i am only 14 years old, why do i want a baby of my own so much. i have babysat them over night before and everything. i already know how to take care of them more then you would think.
2007-01-10 06:43:51 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
You just want a doll to dress up and play with. Are you able to support the baby financially? NO, you can't even live on your own without an adult (legally). You are still a little girl yourself. Stick to babysitting.
2007-01-10 06:49:12 · answer #1 · answered by tmac 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok...You are going to get a tonne of answers here, telling you , you are crazy and you don't know what you are talking about. Well all those answers would be correct. You are 14 years old and even though you think you have it all figured out trust me..YOU DON'T. I remember 14 well, I am 32 years old, and just had my first child 3 months ago. I thought that I was ready. I have a great job, a wonderful loving husband, a nice house, and I am emotionally mature ( I 'm sure that's still up for debate). Anyway, I wasn't ready. You will never be ready, and there is no damn way in heck a 14 year old could be anywhere close to ready. I babysat a heck of a lot when I was your age, and believe me when I say that babysitting can't even compare to having one of your own. When you have a child you don't get to leave them behind and go home after taking care of them for a couple of hours. You have to be there for them 24 hours a day 7 days a week. There are no breaks. You need to live your life, because if you have a baby, you will not get to hang with friends, you likely won't finish school, which means you could never get a good job, and would not be able to financially support your child.
Trust me.....You do not want a baby now. I really hope that you get some help and talk to someone about this. Having a child is the most amazing, wonderful, scary, challenging, overwhelming, rewarding experience I have ever faced in my life. Nothing even come close to being a parent. Wait until you have done all the things you want to do in life. That way you will never have regrets.
2007-01-10 06:58:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that since you have been babysitting for a while now it is possible that you are now liking it just because babies are very much dependant and taking care of them gives you a sense of control which you may not be experiencing with your friends. But i think that it is just a phase and may be you should go out with your friends more. I would also like to tell you that babysitting babies and having your own baby are two very different things which is difficult to understand at your age. So just take chill pill and just enjoy your childhood you have plenty of time for having babies.
2007-01-10 07:27:34 · answer #3 · answered by rocker2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you have no idea what is like caring for a child that does not sleep through the night.
I wish you could get one of those simulated babies that cries incessantly (at 6 month they all do, it's a normal step in their development,) that poop and have to be fed, that develop ear infections and generally behave like real babies do when they are not gurgling or sleeping.
You would find out that having a baby is physically, mentally and emotionally taxing.
If you want to be a great mother, get the best education you can get and find a man who wants to be a good father and husband.
One of the best things a mother can give a child is a good father.
2007-01-10 07:45:51 · answer #4 · answered by txkathidy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its natural to feel that way back in the day our ancestors started having babies at 13 and 14 but they were needed for farming and cooking and chores in the earlier years a women spent over half of her life pregnant but trust me pregnant or having a baby at 14 is not what you really want. I got pregnant at 17 i had barely finished high school its not what i planned on happening it just did and you know what the guy was 21 all he said was i already got one i dont take care of and im not going to be there for this one either. I was by myself at 17 trying to find a way to think about how can i take care of a baby. Having a baby of your own there is no returning them they are yours until you die and before that you are responsible for their actions until they are 18. You are just a young girl please sit and think how would i take care of a baby things cost money next time you go to the grocery store look around a pack of diapers that last maybe 2 weeks are minimum 25 dollars, clothes dont last long a simple shirt can be 10 dollars and formula even for the generic version starts at 10 dollars for a small can which only makes like 10 bottles. Live your life enjoy what you have there will be plenty of time in years to come for you to have a baby if i could change mine i would wait because my dreams are on hold i cant just pick up and go to college to be a nurse and daycare is like 300 a week so i would have to work more than i do know to get it all done. Right now you may sit but thats not enough money to pay for baby stuff and if you think your parents will help your wrong it will be out of moral obligation they might help for their grandchild but how would you take care of the things your baby needs not to mention finish school. Trust me i have been where you are just let it go for now wait until you find an awesome guy to marry when your like 22 or so then pursue it things will be soo much better and you will be able to provide things. And if you still feel that you want one of your own after thinking about the things i have written then speak with a counsler at school its confidential or talk to someone at a teen center but just wait unless you dont care if your kid grows up and says you had me when you were 14 so im gonna do the same or that they hate you because you never gave them anything but the basics. hope i could help but wait because you will NEVER be able to party or go to college with a baby you will fall short more than you may think or realize
2007-01-10 07:03:53 · answer #5 · answered by sexy b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Krissy,
I am very proud of you for being able to take care of babies so well. I am worried, though, that you want to have a baby so young.
There are so many things in life to experience-- your high school and college education, falling in love, travel, etc. Please take the time to enjoy your life day by day and celebrate the person you are growing up to be.
I'm sure everyone else is going to tell you you're too young because of money, etc., so I'm not going to focus on that.
Please let yourself grow up before you make a huge committment like having a baby. Babies are a huge responsibility that you can't undo. They will have to be your top priority from the minute they are a screaming infant until they are screaming teenagers. They will take all of your time, energy, and money.
Having a baby at your age will close off many opportunities to you. I don't want you to grow up resentful and full of regrets of all the things you missed out on in your youth. You may even resent your child.
Please wait. If you are so in love with babies, focus on babysitting them for now, and possibly going into childcare, nursing, etc. in school.
Someday you will be a wonderful mother, sweetheart. I have no doubt of that. Now is the time to focus on yourself and all of your potential. You will have more to teach and share with your babies in the future.
Good luck to you; and I hope this helps. :)
2007-01-10 06:59:29 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its normal for your age, and for your situation. It doesnt mean that you act on that desire by making a baby. It means you focus on getting to adulthood as perfectly prepared for motherhood as possible.
Spend this time perfecting your knowledge, getting an education that will help you provide the very best for that child, and learn all you can about what you want to be. If its a working mom, learn all about that. If its a mother and wife, make that your focus.
Gain skills in relationships, focus on learning wisdom and maturity, learn where best to find good men, and reach for your dreams of some day being a mom.
I wanted kids since i raised my little brothers when i was 8. I nannied, baby sat, worked in childcare. I did all i could to prepare myself for marriage and babies. Found a husband at 19, got married at 20, and now at 23 iam having our first.
You cant replace time, its the only way to become ready. Dont just start making babies now, it would only be out of your own selfishness, not out of love for the child. Children need two grown secure parents, not mothers who just wanted to feel warm and fuzzy raising a baby.
2007-01-10 06:52:00 · answer #7 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal, but definitely put it off for a while. keep at the babysitting--it's good practice & will help fill the 'baby void'. you're much too young to be able to take care of a baby every hour of the day every day of the week, etc. you need to have more life experiences and develop yourself as a good role model first, so that you can be the best mommy you can be when the time comes.
2007-01-10 07:14:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is OK to want a baby in the future. Take it easy and enjoy babysitting for now. You can't give your baby back when your tired and you sure don't get paid like you do when you babysit.
2007-01-10 07:59:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babysitting is not raising a child. You don't have to provide food, shelter, medical care, clothing to a child you babysit. The average baby from before birth (medical care) to 1 years old is $20,000. Can you make that babysitting?
2007-01-10 07:13:03 · answer #10 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋