my daughter is 4 months now when should i stop putting her in the bed with us?

Question

i breast feed so when i get up in the middle of the night to feed her easier for me to just lay down and feed her and fall back asleep

Answer 1

Sometimes you have to do what's best instead of what's convenient.

I don't see any pro's to co-sleeping. It only sets you up for a harder time when they have to sleep in their own bed not to mention it's dangerous.

Get a pack & play or put her crib in your room. The longer you co-sleep, the harder it will be to stop in the future.

Answer 2

My daughter put her son in a bassinet in their bedroom the first 2 months and then moved him to his crib in the nursery. He sleeps better in the bed, anywhere from 6-8 hours before waking up to be fed. She sleeps better too. She does have a baby monitor so she can hear him, which I think is necessary. I really do think the sooner, the better for you and the baby. My son's two kids slept with them and they are now 2 and 31/2 and now they can't get them out of their bed. Get them used to their bed when they are small, it's a lot easier that way. You need your rest too, and you will be a better, more patient mother.

Answer 3

I would.. I breastfeed also, but I feed the baby and he goes back to the crib. I started doing this at 2 and a half months. He is 6 months now. Think of it this way do you want your baby in your bed iin 1 to 3 years from now? probably not. I would start now.

Answer 4

Ahhhh YESTERDAY!

It may be too late. I don't think she'll even go in her crib now. I breastfed too for the first 2 months and her room was right by ours, so I would hear her cry in her crib, I would get her, lay down in our bed and let her feed, when she was done, she would most likely be sleeping, then I would change her diaper (you don't want them to get a rash) and she would wake up cuz of that. But then I would rock her back to sleep and she would go right back in her crib. You just have to start putting her in her crib and deal w/the crying for about a week for her to get used to it.

Answer 5

This is not a good idea.Forms bad habits down the road.Much better to get up at feeding time,feed her and go back to bed.I made this mistake with my first child and certainly did not repeat with my other two.Doesn't take them long to like the idea of sleeping in your bed.

Answer 6

I would say as soon as possible will make it easier for you in the long run, because she may refuse to stay in her own bed when she's older. I understand your feelings, though. Perhaps you could put her crib in your room so she can be in the room with you for convenience but in her own bed. That way the transition won't be so difficult when her bed is moved back to her room.

Answer 7

I have never been a believer of children sleeping with their parents. Mainly because it causes sooooooo much grief for them come time to move them into their own bed/room (sometimes this happens as late as 9 years of age.......... not healthy I say). Anyway, Why don't you keep her in a bassinet next to your bed. She is probably small enough to do that for at least the next few months. Once she is used to the bassinet, have her start taking naps in her own room/crib. After a while of doing naps in her room, she will probably transfer easily into her crib at night. Put a chair/rocker in room for feedings.

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Answer 8

If she already sleeps through the night without waking up to eat, then you can already put her into her crib. Otherwise, any time at your convenience. Soon she will be old enough to understand everything, and she will want to change the rules, and if you don't want to continue to be keeping her in your bed, this is the right time to move her out.

Answer 9

We've never had any of our kids sleep with us at night. Sure the nap time is fun for everyone, excuse to sleep, but train the baby to sleep independently right away.

All 3 of my kids sleep so well at night. The youngest one, at 3 years old, puts himself into bed at night and during nap.

The biggest issue here is training yourself, not training the baby.

Answer 10

Sweetie, my youngest slept in his crib up until he was 2 years old. Now he just sleeps with us...We just bought a home where he has his own room and he only plays there. We tell him to go to bed and he runs to our room....I know that most people would judge me but he is the last one and they are only little once. ENJOY THEM.