Hello everyone. I'm a college freshman, a young black woman, come from a "bad neighborhood" and I go to one of the top ten liberal arts colleges. Also, I am Pre-med.
I really hate the people on my floor. They make me feel extremely uncomfortable ALL the time. I used to try and befriend them but I just don't want to anymore. They drink, party and smoke and I don't. They assume that because I don't that it means that I look down on people that do. In actuality, all it means is that "I don't". Instead, I just hang with people from other dorms or I study all the time. So far, I've got a 3.63 GPA.
I've been feeling guilty because I don't have that connection with my floor, including my roommate (I'm cordial though). The second semester begins soon and I am torn between whether I should try to make it work at my own DISPLEASURE or should I just care about my feelings and not worry about them? I really don't want to be bothered with them, at all. Please tell me I am not being ridiculous.
2007-01-10 06:50:38 · 4 answers · asked by deeplydemented 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
screw them. you are doing a great job and working toward your ultimate goal of becoming a doctor. they will probably never amount to anything remotely close to what you will be doing. you definitely should never ever feel guilty for staying true to yourself and not drinking/partying/etc (but if you do want to, go for it too). many freshmen get stuck with roommates/floormates that they do not get along with but after this year is over you will be able to hang out with/room with those people that you know in the other dorms. honestly, after this year is over you wont really have to interact with them again. so, keep up the good work, hang out with the people you like, and give up on the rest of them...life is too short.
2007-01-10 09:11:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're being ridiculous. What I do think is that maybe you're overgeneralizing. I can't imagine that every single person on your floor is a partying fool. Do any of your floor mates attend the same classes you do? Have you tried organizing a study party? Get some chips and sodas and invite over a few people from your classes to study. This works even if none of your floor mates are in your classes. Some of them will undoubtedly see that you "have a life" if you're having people over and they may realize there is more to you than studying. Maybe you make them uncomfortable by being so studious. It isn't fair, but it may be true.
Is off-campus housing a possibility for you? I hated dorm life (we had 3 bedroom units with 6 girls in each unit; it made for some really uncomfortable moments) and couldn't wait to move to an apartment off campus. Then I could advertise for roommates who had similar lifestyles to mine -- studying, working, occasional partying -- rather than full-on party animals with no respect for my academics.
Good luck! I hope it all works out for you. I think it's great that you're pre-med!
Aloha
2007-01-10 15:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say go with your gut, and do what you feel suits your own needs. Maybe for next year you can see about switching to another dorm, but.... to some degree the behavior you describe is pretty typical of alot of freshman who are away from home for the first time. Drinking, smoking and wasting time wears pretty thin after awhile, especially if mom and dad don't see great grades on transcripts, so by this coming semester things could be more tolerable for you.
2007-01-10 15:07:24 · answer #3 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough out this semester and move next fall to a different dorm...stick to your guns...be yourself and go hang with people that you relate to...sounds like u got your act together..do not stress it...good luck..have a cool future
2007-01-10 15:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by Tikcus 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋