Does your husband help with the kids and chores?

Question

The reason why I am asking is because Mine does, he does a lot actually, he shares equally in the cooking, cleaning, and raising of our boys. And my mother in law cant stand it.. she thinks that he should kick back and do nothing, because he works all day.. but I am a stay at home mom, and I consider that working all day too.. I mean I have the best job ever, but its still work. I want to know how many of your husbands share equally with the chores, and kids? and if you are a husband, do you? I think its good that my husband helps out, and I think its important for the kids to have such involvment from their father, plus they are both boys, so hopefully they will be the same when they are older and have kids.

I should add that my husband loves to help out.. he loves to be involved with the kids.

By the way guys, I don't ask or force him to do anything, he just does it cause he likes to. And I do very much appreciate everything. I think my mother in law is jealous because her husband did and still does nothing.

Answer 1

I have a hubby that does all of that for me too and we both work 40 hrs a week. We meet in the middle take turns doing different thing around the house each week. My husband and I met right as his ex g/f was telling him she had an abortion with his child. We have been together for 7 years and married for 2 1/2 and have a baby girl and he wouldn't have it any other way but to be at her beck and call. Muha! Oh, and your mom is a crazy lady. It isn't 1950 anymore.

Answer 2

Wow, you are sooo lucky! I'm almost jelous. My hubby works hard, and I love him for it. I work hard too as a stay at home mom (only those of us who do this well understand what a demanding job it is - but I LOVE what I do). My husband does nothing to help with kids and chores. My husband has never diapered or bathed my 9 month old. He actually fed her half a bottle once. Get this - I had an appointment and my 14 year old daughter was home babysitting my 9 month old. My hubby came home and "felt ill" and had HER cook him his dinner, bring it downstairs to him (so he could watch TV), and take care of a tired fussy baby. Later when he "was feeling better," he went for a ride on his Harley! The chair downstairs is where he expects his dinners every night. Chores??? Don't make me laugh!!!
I think it is reasonable for a woman who stays at home to keep the house up and tend to the children. I also think it is reasonable for the man to help with kids when he's home and pick up after himself and be responsible for certain areas such as the yard and garage.
Let it be known to your mother-in-law that you and your husband are a family unit who are happy and are doing what works for your family and her advice is not wanted or appreciated. Then give her a big thanks for raising such a wonderful boy who turned into the best husband and father a woman could ask for.

Answer 3

I am a stay-at-home-mom as well, of a beautiful 4-month-old boy, and wife to a wonderful man who works 40 hours a week.
I do all the housework, except for the occasional time he will dry the dishes while I wash them, or take out the trash (Which I really appreciate when he does).

A part of me feels that because he commutes an hour each way every day, and provides for our family, it makes sense that I should carry most of the load with housework--but there's still a part of me that feels that he could still be a little more helpful around the house--and it's not like, as a stay-at-home-mom, I do absolutely nothing all day--although I do, obviously, take breaks while baby is napping to check Yahoo Answers! ; )

Anyways, it works, I don't resent him at all, but I would definitely appreciate it if he would help out a little more.

Answer 4

in case you have not performed this already, i could start up with the aid of having a kinfolk assembly. Designate chores that the 7 365 days previous can do for their age. clarify how annoying this is to be at homestead with a baby. For the 7 365 days previous, you have a rewards chart to maintain her or him going (habit substitute) - a superstar for each chore accomplished, this manner of super form of stars = a prize. so a approaches as your husband - ask for his help. tension the magnitude. If he does not get it, quit doing each thing (in simple terms do your laundry and the youngster's laundry), do not wash his dishes, etc. See if he "wakes up" that way. Or supply him a bill for all which you do for him.

Answer 5

Hats off to you. Mom in law cant stand that you are to her someway replaceing her job and thats her baby boy always it sounds an well I bet he could do know wrong. "You women huh I could hear it she says something like why do you date these controlling attention whining my way no way crazy in the head women that just sit on there azzz an dont want to work.....LMAO ,
Wow I would love a break getting to just WORK.....PLZZZZZ....no man could ever pull all we have and bless your husbands appreciation and love for his family to acknowledge that w / his wife and family.......sorry mommy time to cut the umbillical cord now and graduate from nipple to bottle to a IM A BIG BOY NOW SIPPIE CUP......everyone has there views and beliefs though and do respect her feeling try not to feel the need to prove urself though and argue differences....

you cant change no one nor how they feel or see things in life if there stuck in that era or generation sometimes and well my 41yr old pathetic basically LOSER but hey girls he looks like the ROCK as he says and is a charmer can really mess your heart and confuse ur head w/ much

only wish this guy did not scar my memoirs of my last baby and well NO MAN WILL LIVE RENT FREE NO MORE IN MY HEAD AND SEEM TO PLAY PERSAY NOT JUST POKER EITHER I FEEL AND WELL U GO ROCK .....AS A HOLDEM

POKER PLAYER SAYS CALL THE ALLIN.....YEAH ROCK LOOK LIKE ....UH HUH NEED I SAY MORE
ROCK .....GO SEE SCOTTY SOME MORE WISH U WELL ....KINDA.

OK SORRY PLEASE APPRECIATE THE FEELING OF HONESTY OR EVEN SOMEONE WHO IS REAL.

you are a lucky lady as well as the children. I could be happy in a b0x as long as u dont decieve or lie to me and well seems hard to find lately
good luck to ur happiness and future life together. HOLD on strong...

Answer 6

Your mother in law is crazy--she sounds just like my EX mother in law, who thought that women should be subservient and that men should be allowed to cheat. And what should the wives do? Whatever makes the man happy. What a load of crap.

My current husband helps out more than equally around the house--just like his mother raised him to do. He doesn't cook very often (thank god!) but I love to cook. He cleans more than I do because I hate chores. lol. The point is this is a TEAM effort. I feel sorry for you because of your mother in law. I hope she doesn't visit often.

Answer 7

Your MIL has the right to her point of view. Luckily, she has very little say in how things are done in YOUR household. It is between you and your husband, and it sounds like you have it worked out!

My husband actually does most things when it comes to our marriage, I kinda feel guilty sometimes for simply "coasting along" because I only do easy stuff, like cooking, dishes, laundry and grocery shopping. He pretty much manages the household, which includes fixing things, doing plumbing and electrical work, managing home improvement projects, maintaining computers and electronics, managing finances and bills, all of this while running his own business. I work too, but it's a fun job and not very demanding. AND we have a maid who comes in 2x/month, so I REALLY have it easy.

Answer 8

Congrats on the excellent hubby. It sets an awesome example for children, because they don't SEE Dad at work all day--all they see is who he is when he comes home. It's important that he's actively involved.

Regrettably, my hubby's a military man, and, at this point in his career, cannot come home at nights. I see him during the day, on base only, and he takes an active role in taking care of our 10 month old son. He voluntarily changes diapers, makes bottles, and plays with him. I think it's wonderful.

When he is at home, he always does the "manlier" chores. Taking out the trash, etc. However, when nobody's looking, he'll pitch in with the laundry and dishes (usually as a surprise).

Helpful hubbies are awesome, aren't they? I couldn't live without mine.

Answer 9

I am a stay at home mom also and when he gets home he always help me out. He takes over the boys I have 2 also an I start dinner, but then he always helps and helps clean up. So we are in the same boat. It is great!!

Answer 10

I am the husband myself and I am same thing in his shoes. I do alot with kids, cleaning house, cooking, pay bills, etc. but If my mother in law have plm with me that her plm not my. and My wife tells her that he doing great that why I married him. and her father in law first time in 9 years came to me and said you know what?? I said "What?" you are a good man! I said thanks and then I asked why now ??? He said that I not a very good father like you. You do alot of things That I wish I could done alot different... with my daughter.... wow, my mother sure don't know how to do what best for me but ummm, other than that i really hope my son will do the same thing but i hope he enjoy it not just force him and made him hate it more.......