I'm a pretty ugly girl and feel repulsive permanently. How can I make myself feel normal again? Please help!

Question

I'm 15 years old, and ever since I started secondary school, I've been called ugly. During primary school I was brimming with confidence, but around the beginning of puberty this all fell to pieces.
About 2 years ago I was bullied quite severley about my appearance by a group of malicious boys in my year, and it didn't help that my "friends" at the time would always side with the bullies. I felt totally worthless, and that I wasn't worth spending time with, or wearing nice things, because what was the point? To some extent I still feel like this now.
I know that I'm ugly, I'm not photogenic at all and it doesn't help being the ugliest out of my group of friends, and also the quietest as the scars of the bullying still remain a bit. I was wondering if there was any way at all to make myself get out of this? I hate being so pathetic and feeling that I am repulsive and unimportant constantly. I'm not doing this to get a boyfriend, I'm used to not having one, I'm doing this for me!

Answer 1

God, get over yourself. You can't let other people make you feel this bad.

Answer 2

It really depends on the mood but hoenstly, try to stay positive and smile about how beautiful you are. I'm trying this new thing where i don't wear any eyeliner and at first I lokoed at myself in discust but now, i see myself as beautiful everyday! Not just once a week. (: Start by writing down all the reasons why you think you're naturally pretty and read them every morning (: Write them on a mirror or something. That's what i did at first and now I never worry. God bless and good luck (:

Answer 3

Well, I'm FAR from photogenic, too :-)

I understand your predicament, though, because I went through *exactly* what you're talking about when I was in high school. Didn't feel that way until everyone started talking about dates and who was and wasn't cute. What made it worse was that I couldn't think of anyone I could talk to about it -- certainly not my parents.

So, I know this will sound really lame, but something occurred to me when I went through this that I held onto for a lonnnng time, and it still helps me remember the important things in my life: No matter how "beautiful" or how "ugly" people may appear, that is not the sum of their true selves.

Makeup, clothes, hygiene... These are important -- especially the hygiene part :-) But keep a good heart; and keep alive the spark inside yourself that absolutely tells you you are a beautiful soul.

Keep telling yourself this so that you know it to be true, and the strength you find inside will be reflected without.

And good luck, dear.

Answer 4

Girl, they are probably jealous of you because you share qualities they wish they had. You are probably a wonderful person, so they feel they had to bully you and put you down to make you feel down and make them feel good about themselves.

Do not worry, they are the ones who have to live with that guilt at the end of the day.

God made you BEAUTIFUL, that's right BEAUTIFUL. Each and every one of us are made in the image of God. So therefore, no one is ugly.

You need to work on YOU. You sound like a great person and looks aren't everything. First work on building your self-confidence and learn to appreciate yourself and be thankful for the great things in your life. Your health, family, etc. I suggest finding new friends, because you need to surround yourself with people that will build you up, not bring you down.

Maybe you and some good friends or some of your family can go out for one day, maybe buy a new cute outfit, get your hair styled, treat yourself. Then go to the movies or go out to eat and be confident and SMILE. Meet new people and just be yourself!!

Confidence and a smile will make you all the more beautiful than you already are!

Good luck to you and God bless you!!! :)

Answer 5

First off hon you have to stop telling yourself you are ugly. That is negative talk. You have to look in the mirror and look for what you feel is something you like about yourself. Once you can begin to see that in yourself then you can continue to build on that. I think that you can't compare yourself to others (your friends) if we did so we would constantly have something we would want to change. We are all different and beautiful in our own ways we just have to learn to accept that and to walk in our own beauty. Also talk with someone like a parent, a counselor or a close friend, someone you can confide in. They can help you see the beautiful things about you that we sometimes forget. I say keep your head up and remember that we are all beautiful in a variety of different ways.

Answer 6

OMG! I know what it was like to be bullied and being called ugly. Trust me, in 7th grade, I went to this party and all the boys were like "you are hideous, you have braces and glasses and are just plain ugly don't even talk to us". And they started talking about hot girls and making fun of me. I've been there, and I've never felt more worthless in my life. But then, I met my best friend a year later and she helped me become pretty and have a better self-esteem. I work out every morning for 30 minutes (build up a good sweat) because it makes me feel better about myself (I don't do it to lose weight). However, working out improves deep sleep (the sleep that makes you look really pretty). I started feeling really good with the excersise, and I started going to bed earlier so that I would get more sleep (I go to bed at 9:00!!!! and I am 17 years old!!!!) I tottaly noticed the difference with sleeping. I started eating more fresh fruits and vegetables so that I wouldn't feel like crap and just led a healthier lifestyle. I lost my glasses and braces and went on Accutane for my hideous acne and started wearing self-tanner (don't sunbathe because then you will look old and feel like crap when you are older!!!) and wearing makeup: mascara, eyeliner, self-tanner, bronzer and blush and chapstick with spf30 for that I have plumped lips forever. Anyways, I know EXACTLY how you feel and the scars will go away I PROMISE! But what really helped was excersising more and sleeping...that helps a low self-esteem and never be tired because new research shows that when we are tired we not only look like ****, but our self-confidence goes down like crazy!
Anyways, try what I did...the healthier you are, the better you will look. If you still feel down because you still think you are ugly even after self-tanning (try l'oreal sublime bronze) and makeup...consider going to a phycitatrist (spelling is soo bad) or plastic surgery as a LAST RESORT ONLY!!!
GOOD LUCK!!! I know your pain!!!
Now, I would no longer wish I were somebody else and just feel good and positive all the time!!! Just excersise and sleep lots!!!

Answer 7

Well I'm ugly too so welcome aboard the ugly train! lol
But what made me "hot" in high school was my confidence and my not caring about my looks.

First of all, F.U.C.K. whatever anyone else says, thinks or feels about you because bottom line is YOU have to live with yourself on a daily basis.
Second of all, if you feel down because of your physical attractiveness, have you ever thought about eating healthy and maybe participating in sporting activities or working out to get into shape.

BOttom line is that you can't help how your face looks, so what do you do? You work on other aspects of your physical body. I'm not going to tell you to be happy with yourself, blah blah blah. Cause I was in ur situation and that stuff really doesn't do much. Knowing I was ugly, I started working out more and more so I built my physique, I always made sure that i was clean shaven, fresh haircut and ensure that I dressed and smelled good.
Despite doing my best, there was always haters who try to put me down but after awhile I knew its because they were jealous.

I tell it how it is.
So basically you feel ur ugly; improve ur hygiene, work out, play sports, dress nice but do it to make yourself feel better about yourself not to appease immature 15 year old boys who don't know what beauty is yet.

IF you need more advice, feel free to message me.

Answer 8

have you considering talking with a counsellor?
if you're asking (which you are) i'd recommend working on self-image and self-worth. they are tied together so closely. when you say that you know you're ugly, i worry for you. you sound like a wonderful, smart, 15 year old who obviously deserves better.
have you spoken with your parents about these thoughts and feelings? i'd recommend doing that first. remember you are not alone - alot of us felt this way in junior and high school. but it does get better, i swear!

Answer 9

u answered your own question with with the statement u r doing this for u!! U need to let yourself be yourself and IGNORE the BULLIES they like aggravating u cause u let them Ignore them or tell them they r wasting their time and breath u don't hear a word they say HOLD YOUR HEAD HIGH and stop worrying what other people think of u!!!

Answer 10

Take a look at yourself. Look for your positive features and
highlight them. A beautiful smile with well groomed hair
and natural makeup is quite impressive. E mail me your picture
and I will be glad to give you some tips.
I am on vacation so I have time and would love to help you
feel good about yourself.

Answer 11

Look around-- No one is perfect we all have a flaw

You must 1st like and feel good about YOURSELF-
People are Cruel..
IF.. you want to feel better about YOU
Try a new hair style..Color--
Clothes style..

Not Cool @ School?
TRY another place..
Go with Friends to a Bowling alley..
Church..Youth group..

Hope it works out for you!
Hope Something I said can help!