He was sentenced 3 days ago, and is going to be in there for about 6 months or less (hopefully) for doing a stupid B & E. I love him very much and miss him so damn much, we've been together for 6 years. Is it possible that I could go into a depression? I cried every night he was gone, and wake up thinking about him and start crying more. I know he's thinking about me just as much as I am and hurts even more. I know 6 months isn't a very long time, but we can't even stay away from each another for more than a week. We are together everyday pretty much.
Is this healthy? or should I just give it time to get used to the idea that I won't be able to see him everyday or talk to him. Geez, I feel like breaking down right now... answers from woman who know what I'm going throught would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
2007-01-10 07:27:30 · 25 answers · asked by Janine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Also he's a really good guy, and I've know him since I was a teenager and I know he wouldn't not do this again. It was a once in a life time thing. I've know him since 1998.
2007-01-10 07:36:43 · update #1
Girl i know how you feel! my husband is army and he is deployed for a whole year mabey longer.. it hurts knowing that out men are in dangorous areas..jail is just as bad.. belive me i've been there. the best thing to do is write alot of letters.. make shure that he knows that he is loved. and tell him to write often as well. get a support group together.. it will be hard the longer he is away..sadly you will begain to forget what he taste like and how he smells.. visit him whenever you can. a simple i love you in person gose a long way. keep yourself busy and know that he is thinking about you but don't get caught up in the lonleyness. if you don't work get yourself a hobby or something to make the days go by faster.. if you need me i'm here for you because i know what you are going through...im me if you need to..good luck!
2007-01-10 07:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by blueeyesarmybrat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are experiencing is normal. You have been together for 6 years and a seperation like this does put a strain on your health. I have been in a situation similar to yours only my ex went to rehab. He wasn't serious about it though and therefore is no longer in my life. However, I did miss him very much and cried almost every night. The only thing I can suggest is to surround yourself with your friends right now. You need to keep your mind busy. This is not going to be easy, but it needs to be done in order for you to keep your sanity. Write him everyday and send him encouraging poems. Also, you might want to take this time to remind him how it feels to be without you. This might prevent him from doing something so goofy in the future. Good luck and GOD bless.
2007-01-10 07:35:57 · answer #2 · answered by cookie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Idiots like your bf should have no incentive to do another 6 month term in jail. Tell him that you are free to date other guys and that he will be under evaluation period for some time after he is freed.
If you do not do that, then you will end up marrying the guy. He will keep on being stupid, then you will have children, and those children are going to have a ****** up life because you will divorce each other just as soon as they finish college.
Women! Stop dating losers now! The world is already a screwed up place.
2007-01-10 07:37:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
six months can seem long but he won't do the entire 6 if he doesn't get into any trouble.If he cares about you really then this will be the last time he does some thing that foolish for he could have encountered some one and been killed.All I can say is you will last through these few months.but unless he changes you can expect the next time to be longer.
2007-01-10 07:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by punkin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fascinating.....just fascinating. You..yes YOU feel terrible because you love him. Gee....did the thought ever go through his tiny mind that he could go to prison for committing a felony like B&E? No? Well...let's see...perhaps he thought that it would be a terrible disservice to you that he decided to commit a criminal act and that this may mortify you and jepordize your relationship.
Hmmm...maybe he did because apparently you don't seem terribly upset that he committed a crime, invaded someones privacy with the intent to steal...nope...you just seem upset because conjugal visits don't seem to be available these 6 months.
Wake up will you? Christ. have you no morals? Have you no pride or decency? He's a criminal and all you can whine about is being apart.
Nice to see you have all of your priorites in order. Wait'll he gets out. The first week will be heaven in your eyes....then the whole thing will go to hell in a handbasket. No? Think I'm full of it? Okay.
But don't say I didn't tell you so.
Good luck and sayanora. You'll need it...mark me.
2007-01-10 07:41:18 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey, i'm sorry to hear that your boyfriend is in jail. thats so crappy for you. but listen, distance will honestly only make your relationship stronger. I was never in the exact situation that you are, but i did move 4 hours away from my boyfriend for school. Instead of spending every waking moment with eachother, we can only spend about 2 days out of the month with eachother...sometimes even less than that. I know it might be a little different than what you are going to go through, but i think the result will be the same. When he is out, you guys will be so happy to see eachother, it will be like you just met, all over again.
be strong, he needs you to be! you can do it! its hard at first, but give it time. you learn to deal with the separation.
2007-01-10 07:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He'll be a different person when he does get out... So be prepared for that... Things may not be the same as they were... You will probably go through a period of being very angry with him as he brought this on himself... and at the same time you... which hurt you very bad... In any case, be prepared for whatever after the six months are up...
2007-01-10 07:38:41 · answer #7 · answered by deakjone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you're hurting, but you have to realize something.
If you plan to staying with him, you better get used to it. Once you're a convicted felon and have done time, you're chances of making it good in the world are slim. Very slim.
He is likely to return to crime in his life due to the lack of jobs, credit, background history and the fact that he is a known convict.
Your life will most likely be more of the same unless he changes dramatically while in the PEN. It's the most difficult thing to overcome.
Not trying to be mean, just giving you the real facts. Now it's time for YOU to decide how YOU want to live the rest of YOUR life!
2007-01-10 07:36:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know what a B&E is (sorry) but as far as you being sad--I am sorry--it isnt that he is locked up or at war the fact that he is gone and you are missing him is the point (just may I add that what ever he did he learns from it and doesnt repete) anyway what I would do is write to him everyday and talk to him whenever you can--I was seperated from my husband for almost a year and it was awful to be sure but the letters and the calls helped allot--I just kept remembering that he wasnt gone forever--
2007-01-10 07:34:24 · answer #9 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it's very hard but it can actually help your relationship a bit. staying away from each other can make u guys like each other even more. of course u going to miss him, but just remenber he will be bk after 6 months, and it's like u said it's not a long time. u dont know, many things can happen till then. but he'll like the idea of having u waiting for him. just relax, think possitive and know that everything will be ok. one day u gonna be laughing about this situation.
2007-01-10 07:34:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋