My current IT-Position of almost 6-years now is not so sure anymore because of outsourcing in my department. Its pretty certain that by the end of year, I may be un-employed. So, I decided to continue my education in the field I love the most, the "Law" I'm 25-years old, married w/2 kids and have been working at this well paying job that I HATE so much only because I liked having my own independence and it paid the bills. Trying to juggle several responsibilities and go back to school is not easy but I do the best I can & sometimes ask my husband & my boss for help or certain accommodations in-order to maintain my responsibilities as well as do what I can in order to continue school. And all I get from them is reminders of what my primary concerns should be....work, kids, taking care of the house, tending to my husbands needs, not to mention I take my grandma to dialysis 3-times a week during my lunch hour and breaks, I pick her up & drop her off. All this negativity is killing me!!..
2007-01-10 06:06:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
what a role model YOU are! There ARE other women like you out there.. the heros that aren't stopped or held back by some ancient cultural standard where barefoot and pregnant is worth more than independence, efficiency, skill, contribution to society and fullfillment where a woman is concerned.
You impress me very much. You are smart, determined, responsible and an achiever.
The negativity is cruel and demeaning and the people that subject you to this are scared of you and prefer to keep you down and under control. Not only that but they are afraid of more responsibility being placed on them.. Heaven forbid they would need to do half of what you do.
Fly your own flag and achieve your own goals. Your kids will be fine because you plan to look after them, along with grandma.
Be your own person. Stay strong and hope that while you are busy achieving, the people around you can begin to see your value for YOUR sake instead of theirs.
Hang in there and good luck!
2007-01-10 06:21:47 · answer #1 · answered by fjäril 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may have to get another job and perhaps go to school part time until you get your degree, If the nay Sayers are on you case only it is an inconvenience to the to have you going to school then tell them you are doing your best to accommodate their needs and attain yours so the compromise is in order and it will not be you that is always on the down side. I admire you plans and wish you all the very best, you have chosen a very difficult path, but it is right for you, because you have made it so. And a lot of others are just sitting there waiting for you to wait on them Boo Hiss
2007-01-10 06:25:24 · answer #2 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I Know I'm a guy, But Who does your husband think he is. Any True Husband, when they see their wife in trouble or needs help would not wait for his wife to ask but ask his wife first. It is Hard, But remember the ends will justify your decision. I can understand your Boss being negative, but put your foot down and remind your husband of the duties he is supposed to do. Also Take your time in Law School, as much as you might want to rush though it, Remember that Bar exam is one tough S.O.B. When you take your time, things will be easier to juggle. Good Luck To You
2007-01-10 06:14:37 · answer #3 · answered by Lrd 666 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband is the same way girl. I start school on Friday-January 12Th and all i get from him is to get a "real job" as I only work Part-time at the local school. I am trying to become an Educational Assistant. All my friends say that he needs to get a smack down as I am raising my 2 kids and taking care of the housework, making dinners, doing laundry, etc, etc, etc....
GO TO SCHOOL...you will resent him even more if you don't.
I admire your resolve. GO GIRL GO, and DON'T LOOK BACK!!!
2007-01-10 06:23:22 · answer #4 · answered by Meesh 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, your husband should be more supportive than your boss...Explain to him the benefit of you finishing your education in something like law wich would mean more security for your whole family. Your situation is not unusual...just stick to your guns and go for it!
2007-01-10 06:15:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, it sounds like you are doing a lot. It's important for you to stay motivated, and it sounds like you should rely on yourself for that. Talk to the people in your life that mean the most to you and explain to them that their negative attitudes aren't helping you. Good luck with everything you are doing in life and I hope everything turns out well for you!
2007-01-10 06:11:11 · answer #6 · answered by shallybles 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
never is a bad idea I am 36 and going to school to me is hobby so keep it up
2007-01-10 10:11:59 · answer #7 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just make sure you have your husband's dinner on the table and hot when he walks through that front door.
More sex is an essential as well.
2007-01-10 06:15:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
it is good
2007-01-10 06:19:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋