Do you ever worry that you're kids will get taken away from you?

Question

I ask because sometimes I worry. I am a good mom and don't think I do anything wrong. But when I was pregnant with the first, her dad threatened to make sure I never would raise her... but now he won't ever see her.. But since then, my mom (who is controlling) will keep making me think that I am doing something terrbile (she says I will regret raising my child wrong... I chose a different religion). Once I took my kid to work with me and she metnioned that my kids can taken away if I do stuff like that. She mentioned that she heard someone say that their kids won't play with my kids cause one of mine picked up a swear word somewhere... (I never heard my kid swear) I am worried that I am 'breaking the rules' without knowing it... my kids are happy, and outgoing, and playful and seem well rounded and happy. I am doing good, I am sure, but I still worry, does anyone else? My mom messed and can't see how or where. Am I donig something wrong in my good intentions?

Answer 1

Sounds like you are doing great! I wouldn't worry.

My mom once accused me of child neglect/abuse because I let the babysitter SLEEP (it was late at night) while she had the baby monitor one floor below his room. He was a year old and ALWAYS slept through the night with no problems. After that, I stopped talking to her about him because I too was scared she would call CPS on me. Be careful who you let in your life.

I've been bringing our son to work with us for 3 years, since he was 2 months old. It's a potentially dangerous work area (cars, machinery, chemicals), but he's a very aware kid because of it now, and no one has ever called authorities on me.

Unless your religion is a cult, and unless your work place is some place like a construction site, there's nothing wrong with what you're doing. And, you can't control what you child hears, or says, only influence it.

Answer 2

It is normal for kids to pick up swear words and bad habbits, you as a mother just have to try and teach them whats wrong and right. If your kids were at work with you when they should be in school without a good reason yes that is a little bad, just make sure they are always at school if they are not sick, that they study and have a balanced home life with lots of love. as long as you are able to provide for their needs (Food, love, home, clean) etc you should be fine mothers and others will always put in their two cents of opinion, it doesn't mean they are right though, try to look into what she is saying and see why she is really saying it, and the point that she is trying to make, if after you look into it, you don't likie what she is saying, or cannot use her opinion to help you be a better mother than discard it and dont worry...

Take it easy, I am sur eyou are a great mother, give them a happy home, food, study, schooling don't abuse them and I am sure they will never be taken away from you

Answer 3

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Answer 4

You sound like a very caring mother. Depending on what type of work you do, it might be best to put your kids in daycare, and if your worried about the cost, there are some states programs that will pay for a single mother to have her kids in daycare while she works. And YOU are the mother, not your mom. Don't ever let someone else try to tell you how to raise YOUR children. You sound like your doing a wonderful job and that your kids are happy, don't let your mother bully you.

Answer 5

OH yes we did. When our kids were younger we had the preverbial Neighborhood idiot living next door. He scruntinized everthing on the block. Would call the police on people for not mowing thier lawns. Actually would walk down the street and make notes on building code violations on everyones house.

My youngest son was very accident proned when he was a youngster. We used to joke that he inherited his Aunt Caryn's (my sisters) grace or lack thereof. Everytime he had a bruise or cuts and bandaides on we would have the police at our door as a result of our wounderful neighbor.

What you have to do, and I did this with my stupid neighbor, tell your mom that she raised you to know the difference between right and wrong. Tell her she did a great job raising you, let you raise your child.

Your mom needs to know that she is causing stress and that you are second guessing yourself where your child is concerned. That has to stop.

Good Luck.

Answer 6

Don't listen to your mom! It sounds like your children are in a safe and loving environment. They can't take your children away without good reason. It's very easy to be worried. Every parent does! All you can do is shower your children with love and affection and provide a happy, healthy and safe environment for them to grow up in.

Best of luck!

Answer 7

first of all what kind of work do you do? maybe it is best that the kids go to day care. but other then that as long as your giving them food and shelter and proper schooling and teaching them values i think you are doing just fine don't worry about what anyone esle says.

Answer 8

I never worry about my son getting taken away from me. They would have to prove you unfit to take your kids away from you and if your fit to take care of them then i would not worry about it.
Good luck

Answer 9

don't listen to that creap from your mother or anyone else for that matter there your childern and if you feel your doing good then you are

Answer 10

sounds like to me ur ok...every mom worries about that i think