I am 14 and might be pregnant what do i do my dad is real strict and if he finds out he will kill me?

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me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex and i told me he came in me and i was so scared cuz my dad is the strict type that if he were to find out he will litterly kill me and i am very scared I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO do you think i should runaway if i am and wen i start to show??? me and my boyfriend are scared for me

me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex and he told me he came in me and i was so scared cuz my dad is the strict type that if he were to find out he will litterly kill me and i am very scared I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO do you think i should runaway if i am and wen i start to show??? me and my boyfriend are scared for me

okay this happend December 28,2006 and i did it right before my period day which is every 31 or so and i still havent started me and my boyfriend are like scared but i cannot tell my dad u may think its real easy but its not and i had told him a the other day that my best friend was pregnant and like he got mad at me cuz she was, he cares for her too i guess and i still havent started and i took a p.g test too early like 2 days after i had sex and it came out negative but i have been feeling very sick in the mornings and next week i am gonna take another one just to make sure but if i am im gonna wait for a while to tell my dad im just gonna tell my boyfriends parents well his mom because i barely know his dad and me and my boyfriend already has been together for a year now but YES I AM VERY SCARED too death just help me???!!!!!

Answer 1

okay, been there before, i did run away, and it was way worse!! if you want the child, i suggest you haver to let your dad know so that you can get proper doctor care. if not, an abortion is a way that some people do consider....
if you arent pregnant (cuz even if he came in you, you might not be) then i would suggest BIRTH CONTROL!!! they are usually confidential honey.
if you need to talk, or decide to run away, and have no where to go, let me know, and ill help you out. i was there before! so i understand!

Answer 2

All right- first take a deep breath. Now, the fact that your boyfriend came in you once does not mean you are definitely pregnant. My advice would be to wait and see if you get your period. If you don't, get tested for pregnancy.

Since you're so upset and think your dad may be mad at you, enough so you'd want to run away, check out this website, the American Pregnancy Helpline: http://www.thehelpline.org/

They have a phone number to call also: 1-888-467-8466. It's free and confidential.

Don't run away because then you'd be in even more of a tough situation. Where would you go? What would you do? Get some help by calling that number. You could also go to a Planned Parenthood near you. There are also other people you could talk to: a school counselor, a teacher you like, anyone.

And, my last advice-- use protection from now on. I got pregnant when I was 17 because I didn't think it'd happen to me. Luckily, my family was very supportive and I am now almost done with college. My daughter is 4 1/2 and I'm with a great guy who loves us both very much. Her biological father and I are not together, though. Just...be safe. Many things could happen

Answer 3

First off . You WILL be okay. Despite how scared you are (which I know is TERRIFIED right now!), you also need to think of this (possible) baby now. Your father is strict because he was trying to protect you and he loves you. The world is way harsher and meaner than your father could ever be.. trust me. So don't run away from him. His worst anger is better than a good day on the streets alone. The best thing for you to do is to call a crisis pregnancy center. They will listen to you without judging, give you options, and a pregnancy test. If you truly are pregnant, then they will help you and stand with you as you tell your father.

Whatever you do, remember that we ALL make mistakes. And even the scary ones can turn out better than we thought. If you are pregnant, then I would beg you to consider the life inside you and to consider that this is truly a new, little person.. I don't know where you live, but if you go to the website below, I know the people there personally. They have truly helped me and others in the past, and they can help you.

God bless,
-Amy

Answer 4

Please dont try to run away if you are prgnant you need to be seen by a doctor regularly. I know it is scary I have been there I was 16 when I got pregnant, and my mom was the same way as your dad, but when she found out you would be surprized at how supporting they will actually be. I am now 17 and 22 weeks pregnant, and I am not going to lie to you it has been VERY hard and the hard part hasnt even started yet. I have lost many friends, but thats ok. I have my family, my friends, my boyfriend, and in 4 months I will have a baby. So just go and take 2-3 pregnancy tests and if they all come out positive sit and have a talk with your dad. Good Luck

Answer 5

I was in the exact place you are now, but it was my mom. The thing is I knew I was pregnant and scared to death. The last thing you want to do is run away. Think about this, Say you are pregnant and you run away. Then your going to be stuck you'll be homeless, pregnant and nobody to help you. You need to find out if you are or not, If you are bite the bullet and tell your dad and you can deal with it together. He's your dad he's going to love you no matter what you do. He may be disappointed but he'll get over it. If your not use protection both of you.

Answer 6

My daughter got pregnant at the age of 15 and we found out 1 week after her 16th birthday. OH, her father was disappointed and upset. He was angry too but he still loved her and although I think he went the whole 7 months without speaking to her even though we all live in the same house, he cried when she gave birth to our first grandson and we helped her until she graduated high school. Her son is now 8 years old and he has a little sister and a new born baby brother. His mother got married 4 years ago to someone other than my first grandson's father but everything has worked out. Her father spoke to her the day the 8 year old was born and they are best friends again.

Yes, your father is going to be upset and mad and disappointed but he will not kill you. Good Luck and remember that he is your dad and he will always love you.

Answer 7

Go get an EPT test at the Drug store.
Follow the directions, do it twice and make sure you get the same results.

Then if it is positive twice, go to the girls clinic and get a test.
if that is positive.
Then talk to your DAD.

You will be surprised how the anger will soon turn to concern and remind him that being a Grandpa can also be a blessing.
Tell him you need his help, not his judgement.
You will have to take your lumps and decide what is best for you and your baby, no matter what FINISH SCHOOL.

My son got his 15 year old girlfriend pregnant, I now have a 2 year old grandson, they chose a hard road, but they are still together, but it has been hard. at 19, 21 they are just now living together for the 1st time. They worked their butts off to finish school and they worked, and parents helped babysit, they now have free babysitting through the state, and subsidized housing, but it is a HARD life.

Answer 8

First of all sweetie,calm down, you are pregnant if you were ovulating the day of your sexual encounter with your boyfriend.
If it happened about 1 or two days ago i would higly recommend for you to take those morning after pills. Wait about three weeks and ask your boyfriend to take you to a lab,get a blood or urine test to be sure if you're pregnant or not. Don't stress cause it'll only make it worst,your period might get late,and the stress can even make you feel pregancy symptoms. Please use a condom the next time,or don't have sex at all,you're really young,don't play with fire girl cause you might get burn. And as for you running away if you're pregnant,this things are much better when talked to your parents,if you are pregnant you must tell your parents.

Good Luck and i really hope you're not pregnant.

Answer 9

I seriously doubt your dad would actually "kill" you. If he is strict, its probably because he cares about you and wants whats best for you. Having said that, you running away would no nothing but hurt him and drive him nuts. So, that wouldn't be the way to go either.
Wait a few weeks. See if your period comes. If not, take a test.
If you are in fact pregnant, you have to tell your dad. He'll probably flip out... but he will be there for you. And he will probably support you in whatever decision you make.

Answer 10

Is there an adult that you can talk to other than your father? A teacher, the school nurse, a school councilor? Many times, if you are pregnant they can help you tell your father, and if need be get you to a safe place.

My sister-in-law got pregnant young too and thought that her father would kill her. He didn't, he was mad and disappointed, but he loved her and helped support her during her pregnancy and after her baby was born. He may just surprise you.

If you find you are not pregnant, please for your safety and health, use a condom, they are less expensive than a baby.

Good luck!