me and my husband are going to our first marriage counsling appt soon and i'm wondering what to expect? like what kind of questions will they ask and want to know. we've only been seperated for lil over a month. so i'm hoping there is hope. thanx in advance for your respnoses!
2007-01-10 05:51:32 · 10 answers · asked by rednckgrl202004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just go with an open mind. The therapist will help you decide if your marriage is worth saving. In my first marriage, my therapist made it clear that some of our problems might never be solved. It was a case of irreconcilable differences. Once I realized that things probably wouldn't get better I was able to move on. Painful, yes, but it helped me understand the problem fully. Good luck.
2007-01-10 05:59:13 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disaggree with Chessy.
You'll get out of it, what you put into it. Same for your husband. If you just show up, sit, listen and expect things to happen, you're wasting eveyone's time.
The counselor will most likely ask a lot of questions to begin with. This is to create a history and what brought you there in the first place.
From there, depending on how you two contribute together or not, you may be split up in separate sessions. One of you may have special problems or issues to deal with before you can work out as a couple.
2007-01-10 06:00:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the counselor will ask a few questions but basically they want for the couple to do most of the talking while they listen and make suggestions. Both you and your mate will have to be open minded when there as things may be said that may surprise you. And please make sure to leave what is said there and not bring it home with you, unless it is a good suggestion to repair things. Best of luck and it does really help a lot of couples.
2007-01-10 05:58:22 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When the councelor asks you questions about the problems and issues be open and honest, if your honest they can help you. Also, if you say something that your partner finds upsetting, don't get into a shouting match, same if it's the other way, if your partner says soemthing that upsets you.
I commend you both for wanting to try and work things out in your marriage. It's possible and it works, my wife and I are proof of it.
Take care and God Bless
2007-01-10 05:59:58 · answer #4 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure the couselor has certain questions to ask - Be honest this is a time for you to work out your problems and hopefully shed some light on issues to be resolved
Good Luck
2007-01-10 06:12:51 · answer #5 · answered by Confussedhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the old saying goes: "you get what you put in."
I don't really know what they will ask, but you need to be up front and honest- with yourself, if for no one else.
Good luck-
2007-01-10 06:09:38 · answer #6 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Expect to pay a lot per session for answers you already have
2007-01-10 06:02:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As for confessions, you'll get a lot more out of it if everyone is honest.
2007-01-10 05:55:59 · answer #8 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just advice- you're not going to confess anything to anyone jsut listen to what the counselor has to say.
2007-01-10 05:54:40 · answer #9 · answered by Cheesy Stuff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nothing !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-10 06:01:30 · answer #10 · answered by blueflowerscs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋