My friends son is calling her names that i can not mention here (lewd filthy names) and she went to slap him. He blocked her and balled up his fist and hit her as hard as he could in the shoulder and ran. He is taller than her and lifts weights. She has a neck injury and has had surgery. She has been in severe pain since the incident. She is depressed and feels hopeless in intervening with him b/c his father has always taken up for him and spoiled him. What can she do? She does not feel safe in her own home.
2007-01-10 06:23:17 · 14 answers · asked by Deborah H 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
This is not me but it doesn't matter. Im a very worried friend. He also did not cause the neck injury, she was in a car accident, she is very fragile and anything like this could kill her or paralize her for life. I have tried to get her to call the cops but she is worried about him being in a place that will make him worse because of influences. I don't know what to tell her and that's why I came here. I guess all I can do is pray for her and hope the worst doesn't happen.
2007-01-10 14:21:23 · update #1
She should have called the police.
I smacked my son in the face for cussing me out and he called the police thinking they would arrest me, he was 19 years old.
The Cops came to my house and after talking with me.
I told them I smacked him to get his attention and to stop him not to hurt him, That I didn't care if he was 15 or 32 he was not going to act like that in my house, the Cops informed him that it was a prividge to be able to live at home and that I didn't have to allow him to live there, then they arrested him, on an outstanding warrant. He never made that mistake again. Once she takes the abuse he will continue. She needs to end it here and now, if he has to go to juvenile home then so be it.
2007-01-10 07:03:42 · answer #1 · answered by TaylorProud 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It needs to be handled NOW. Big strong boy or not, if this is allowed to continue, the results could prove to be fatal or even more serious. In the long run, this boy could grow into a husband that is a NIGHTMARE for his wife and children.
Until she reports this and gets help, the hopelessness and depression is only going to become worse. The father needs to STEP UP for the sake of the MOTHER of HIS child. She should enlist his help in the matter along with the authorities. This is a type of abuse that probably occurs more than we care to think about. Society shames mothers and fathers who report their own children.
2007-01-10 15:14:26 · answer #2 · answered by rottymom02 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ex cop here------------tell her to get a restraining order against her son and have him removed immediately--she needs to press assualt charges against him and make the charges stick, and she needs to do it now. It does NOT matter how big he his. She is the parent and in charge NOT HIM. If the husband interfers then he too could be held accountable for his sons' actions in the courts. Tell her it is important that she DOES NOT ALLOW the son to get away with this. If she does so now while he is 15 he has won the battle and will continue to walk all over her., and it will only get worse. The dad needs to have a BACK BONE AND TAKE THE MOMs SIDEand do something about the kid. It is obivious dad is afraid lil' johnny might get mad at him.
2007-01-10 17:46:22 · answer #3 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the mother should contact the local police and report the issue, if not it will get out of hand, he might kill the mother, put him in the detention home... 15years he is old enough to be locked up for some time..because at 15 he knows what is right and wrong... and another thing put a video camera in the house to show the police a good proof. I have never in my life say anything bad to hurt my mums feeling or hit her, she is my precious stone, with out mum I wont be here... mums are HERO
2007-01-10 15:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by lovelynfuller 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know the child is only 15 but she needs to contact the local police, even if it is just to scare him and make him understand that he did something wrong. Or she can seek some counselling, if he will go. Or go to the extreme and kick him out, let him go live with his father (l am assuming that they are separated, if they still do live together, she can just pack her stuff and move out). What kind of manners were taught to that boy? He needs to get some sense knocked into him, big time.
2007-01-10 14:32:32 · answer #5 · answered by amarilysusa 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She should go to see a therapist with her son to help facilitate a discussion on the reasons he feels this is an appropriate way to interact with his mother.
Your friend has to try her best to stay in control of this situation. She has already given into him making her powerless and that's not good. If he continues to behave this way she may have to take it a step further and call the police.
Granted, no one wants to send their child to jail, but no one should subject themself to being depressed either.
2007-01-10 15:29:50 · answer #6 · answered by WORLD FAMOUS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone said it above. Notify the police. It seems like its a long time after the fact. Are there any pictures? I know she must have doctors bills. Its unsafe to have that kind of violence in the home. Think of what he'll do to others (especially a spouse/girlfriend) in the future.
2007-01-10 15:15:45 · answer #7 · answered by countrygurl587 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Whip him with the buckle side of a belt.
2. Take him to juvenile prison.
3. Lock him in the bathroom for a day or two.
4. Tell her she's the mom and SHE'S IN CONTROL!!!!
Follow my advice,
Dr. Sheila Slander, Phd
2007-01-10 19:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by LuLuGirL<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact the police. I think this mother is you...so maybe yuo should talk to the father. Your son shouldn't be acting like this. That is unacceptable behavior. You really need to call the police, and get him a little man-to-man talk with one.
2007-01-10 17:42:03 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should call local authorities, he won't cooperate with anything else. You should definitely not put up with your son's abuse, and if he continues to abuse you, kick him out of the house. Him living with you is a privilege that he can easily be stripped of, and he should know that.
2007-01-10 16:49:50 · answer #10 · answered by Random G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋