My husband is a workoholic and I am feeling... left out. What should I do??
2007-01-10 06:18:03 · 15 answers · asked by Robin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Most of you assume I am not working. I work so alot of this advice is n/a. We also have 2 kids so going out or anything like that is also nill. I don't deny that he is busy but my question is how in HE!! do I get his attention.. how does one remind a spouse what is important? My fear is the kids and I will just get to the point where we don't care if he isn't around. :o(
2007-01-10 08:36:54 · update #1
have an affair with me
2007-01-10 06:43:46 · answer #1 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get hobbies and friends. Have fun. He'll eventually realize what he's missing out on! (Hopefully.)
Talk to him, and set some time aside for the "couple time" - go out to a restaurant, see a movie, or make a meal at home.
Try to develop common interests and hobbies. What might he like besides work? Maybe camping, hiking, pets? Something that would not just occupy time, but also occupy his mind and compete with his preoccupation with work. Are there any local clubs or organizations you could join? Maybe get a gym membership together? Go off-roading? Take on medieval re-enactment?
2007-01-10 14:25:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advise it to try to get up before he does, take a quick shower, dress casual but nice, put a little of make up, make breakfast for him, even beagles or toast and coffee if he doesn't like a big breakfast, then wish him a good day and don't forget to give him nice long kiss, it may surprise him at first but you need to keep doing it. Then when he get home make sure that you still look good, nice make up and don't forget to keep everything organize, I don't know if you work or not, but try to always keep a nice clean home, man really like this. I don't know if you have kids or not but if you do here is what you need to do:
When he comes home try not to overwhelm him with complains about the kids or home problems; they need a place to relax, a loving wife who is ready to make him feel that home is the best place to be.
Go to Victoria Secret and get very sexy night gown, then get your self a nice perfume, nice make up and just wait for him in your bedroom reading a book, that will get his attention.
After a while, when he's relax then talk about what you really need to tell him ( house and kids issues), he will be ready and WILL listen to you.
This will make him understand that there is NO other better place than home. Do this and if it doesn't work please let me know, because then I will be worry.
You need to be persistent though, try to make it a habit and I promise you he will be home on time for dinner, and you will have him home much earlier.
Good Luck!
: o )
2007-01-10 15:36:05 · answer #3 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job..or hobby. Go to the gym or take classes to improve yourself. Join a bowling team, a card club or make weekly visits to a senior citizen home and donate your time. Become a Big-Sister. Walk a dog. Become a friend to the underprivileged. And if all else fails...go see your family more often.
2007-01-10 14:25:03 · answer #4 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most husbands are too busy, and they just come home to eat and sleep, you should get used to the idea, he cannot change that, men are all workaholics.
Just try to fill your time, find a job, of you can even continue your studies, learn something interesting that might keep you busy, or simply have a baby!!!!!!
2007-01-10 15:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My partner is a Doctor and is almost never home.
I paint, read, clean and on occasion go out, get really drunk and raise complete and utter hell, scaring the poor locals (We live in a small town in Up State NY, I hate it here.)
But the good part is, if he supports you at least you (and I) do not have to get up real early and earn our keep at some horrible job we don't like. Oh, yeah, I also shop A LOT.
Good Luck, have fun.
2007-01-10 14:25:41 · answer #6 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it...let him know that you are important too. If he loves you he will make more time for you. Sometimes workaholics arent just "working". You know the term working late? I am not trying to scare you its just its becoming more and more of a problem these days. Just talk to the man!!
2007-01-10 14:23:34 · answer #7 · answered by Shayla L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out one night with friends. When he finally gets home from work and calls to see where you are tell him "doesn't it suck when other things are more important." And hang up.
2007-01-10 14:22:58 · answer #8 · answered by Floss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him.
Make an appointment with him if necessary.
But talk to him now before it gets worse.
plan a weekend together with just the two of you.
No work.
And make a regular date night for the two of you.
2007-01-10 14:22:34 · answer #9 · answered by southernbell_1313 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him how this is affecting you and the marriage.
He can be a workaholic but not if it means sacrificing his marriage.
He has to compromise.
2007-01-10 14:22:56 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the matter into your own hands.
2007-01-10 14:23:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋