ok here it goes, i liked this one guy, alot. we did it. once. we never talked about it, and it never happened?

Question

again, but we hung out alot and spent much time together just haging out, then a couple times we would sleep in the same bes, and both left each other untouched, were with both waiting for the other to make the first move, i wanted to, but respected him, for saying he just wanted to be friends, did he want to be more than friends after awhile?he just wanted to be friends after a while he said he just couldn't take it anymore and i was to hard to be friends with . i don't get it what? or is whatever. i think of him alot and miss the times spent and his company as well as our friendship

Answer 1

I just can't understand why you 2 didn't just talk about it.

You did it once and it was so bad you both never wanted to again?

The problem is all in the one sentence " We never talked about it"

That was your mistake.

Answer 2

Sounds to me like the good old 'friendship killer' got in there......lust.

I'll start by saying that it doesn't sound to me like this relationship or the people in it are very mature. Because of this, the sexual encounter you have had has obviously made him feel very uncomfortable and he feels like he cannot be friends. This could be because he is confused about his feelings or simply that you're pushing for more when he doesn't want it.

You could always contact him and ask him to talk it through to see how he is feeling, but I would say the damage has been done. The best thing you can do is chalk it up as experience and move on.

Answer 3

Sounds to me like you crossed that thin line that Friends should not cross. My opinion is he wanted sex but felt uncomfortable after the two of you did it. I don't know if you will ever be able to have a friendship with this person again, but I wish you luck.