I had a really good friend who is male, we shared a lot of the same interests and we both have children of the same age. On New Years Eve we decided to let the kids have a kids night, we were watching a movie while the kids played. All of a sudden he jumps up and says get your kids and get out. We left and I have not contacted him since, and he the same. I miss our friendship, not so much the benefits part, just my friend. What should i do?
2007-01-10 06:31:11 · 16 answers · asked by acresse1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think there is more to the story. Something happened to trigger him into leaving and never calling again. Think about the evening and what you may have said or done.
2007-01-10 06:35:55 · answer #1 · answered by fisherwoman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, what were the "benefits". It may be that given the fact that you both have kids, and you brought both your kids together on New Years Eve ... he probably was just thinking that, maybe, just maybe, he didn't want to bring in the New Year under those circumstances. A situation he was already in was presented to him yet again on New Years Eve. He probably just wants to look for something different, seeing as how lots of people have phobias about what it is they should be doing to bring the New Year in or what it is that they really want to do when the New Year comes in. I don't think (probably) that he means it was a bad situation to be in or bring in the New Year with, maybe just a situation that he didn't want to include with the New Year. You know, "been there, done that". Not knowing what the "benefits" were, its safe to assume that he can avail himself of another person and situation that can also reap from the "benefits" he offers. All-in-all it is not a bad situation, and you may miss him -- but he played his hand when he told you to suddenly get out and take your kids with you. I don't think you should try and make this into something it is not, just take it for what it is and move on. I know its easier said than done, but just move on. I hope you do find out why he chose to ask you to leave, but you may never find out.
2007-01-10 15:01:56 · answer #2 · answered by Opaque 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
contact him either by email or by mail asking him on what happend that night and why things are the way they are. Say your sorry if you did anything wrong but you really dont have a clue what happend and that it must of been all a misunderstanding. Tell him that you want to met and talk or at least get a letter back explaining what happen, and that you miss your friendship so much and you want it back more than anything.
2007-01-10 14:37:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he was drunk/high, or there's something you're not saying, there is no rational explanation for his New Year's Eve actions. I question both the "friend" and the "benefit." He sounds like neither. I hope you don't seriously want him back, because that would make you a glutton for punishment. Find somebody better.
2007-01-10 15:14:54 · answer #4 · answered by cruztacean1964 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone that would put you and your kids out of there home for no reason, is not your friend. I don't know what really happened that night, But I sure wouldn't give anybody an opportunity to do that to me more than once.
If you want my advice, I'd say leave well enough alone.
2007-01-10 14:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by sleepingbeauty123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a jerk. Something must have spurred him to say that, did you have an arguement, dod his wife or other gf call him? If nothing happend and he just did that he has some serious issues and you are better without him.
2007-01-10 14:36:48 · answer #6 · answered by surfer_grl_ca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is more to this story also. But I think you should contact him and see if you can talk to him and maybe work things out. Friends are hard to come by and if he was truly your friend whatever happened can be forgiven
2007-01-10 15:15:59 · answer #7 · answered by broke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, I would give him some space and time, then call or e mail and ask what happened..very odd I could see that he is very attracted and maybe did get scared, or I agree think about that night what was said etc.. I wish you luck
2007-01-10 14:45:57 · answer #8 · answered by Tammy N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WTF!!! Why did he do that, is he mentally challenged? You might be better off without him in the long run, you know onothing is an accident. It might've been met for friendship to break-up to make space for the real thing.
2007-01-10 14:38:09 · answer #9 · answered by sweet_journey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was feeling attracted to you and got real scared. I would call him up and ask who pissed in his wheaties
2007-01-10 14:36:49 · answer #10 · answered by mingcrew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋