Do long distance relationships work? if yes how?

Answer 1

I've been in a long distance relationship for almost a year now. I live in Oregon and she lives in Missouri. We met online, and fly to see each other as often as we have time and money for.

Yes, it can work. Communication is EVERYTHING! It sucks not having any physical contact, but you make up for it when you are together. For some people it would never work, because it takes a lot of trust and commitment.

In the long run, the only way it will really work is for you to do away with the distance. I'll be moving to Missouri in August and I can't wait!

Answer 2

Long distance relationships do work. I am currently in a long distance relationship, 1220 miles, dating for 14 months, and getting married in 17 days. I would say the key to making it work is communication, trust, and commitment. Communication is the key to any relationship, but even more so in a long distance one. My fiancée and I talk every day for at least an hour and a half in the evening besides any emails that go back and forth during the day. As far as trust, you have to trust this person to stay faithful to you. If either of you is the jealous type, I would not get into a relationship, it will put to much stress on the relationship. Make sure you setup times to get together. Not just the next time, but a couple times in advance. Have a plan on how often to get together. We worked it out and got together once a month, about every 4 weeks. Commit yourself to each other. If you want to keep this relationship, one of you in the end will have to move. If you want him to move to where you live, you must be willing to move where he lives.

Hope this helps and good luck

Answer 3

Many don't work. The ones I've seen work are the ones where the long distance is temporary and you have at least some opportunity to be together in person during the separation. Maturity has a big impact too. Example: if 2 18 year olds are a couple, one moves several hours away... my guess is it would be under 6 months when one of them would end the relationship. But if an older couple that has been together several years finds themselves apart even for a much longer period, they can make it work and be just as close after they get back together as they were before.

Answer 4

They work if there is a realistic plan to remove the distance between you in a reasonable period of time. Eventually, one or both of you have to move if you expect the relationship to work. And understand that long distance relationships are difficult because of the long distance.

My wife and I began as a long distance relationship (New york and Philly). Eventually I moved because there was more opportunity (work and socially) in her city (NYC) and at the same time if things didn't work out I wasn't stuck somewhere I didn't want to be because of her. Also, during the time we were in different cities we took turns visiting each other on a fairly frequent basis. We talked every day on the phone and would see each other at least once a month. Also, my move was something exciting to look forward to for us both. I know another couple, now married, who also began as a long distance relationship. It was pretty much the same with them except they both moved to a different city that they chose because it was equidistant from both of their families and friends and had enough work opportunities.

If/when the question of the move comes up you both have to consider what the best choice is for the both of you. And it's an added bonus if the city of choice is someplace that, in the event things don't work out, neither of you will be left stranded with little career or social opportunity. Good luck.

Answer 5

Yup, they can work but both of you have to be completely committed to each other. Communication and trust is very, very important in this relationship. I personally think that long-distance relationships are better in some ways than the regular ones. For one, there is no physical contact so if both of you are true to each other, it shows that neither are in for sex, money, or other things. It also makes you two really close to each other and improves your communication skills.

Well, that's all from my own experience and I know that it doesn't work out for some people. But I really think that if you try, they do work.

Answer 6

Depends on the bond of your relationship. I've been in a long distance relationship for 8 years (He's in England, I'm in the US) We get to see each other often and talk everyday on the phone. It can be hard at times because I want to be near the ones I love especially when they hurt or feel bad, not to mention when you want to be intimate and you can't. It all depends on the two contributing to the relationship on if it will work or not. And when you finally get to be together it will be alright.

I think that if you get to spend time together more often it will work.

Answer 7

My husband and I had a long distance relationship for a year and a half while he was deployed. We actually found it brought us closer because we were forced to talk more. I think it can work if BOTH people are devoted and you keep up communication. You also have to really trust the person a lot, and work on your own jealousy issues to make sure they don't get in the way.

Answer 8

In the long run I would say no. I couldnt even wait long periods if the guy were incarcerated. My ex got married and his wife lives in Bangladesh and he lives here.....He is a man with "natural" desire. They havent been married but maybe 6-7mos and he is alreayd thinking of trying to get "it" from me. I'm thinking to myself who are you kidding? You have a whole ocean between you to. Emails, phone, and text message is cool, but who do you have to cuddle up with during rain storms? Or when you have a bad day at work and you need someone to comfort you? Or you wake up in the middle of the night and want some, and nobody is there? That eventually wears thin and I wouldnt lie to myself with the "love will conquer all" mentality. Love is one thing, but how many people have mastered total body control?

...need I say more? lol!

Answer 9

it really depends on how far u are away and if u can see that person once in awhile. Also u need to really have trust in that person for it to work more trust then u would with someone that lived near u. Me and my bf have been together for about 51/2 months and we are still together its a little hard sometimes i mean we broke up for a day cuz i couldnt see him for awhile and then he realized that it wasnt my fault and we would get through this. And finally i'm going to see him again. And also it works better if u talk everyday.

Answer 10

They can work but you both have to be 100% comitted. They are hard since you just cant see each other when you want and then if one of you is the jealous type you will be wondering if they are seeing someone else.

I have been in one and we are now married so best of luck to you