My husband and I had a huge fight and it was my fault. He left for work and he told he that he loves me and that he will see me after he gets off of work. I just looked around and nodded my head and he left. He was trying to make things right before he had to head to work. I feel bad because for being upset about our fight, I did not tell him that I love him or get to kiss him bye. It is killing me inside. And he wont be home until another 4 or 5 hours. I love him so much and I just feel bad because he loves me the same and I said some really screwed up things when I was mad.
2007-01-10 07:31:37 · 17 answers · asked by DDee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He does not own a cell. And where he works he has no access to a phone unless in an emergency situation. He works in a plant. All work.
2007-01-10 07:38:19 · update #1
Never, ever fail to say "Goodbye or I love you" without a kiss. Even if it isn't reciprocated...you made the effort.
So....these people who say "Go right to the bedroom" or some other crude remark about sex and thinking it'll make things better are idiots. Sex isn't the great cure all.
You admit you're the party at fault...so when he comes in apologize and tell him that you love him. Sex isn't necessary. just being sincere is what matters.
In the meantime...you're stuck for the next 4-5 hours. That'll give you plenty of time to formulate an apology won't it?
Get cracking dear...and make it a sincere one. And remember...never go away or off to bed angry.
2007-01-10 07:53:38 · answer #1 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You learned an important lesson today - Never leave kind words unsaid and do not continue an argument later. You have the oportunity to greet him when he comes home and to simply say that whatever happened you should have told him how much he means to you before letting him go in the morning. You can continue your conversation from this morning if it needs to be continued for resolution.
I need to have that little bit of reassurance when I go off to work in the morning too so as not to dwell on a problem all day. I can imagine how he feels. Just let him know that you made a mistake in not making it okay before he left and that you won't do that again. It really is THAT important and many couples NEVER learn that until it's too late.
Being mad is natural and arguing is not a bad thing IF you remember the other person's feelings and fight FAIR. Fair means admitting wrongs, taking responsibility, respecting the other person's opinion and not blaming or name calling, as well as letting them know that regardless, you love them.
It will be okay if you let it go.
2007-01-10 08:15:32 · answer #2 · answered by Dovie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and get over the issues that your head is dealing with. Your heart is in the right place. Do all you can to communicte your love to your man. Realize that it is a battle between your heart and your head. Try and make things better for the future. Take steps that you normally dont take to help you grow. Try and break down the barriers you have built that make you cold and quite. You want to be better you must communicate, and grow for love. Let these prescious essentials of love get your life together so you and your partner can come together and be essential to one another.
2007-01-10 07:57:37 · answer #3 · answered by M2J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he gets home - shower him with hugs and kisses and let him know how sorry you are for being that way and how you hurt all day knowing that his day might have been a little stressful knowing you were still upset with him. Then give him some lovin.
2007-01-10 07:42:09 · answer #4 · answered by harleychickfatboy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is there anyway you can call him at work? Cell? Leave him a message and let him know of sorry you are and that you love him. Maybe he is in the same position as you and poor guy....he's at work probably thinking about the whole situation. CALL HIM!
2007-01-10 07:35:43 · answer #5 · answered by Miss k 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he left you as you said, then trust that things are not too far gone. Take it easy and wait for his return. When he gets home, tell him what you are telling us. Sincerity and honesty mean everything (empathy is pretty high up on the list, too). Good luck.
2007-01-10 07:39:01 · answer #6 · answered by Miki 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, make it up to him when he gets home tonight - have his favorite meal ready the second he walks through the day....or give him a full body massage later tonight. You can still make right this situation and make a mental note not to let it happen again.
2007-01-10 07:40:16 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Phone him at work and and spend the next 4 hours planning a very special homecoming for him.
2007-01-10 07:40:09 · answer #8 · answered by Raven 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Can you leave a little note on his car while he is at work?
And do me a favor....when he gets home, tell him EVERYTHING you said here, he deserves to know that you were a dope and that you will do everything in your power to not do something dumb ike this again.
2007-01-10 07:45:05 · answer #9 · answered by AmyB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww.. I agree with a lot of what these ladies are saying.. fix him a nice dinner, candle lit maybe, and have dinner with him and say you're sorry.. then explain how much he really does mean to you.. maybe even dress in a sexy intimates outfit? :P
2007-01-10 08:12:04 · answer #10 · answered by uhohyoureugly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋