for son #1, but that was HIS mother's decision.
Do what you feel is best.
2007-01-10 07:59:39 · answer #11 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋