Why would a woman want a man to pay alimony? I dont believe in it?

Question

personally. A man should not have to take care of someone for the rest of his life. She should be able to support herself.

Answer 1

If the man expected her to be a housewife and stay home and take care of the house and kids then he should pay some alimony for a short time frame so that she could obtain some job skills to support herself. However, if she is already capable of taking care of herself or at least can get a job then I say she should be on her own.

If its a matter of economic equality then they should work it out in the property settlement at time of divorce instead making a spouse continue to pay someone he/she may not want to even have contact with anymore.

Answer 2

that can be true. but if a woman has laid her career dreams so that she can stay home and take care of her husband while he works, when they divorce she will be stuck with nothing. in case its not already known, "housewife" is not an effective title to give an interview unfortunately.

Same thing with the other way around, where the husband doesnt make enough or stays at home for the kids when he and the wife split he should het alimony as well

However, i see your point in not paying her for life. I think when she is able to survive on her own or if she is remarried should the alimony stop

Answer 3

I think it would depend on the reason for the divorce. If a woman is self-sufficient, and the decision to split was mutual, and there are no minor children to consider, then no, there would be no purpose for alimony. However, if the former spouse was a womanizer, abused his wife, spent all the money recklessly, and there were little kids to consider, then the jerk should be slapped with a large alimony fee. I think alimony originally began back in the days when women looked to the man for sole support. Nowadays, women often earn more than their husbands. I think a judge has to look at both sides of the coin before imposing alimony.

Answer 4

I've always thought that was unfair too. All I can think of is that it's some sort of old fashioned way of thinking based on how women are 'homemakers' and the men 'bring home the bacon'. Like if there was a divorce, the woman would be destitute with no job skills because only the man was supporting her. These days, if a woman chooses to rely solely on her husband for money and life a lifestyle she can't afford, that's her problem. If they get divorced, she should learn how to take care of herself. I don't see why the man has to be punished because his ex-wife feels she "can't" support herself.

*I do recognize there may be a difference if the husband squandered their savings during the marriage without the wife having control over that. Then, I could see it as some sort of 'payback' but it shouldn't be for the rest of his life!

Answer 5

There are cases where women pay alimony to men... just like women who pay child support when there husbands have custody of their kids. In cases of a "no fault" divorce, there are no alimony issues... Usually when it comes up there are issues of infedelity or abuse, either physical or mental. And yes, Most alimony does have a time limit, usually 1 year for every 3 the marriage lasted or whatever. If you don't agree there are 3 choices-- don't get married, don't get divorced or sign a pre-nup. And alimony does become "null and void" if the payee gets re-married.

Answer 6

If at the beginning of a marriage, the man and the woman make a decision to have a traditional marriage, where the woman stays at home and has kids while the man is the provider, what happens if the man then shags his secretary and they get divorced? She doesn't have a career because she's been at home for years and has no way of supporting herself.

I agree that alimony shouldn't be an automatic right for women but sometimes it is fair.

Answer 7

Very often, even in this society, the woman agrees to stay home and raise a family, care for the house, manage all the daily chores by herself without pay or any monetary renumeration. She does this while the man is receiving a salary for his work. Then when the man leaves, for whatever reason, the woman finds herself still saddled with the children and the house but no longer with money coming in or any marketable skills, even ASSUMING she could take the time away from her kids to hold a full time job.

Thus, we find the man obliged to continue assisting the woman financially until she either remarries, or obtains a job which pays sufficient money for her life and her childrens lives to be maintained.

Get it now?

Answer 8

Consider a woman who supported her husband for a minimum of 10 years and enabled him to climb the corporate ladder. Their tax returns are filed jointly even if she was a housewife. The Gov.t. recognizes the value of the service she gave. Ergo it isn't a matter of inability to care for one's self but a share in the salary of the career she helped to cultivate. He can't have the career w/o those 10 years invested. Therefore she is entitled to partial retirement and also alimony. Especially, if he is the one who breaches the marital contract w/infidelity. It isn't a matter of ability it is a matter of legality. No one is going to give her an award for taking the moral high road and say , "Wow , look at her she was so this or that...."
It all comes down to dollars and cents. If he didn't want to pay the piper then he should have gotten a prenup before marrying.

I gave up a brilliant career in Finance after working hard for my degree in order to support his career thru networking and childrearing. You better believe I would take my husband to the cleaners. It would be stupid not to.

Answer 9

I agree with you. I do not agree with alimony either. Laziness, greed, and many other negative factors will have a women seeking alimony. Adults should be able to provide for themselves.

Answer 10

Its call retribution. or in layman's term... "revenge"

PS: Some alimonies do expire. Not all Alimony are for a life time.