I feel like my husband isnt attracted to me anymore. Some days I dont even want to kiss him because I am just not in the mood. I want to be intimate with him. We have had sex but when we do i am not turned on much and it hurts. Has this happened to anyone? if so what did you do? I know my husband wants something but I just cant get into it. Thanks
2007-01-10 07:21:22 · 21 answers · asked by wondering 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
DO NOT FEEL ALONE! the exact samething is happening to me I am 22 weeks pregnant, and sometimes I feel like I am letting him down in a away. We have tried but it just hurts and I really dont even want too, but I try for him. It is kind of like I want to phsical, but mentally I just cant make nyself do it . I am not in the mood. I would just rather cuddle, and watch a movie. so your not the only one.
2007-01-10 07:27:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is very normal. I never wanted to have sex with my husband when I was pregnant because I felt unattractive. Try finding other ways to be intimate with your husband that don't involve having sex, such as massage, or cuddling. And it's better to let him know how your feeling. Most men will understand.
2007-01-10 15:29:52 · answer #2 · answered by lovinmommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not uncommon to feel unattractive when you are pregnant. He might just be trying to give you some space. I am on my 3rd pregnancy and have gone through the same thing all 3 times. Because men have been led to believe that women have horrible mood swings when we are pregnant, they don't know what to expect...so they tend to want to leave us alone. It is also not uncommon for sex to hurt during pregnancy, usually at that point I just give up and explain to him that it does hurt. Communication is one key thing that will help your situation. If you explain these things to him, it will help him understand. Pregnancy only lasts for 9 months (Thank God!) and your sex life will return to normal if not better than normal.
2007-01-10 15:47:23 · answer #3 · answered by momathome 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, omg I so know what you are going threw! I have NO sex drive at all and i know that my guy deserves it and when i go ahead and do it hurts because IM not into it! he thinks it is him but its not i love him and he's very attractive its just IM not in the mood! he even tried giving me green m&ms lol but no luck! ask your doctor about lubricants that you can use during pregnancy! that will lessin the pain of sex! but i still have no ideal of how to be like i was before pregnancy, my sex drive was very high. but now its gone so who knows! good luck
2007-01-10 16:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by cute_redneck_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had the same problem, I know that I want it, I dream about it all the time. I think for me i am just to tired to do it. I have read that once the first trimester is over you have a higher sexdrive. How far are you? When I want it but am too tired to get going, we use a toy to help out. It works quicker...lol. Good luck
2007-01-10 15:29:25 · answer #5 · answered by krickee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your hormones are all over the place. Don't worry about. Just enjoy your pregnancy. Your husband loves you...let him know when your not feeling like sex. Take care of you at this important time.
2007-01-10 15:27:16 · answer #6 · answered by BCMEDIC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i understand. I adore and am very attracted to my husband, but it seems both of us have had a little dip since i've been a pregnant. i'm hoping it gets better, but we still cuddle a lot and talk a lot. but the physical intimacy has decreased. i think it's normal, but it's no fun. i would say do your best to set up romantic nights, or weekend mornings work best for us too.
2007-01-10 16:05:56 · answer #7 · answered by bb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry for me it's the opposite I have super high sex drive, but to the point of ridiculous, I wish it was lower, my partner wants a break and I can't give it hahahah. I think it's completely normal we are having so many hormonal changes, I wouldn't worry, if your partner loves you and the baby he will be patient, you can always please him in other ways if you are really worried about him, so you are both happy and no-one goes without, there are many "other" things you can do
2007-01-10 15:29:59 · answer #8 · answered by jazyj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two issues here that you are mixing. 1. YOU aren't interested. 2. HE isn't interested. Both are completely normal. A pregnant woman is just not a sex object. It'll be over in a few months.
2007-01-10 15:27:02 · answer #9 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just one of the many joys of pregnancy!
When you hit about 37 weeks you'll be all over him trying to speed up the whole process lol
My son is 3 months old and I am STILL dealing with no sex drive.
2007-01-10 15:27:36 · answer #10 · answered by destified 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋