Be brutally honest- how do you feel about marriage?

Question

What say you in regards to marriage? Do you believe it is a glorious idea, or do you think it is an outdated one?

Answer 1

Who you marry, when you marry and what you both are willing to put into it makes the difference. If the person and the timing is right, it can be a wonderful thing. As for me, apparently I am not that good at it. Done it more than once. And though it had some fine points, I am much better at being single. However, I have Friends who have been married for 20+ years and I almost envy what they have.

Answer 2

Marriage should only happen between two people that have enough maturity to actually LIVE together without getting into constant p_ssing matches over little things.

Enough marriages have ended in divorce because of "little sh_t" than over serious issues.

You should have a good amount of common interests, and it really doesn't matter what they are, as long as you enjoy BEING together and doing them.

A long term relationship needs TIME. There is no such thing as "quality time." You may think there is, but no. You need to basically log enough hours together; you can't just work and work and work and work and then think you can make up for lost time. Plus, if you're working a lot of hours, it's likely you're going to be pretty stressed out.

There should be a lot of tolerance, patience and forgiveness between the two of you. You're human and you're going to make mistakes and hurt each others' feelings. It happens. Be willing to say you were wrong and not so quick to jump on the defensive.

Those are some pretty basic suggestions from one who's been married 36 years.......

Answer 3

I personally think its way overrated. I married young and divorced young, seemed as soon as we signed those papers everything changed for the worse. My relationship after that lasted 16 yrs , we lived together but never married and couldn't have been happier we lasted literally until death did us part. But we weren't interested in raising a family either. So I guess if your going into a relationship just for one another I believe why marry, if you want a family then probably would be a good idea for the child's welfare alone (but how many children end up in divorced homes anyways!) so me personally feel marriage is nothing but a burden unless you both agree it would benefit each other i.e. taxes, health insurance.

Answer 4

I think it's wonderful if the two people who enter it have strong enough wills to see it to the end. A lot of people these days are too weak to keep a marriage together. Marriage is just a public promise in front of God and others that two people will remain together until death. Calling marriages outdated are just calling promises outdated.

Answer 5

I firmly believe in the concept of marriage and worked so hard to make mine work, I think most folk who get married nowadays don't have any idea how much commitment that marriage requires and it's too easy to say I do one day and I can't be bothered the next.
It's becoming less important to be married and I find that quite sad.

Answer 6

Marriage has been turned into a joke by society, but i still believe in marriage and values, I have been married since October 28,2006 and marriage is not perfect i any way but i am happy to be married and i would not change it, there are times when i think " well if i was single i could.." but with anything in life there are pros and cons. marriage is something that constantly takes work and commitment, you don't just one day "master" marriage, it is something that may not be for every one, but for me i am happy with it, I may not like my husband everyday but i sure do love him!

Answer 7

I believe in marriage, and have been married and very unhappy. It takes 2 people to make a marriage work. If 2 people are together without the same ideals, your in for a life of misery.
The only thing marriage does in reality is make you responsible for another persons debt. Thats it. If you want to pay another persons bills to keep your credit, go for it. I was married to a person and paid literally everything and when it came time to find out how much was owed on his house, I found out I was not privy to that information. I could not ask how much money he owed on bills if they were in his name, but they could come after my assets to pay them. I was not allowed to come home when he told me to get out because the house was not in my name. When he left the marriage jobless and on the run. I had to pay everything to save my credit. Never again!!!
If I sound bitter, its because I have been taken down the river and nearly lost everything I had including my mind.

Answer 8

I think a lot of people get married for the wrong reasons. Money, getting "accidentally" pregnant, and family or societal pressures seem to be the reasons people get married anymore. If people only got married for love, there would be less marriages (and less divorces) in this world.

Answer 9

Wow been married and I can say I have seen marriages work out but today I think single is the way to go.

Answer 10

My marriage is the best thing to ever happen to me! Not outdated concept at all. I have been married 13 years and we are still like newlyweds. You have to work with your spouse to keep your marriage fresh...definitely worth it.